Im upset.

I really know i shouldnt feel this way. Its a very unhealthy attitude towards food, but my dad ate the pizza that i had made for myself, i ate some earlier, and wanted to eat the rest, but that selfish lazy swine ate my food. I cant believe it. I wanted that pizza so bad, i was looking forward to it. Now im so upset. Not just that, he also said some mean things about me and my mom.

He ate my dinner. Im so upset, first he offends and insults me, then he eats my dinner.

wtf. Im so upset :(

Just venting.

Its just food, why do i feel so upset? Maybe im mostly upset about what he was saying, but eating my food just topped it all off. I was planning on eating some of that good pizza and eating some chocolate and ice cream afterwards, now i dont even want any of that stuff. :(

At least thats kind of a good thing?...

Injury added to insult.

"Blah blah blah, now let me eat your food."

Try to make your own pizza with your own ingredients. And don't let him have any.  :]

i think it could be part of the proccess of calorie counting...
when i was eating 1500 cals a day, all i thought about was food, and all my meals had to be perfect, and perfectly portioned, so if anyone touched my food or altered it, i would really freak out...from what I've read, your brain realizes you're starving your body and goes into survival mode, AKA worried about your next meal ALL the time.

I'm not sure how many calories you're eating, but I know that when I'm really restrictive with mine I get SUPER controlling and little things can make me freak out.

Either way, the way your dad is acting towards you is not cool at all, and you have every right to be angry, in my opinion.

It's not necessarily anything to do with either the food itself or counting calories.  One time someone stole my plain turkey sandwich out of a work fridge and I was really upset as I was looking forward to it and it wasn't anything so special and I wasn't counting calories.  I just wanted my sandwich that I'd made just the way I like it.

I would be upset, well more like pissed, if someone ate my food without asking first.

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Man, sometimes friends will come over and eat food I've prepared for myself. It drives me insane! I love cooking for people, and I do it all the time. My issue is that I'm a little OCD with food that I make for myself, and I generally plan out what I'm going to eat/portion sizes/etc. When someone eats half my meals for the week, it kind of irritates me. My boyfriend used to do the same thing, but with him it was far worse, since I used to make him his own food. I would make low calorie meals for myself, and then whatever he wanted for him. He would still end up eating my food. Just walking up to the fridge, grabbing the first thing that looked good, and scarfing it. I don't think he even thought about it. He ended up dropping 10 lbs because he was replacing a meal or so a day with my food. The idiotic thing is that he went from 6'2" + 175 to 6'2" + 165, so it's not like he needed to lose weight.

/end_rant

Anyway, the situation with your dad really sucks. Is it typical for him to speak to you that way? Sounds like terrible behavior, esp for an adult conversing with his child. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.

I don't know whether its unhealthy or not, but that kind of stuff really gets to me too. And my dad does the same thing - sometimes just eats stuff that I have made especially for me, and moans that im being selfish if I dont let him have some (if he does ask).

I think its so annoying cause I make something I like, the way I like it, and I think to myself 'hey cause im counting calories, even though this tastes really good, I'll save some for later. I can enjoy it then'. And then if someone else eats it, its like the thing you were looking forward to and bothered to make just gets taken. Its almost like a little punishment for being good and self-controlled.

So don't worry too much, you aren't alone in that :) Its ok to be upset, especially after your dad upsetting you first.

Did he break into your house and steal your food, or was he visiting at the time?   I think that really might make a difference if you want to charge him with theft or something.

Yeah I get upset when people touch my food too but not my dad haha or my family in general. I just make more or go out and buy more. I actually stock up on things my family likes so they wouldn't touch my stuff (Like for my dad I would buy him coffee ice cream, coffee milk etc...)

I don't like when people touch my food since I've proportioned it out. However nowadays, I like sharing my food since it cuts down my calorie intake.

Except my fiber one cereal... URR. I take it in snack pouches sometimes to eat it as a snack and is iffy about sharing it because... uh it makes you go alot faster hahaahaha. And I'm not sure if I want to share that info to the person....;;

Original Post by qaowk:

Did he break into your house and steal your food, or was he visiting at the time?   I think that really might make a difference if you want to charge him with theft or something.

I think you read the post wrong. He's not looking to press criminal charges, he's just pissed. There's a big difference. This is his dad he's talking about, not some random thief. 

And to the OP: I'd be pissed too. I hate it when people eat my food - especially if there was only one serving left and I had made it myself!!!

