Jealousy from friends, co-workers because I'm losing weight!

How do you deal with this? I have went from a size 14 to a size 8 & I want to keep losing weight.

I've been so shocked by comments & lack of comments from my so-called "friends" & co-workers.

I have friends who I thought would be happy for me. Michelle, lost her pregnancy weight fairly quickly. I was quite heavy then, & I would praise her incessantly & tell her how good she looked.She has a fast metabolism & she's obsessive compulsive & ADHD.  Now I've lost 26 lbs. & I have worked very hard at it. I have a slow metabolism. She has not given me ONE positive comment! It's behind my back, like how did I do it? & she can tell I've had a boob job or liposuction. All of that is crap! I haven't had either! I've just been self disciplined & worked very hard at it!

Then, at work, some woman who normally snubs me, says am I on a diet? I look too skinny!

Then, the men at work who never gave me the time of day before, are asking me out! I'm not interested in any of them because they are so visual & shallow & I'm the same person as before, just 26 lbs. lighter. If they didn't like me as I was before, but do now, I don't want anything to do with them!

How do you deal with this?

You work with ***holes? What can you do about it? Its not like your going to stop them from acting like they are in high school...And they clearly dont use any logic-unless youve been away from an extended period of time, how could you have had a boob job and lipo? They are clearly ignorant-Im sorry you have to put up with them.

Can't comment on your office issues but I had a funny experience. I have followed CC for many months...cut back on calories.....eat healthier food....on a walking program. So...I'm at the in-laws playing poker one night and they talk about my weight loss and they ask what I'm doing. I tell them I'm eating many salads instead of burgers and pizza which they thought was hysterical. Then I pointed out I drink a lot of water(3-4 liters a day) for hydration and to keep full. With a big glass of water in front of me. So--The nurse in the family said I could harm myself with too much water and could be drinkong too much water. This while she and the rest of the family has martini's in front of them woofing down cheese cake after 3rds on pizza!!

I find that people always find fault in big weight loss or warn you about the dangers instead of noting the achievement. By the way...I only went from 235 to 215 which apparently was way to dramatic for them. When I point out that at this time I'm still 15 lbs heavier than when I got married it puts it all in perspective.

I had the same problem at my work place and it affected me very much. I could tell  you from you experience that you have to ignore those ****. my coworkers kept putting me down and telling me that my face looks sick and I need to stop losing weight. It had a huge negative impact on my weight loss and I regret that I did listen to them because I can't go back on track now. 

JUST ignore.. be firm with them. it is your life and your body and you should fight for it. Best of luck. 

That's because you are hotter. yay. ignore and move on :)

Use it as motivation.  They are jealous of you!  You have achieved something they only wish they could.  Be proud of yourself.

One of my roommates used to be the same size as me (both at our bests).  Now she is almost 30 pounds heavier than me and thinks that those weight loss vitamins and running once a week will make up for all the greasy pizza and fast food she eats.  I know it's really immature of me, but I love walking around the house in my leggings or a sports bra and showing off my shrinking butt or slim belly.  I've been working hard to get where I want to be, and I want to show it off!  

Flirt right back with the shallow guys.  Even if you're not interested, it could be fun.  Even if they are shallow, it just proves what a difference you have made in your life and how great you look now.  Turn the negativity around, look at the positive side, and don't let their envy affect your success.  :)

I have little constructive to say about your situation since its pretty clear there is nothing you can do about your co-workers being bitter and gossipy. however major congratulations to you, 14 to 8 is really awesome!

Wow! Thank you for your quick responses! You wouldn't believe how you have helped & supported me. I have not had much support from many around me & I haven't lost any weight in 1 week. Usually I lose 1 to 2 lbs. a week. Thank you so much for the encouragement!

I realize how weight loss is also psychological. Now that I can wear smaller clothes, I guess it shows even more. I don't like to be in the limelight, so part of me thinks I should just wear baggy clothes at work,  keep quiet about it & only wear clothes that are more form fitting at home & when I go out. I know that sounds funny, but I hate answering questions with people I don't know well (at work) & I don't like talking about it. Weight loss has been a personal thing for me. It has been a long & frustrating process, as weight gain for me is not only due to inactivity, but also my emotions as I'm an emotional eater. What compounds it for me is that I was always slim & in shape & the weight gain totally beat up my self esteem. I did not like my body image & was embarrassed about my body.

When people who grow up with you, like your family & high school friends & they see you after you have gained weight, it's so humiliating. I also feel like I have let them down, when they have always looked up to me. I use to model & I almost wish I never did. I hate hearing how "she really let herself go". It makes it worse, as you already feel bad enough already, & then to have your family make comments...

I still have 30 lbs. to go. I also need to get back into exercising. Those are still goals for me. Argh! Remember when you were a kid & exercising was fun & just part of your every day life? Now it's such a chore!

Any suggestions to make exercising more inviting?

I actually can relate completely to this...when I got serious about getting fit and being healthier...I dropped weight fairly fast...at first I was like you look great and keep it up...

V/R

Dave

Still dealing with the challenge of the weight loss. I'm at 154 lbs. & trying to get down to 120 lbs.

Have realized that some of my "friends" aren't really my friends. A few of them are not complimentary about my weight loss. One of them even told me that she "hadn't noticed that I lost weight". I lost 20 lbs., how could she not notice?! Ironically, she had lost a bunch of weight a couple years prior. I was totally happy for her & complimentary in her efforts. She did hers all through exercise. Now the shoe is on the other foot, & I've lost weight! I realized that she's competitive & jealous, I guess. Whatever!

Any suggestions, on how to go below my plateau that I'm experiencing right now?

About the guy situation:

If you'd been in good shape the entirety of your life, would you ask out the overweight but nice guy from the office if you knew you could go out with people who had both an awesome personality and body? Everyone's superficial deep down.

Original Post by shihtzu4:

How do you deal with this? I have went from a size 14 to a size 8 & I want to keep losing weight.

I've been so shocked by comments & lack of comments from my so-called "friends" & co-workers.

I have friends who I thought would be happy for me. Michelle, lost her pregnancy weight fairly quickly. I was quite heavy then, & I would praise her incessantly & tell her how good she looked.She has a fast metabolism & she's obsessive compulsive & ADHD.  Now I've lost 26 lbs. & I have worked very hard at it. I have a slow metabolism. She has not given me ONE positive comment! It's behind my back, like how did I do it? & she can tell I've had a boob job or liposuction. All of that is crap! I haven't had either! I've just been self disciplined & worked very hard at it!

Then, at work, some woman who normally snubs me, says am I on a diet? I look too skinny!

Then, the men at work who never gave me the time of day before, are asking me out! I'm not interested in any of them because they are so visual & shallow & I'm the same person as before, just 26 lbs. lighter. If they didn't like me as I was before, but do now, I don't want anything to do with them!

How do you deal with this?

i had reactions too. like "now she will be a competition to us" said bluntly to me(!!!). i just shrug these off