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Original Post by jules817:

um...ok, am i the only one here who thinks her telling her BF what happened is the worst idea EVER? yeah, it might alleviate her guilt, but at what cost to the  bf? it's not as if she had sex with, or even kissed this other guy, so she isn't putting her boyfriend at risk at all. 

I think that being honest is the reason why my marriage/relationship with my husband works.  If I felt like having a crush or any thoughts that weren't on the straight and narrow were wrong (and I know the OP did more than think here) I would probably be more likely to do something about it, but since I have a confidant for all the crazy things I think AND do, it doesn't make them so bad....I'm not really sure how to explain it....but we're super honest and it works out better that way.

When we met, I was 19 and my husband was 25.  So I don't think the age difference is a big deal, as long as everyone's aware of what's going on (my first boyfriend was 33 and I was 17....and THAT was wrong, seeing as I had NO relationship experience whatsoever).  But don't think about marriage right now, you can be super in love and move in together and whatever, but you're still in school, you're still young and there's NO reason why you would have to get married right now.  I feel like the boyfriend isn't thinking about marriage, since boys are generally not so excited about it as girls are.

So chill, breathe, tell him the truth, if it works out, it works out.  If it doesn't, then at least you aren't married (more paperwork).

EDIT:  Wait a minute....I knew I had read something strange....In August you posted about making out with a guy that has a girlfriend.  So have you really been with your bf for over a year, or have you cheated more than once?  Something doesn't click here.

I think..... you are too young to know what you want (obviously) and should hold off on planning the rest of your life until you settle down a little and arent so randomly frisky with guys.

Is not a bad thing to be frisky, you just need a few years to figure things out.

((didnt read the entire thread btw, just the first page))

Ha! Thermal for the win!!!

Ooh.  Busted!

Oh my

yeah, in in feb or mar (sorry, don't remember which) you posted about being in a new relationship...

lucy, you got some 'splainin to do...

Original Post by se1289:

So this guy i was hanging out with for a couple of weeks and cliqued with really well and me made out one nite..ust kissen and feeling..nothing more. The next day I checked his facebook and he has a girlfriend!??! I was pretty mad but i was like whatev it was nothing official between us..wish he woulda tlold me.

\He wants to continue this and act like my b/f without being it (dates, cuddling, kissing)..his girlfriend lives in a diff city. I dont know if i should continue this. Not for fear of getting emotionally attached..but because I dont want to help another guy cheat. Is that stupid? I'm to morally correct in my life,,haha

'specially like that last line.

here's one from december '07.

Original Post by se1289:

Ok well me and my ex finance broke up 2 months ago. We are trying it again but I really dont feel him like I used to and dont trust him and I dont know if he feels me like he used to although we both say we still love each other. I know it could possibly build up one day and be like it was but I'm not sure if it will or we are together because we are used to it.

There is this new guy I've been hanging out with and talking latly and I know he likes me and I'm REALLY liking him and I havnt felt like this twoards a guy in along time..even to my fiance. We hung out for like 5 hours last nite and for the first time in 2 years i cheated on my ex (only him givin me kiss on the cheek and lips..no making out or anything but still).

Should i try and pursue this old relationship konwing what it could be one day or should I go for this new one not knowing what if anything it will lead to?

Yikes -  the guy referenced in the OP as your man, is also the guy that is sexually inexperienced according to another of your earlier threads?

All the praying you've done on this aside, perhaps it's time to grow a conscience and cut the poor guy loose.

That is so sweet

Me and my boyfriend have only been together for a few months...

this is the one i was mentioning...

yikes, se.  your threads list is a goldmine of these things.  i think it's time to try celibacy for awhile.

Hold the phone is this the fiance she dumped cuz he was a manwhore in November?

definitely.  as catty as a couple of my most previous posts have been (and i do apologize for that), i agree with PG (again).  i think you need to take some time to be alone, and figure out what YOU want.  and who YOU are. 

oh, the drama.

ha ha ha, soooo busted  oopsy!

holy crap it's a WEB OF LIES~!!!

you think she'd at least use different names huh?

This is pathetic.

i suppose she could have multiple personality disorder

*shrug*

if not, se, just take the heat and say what you want to say.

whatever the truth is, it's more important to you and not really at all important to us.

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

whatever the truth is, it's more important to you and not really at all important to us.

Nomo, that has so many meanings.

Original Post by nasuoni:

Original Post by nomoreexcuses:

whatever the truth is, it's more important to you and not really at all important to us.

Nomo, that has so many meanings.

She's deep that way. :)

Original Post by nasuoni:

holy crap it's a WEB OF LIES~!!!

you think she'd at least use different names huh?

This is pathetic.

 ^^^you would THINK so.  hehe

*has a feeling she wont be using her se1289 account for much longer and will create a new identify*

maybe with a new identity, she'll keep her stories straight this time?

se... i'm not being sarcastic here (i promise to jebus) but what about keeping a journal (not a CC one)?  maybe write it in, then put it away somewhere safe and check it out/read it in about 10 years.  <--- if you do that, you'll probably relize how immature you WERE.

oh oh oh... come to think of it. 

when you're posting new threads, you can always refer BACK to your journal to make sure your dates/people/places coincide with your new threads <--- ok.. that one WAS sarcastic.  BUT... i bet it might just help and you're less likely to get busted next time  ;)

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