I want to punch your dad.  Saying bad stuff about his wife and child and then just grabbing whatever he wants as if to show he's dominate.  Do you have this problem often?  (with him saying mean things?)  If this is a pattern I'd try to stay away from you dad b/c you don't need that crap.  If he was just in a bad mood and it was a 1x thing I'd try to forgive him for being a jerk. 

Parents are s'pose to provide and nurish both emotionally and physically, so I think him being mean (taking away from you emotionally) then eating your pizza (taking away from you physically) was just a double combo of shame-on-the-jerk.  But try not to let it bother you.  I'm sorry he said whatever he said to hurt your feelings :(

Original Post by jcl76:

Original Post by qaowk:

Did he break into your house and steal your food, or was he visiting at the time?   I think that really might make a difference if you want to charge him with theft or something.

I think you read the post wrong. He's not looking to press criminal charges, he's just pissed. There's a big difference. This is his dad he's talking about, not some random thief. 

And to the OP: I'd be pissed too. I hate it when people eat my food - especially if there was only one serving left and I had made it myself!!!

Not to nitpick, or anything - But I suspect the OP is a she

Original Post by asphyxiac:

Man, sometimes friends will come over and eat food I've prepared for myself. It drives me insane! I love cooking for people, and I do it all the time. My issue is that I'm a little OCD with food that I make for myself, and I generally plan out what I'm going to eat/portion sizes/etc. When someone eats half my meals for the week, it kind of irritates me. My boyfriend used to do the same thing, but with him it was far worse, since I used to make him his own food. I would make low calorie meals for myself, and then whatever he wanted for him. He would still end up eating my food. Just walking up to the fridge, grabbing the first thing that looked good, and scarfing it. I don't think he even thought about it. He ended up dropping 10 lbs because he was replacing a meal or so a day with my food. The idiotic thing is that he went from 6'2" + 175 to 6'2" + 165, so it's not like he needed to lose weight.

 

/end_rant

 

Anyway, the situation with your dad really sucks. Is it typical for him to speak to you that way? Sounds like terrible behavior, esp for an adult conversing with his child. I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.

 Yeah he's often saying mean things. When i was younger he would call me fat all the time. Now that he's gained weight himself he's started about money, he thinks all my mom and i want is his money, which isnt true, of course i require some things, he's supporting me, a minor. He just doesnt feel like he should have responsibility for me and says im costing him money, even though im very low maintainence and never ask for anything except for fresh fruit and some healthy food and general things.

Original Post by amber_poole:

I want to punch your dad.  Saying bad stuff about his wife and child and then just grabbing whatever he wants as if to show he's dominate.  Do you have this problem often?  (with him saying mean things?)  If this is a pattern I'd try to stay away from you dad b/c you don't need that crap.  If he was just in a bad mood and it was a 1x thing I'd try to forgive him for being a jerk. 

Parents are s'pose to provide and nurish both emotionally and physically, so I think him being mean (taking away from you emotionally) then eating your pizza (taking away from you physically) was just a double combo of shame-on-the-jerk.  But try not to let it bother you.  I'm sorry he said whatever he said to hurt your feelings :(

 Yeah, they're divorced and he cant stand her. So to him, its freegame to say whatever he wants, involve me in their financial problems so he can have someone to bitch at, because he has problems paying childsupport, and has for the past 5 years.

He's kind of messed up in the head and doesnt have his priorities straight, so he puts everything in front of me and when i need something he feels like its a burden, i know he feels like this because he makes it VERY clear....as you might have suspected already. Theres no point in trying to talk to him, because he cant see anything from anyone elses point of view but his own, and he's always right. everyone owes him something and he's always the victim. its ridiculous.

Original Post by jcl76:

Original Post by qaowk:

Did he break into your house and steal your food, or was he visiting at the time?   I think that really might make a difference if you want to charge him with theft or something.

I think you read the post wrong. He's not looking to press criminal charges, he's just pissed. There's a big difference. This is his dad he's talking about, not some random thief. 

And to the OP: I'd be pissed too. I hate it when people eat my food - especially if there was only one serving left and I had made it myself!!!

 Oh, thanks, yes I did read the OP wrong, plus made incorrect  assumptions about what i did read.

Sorry healthisinplease.  I hope you're feeling better now, and can just hang in there for as long as it takes.  Sometimes family relationships can be the pits.

Maybe I'll just keep my big fat mouth shut. lol