You know who I hate?

Guys who hit girls.

Random..but amen to that!

I just had a..falling out....I guess.

Tonight was one of the most frightening nights I have ever experienced in my entire college career.

Take care of yourself or whoever got hit. Don't let him beg and come back. Seek the support of your friends and family. Maybe go stay with someone, so you feel safe.

Please stay safe (or help keep safe whoever got hit!).  No one should ever feel it is okay to hit another person! 

i used to be abused, i was...20? im 46 now. the guy used to hold me down and strangle me. i finally! got out of that relationship but damn near got killed doing it, or maybe it was all a ruse. dont know dont care.

im 46 now, my current bf, who worships the ground i walk on, still cant touch my neck without me reacting. hes working on it with me, trying to get me to relax with a hand on my neck.

get out.

get out now.

you deserve better!

The thing is.. I don't even think it was abuse. It wasn't, actually.

It's a long story, and I don't have the words to explain it.

It was 2 people being slightly drunk and immature, then the guy deciding that it was all right to hit a girl.

I just wanted to point out that a man can never, for any reason, hit a female. Ever. No matter what she did, it's just unacceptable.

it doesn't matter if the 2 people were "slightly drunk" ....It's abuse, domestic violence. It is...you can't change that....if she called the cops, he would get arrested drunk or sober

once a hitter, always a hitter

Original Post by mimi_js:

The thing is.. I don't even think it was abuse. It wasn't, actually.

It's a long story, and I don't have the words to explain it.

It was 2 people being slightly drunk and immature, then the guy deciding that it was all right to hit a girl.

I just wanted to point out that a man can never, for any reason, hit a female. Ever. No matter what she did, it's just unacceptable.

 

 Was it you and the BF you have been having trouble with? (Just curious)

I know it's far easier to listen to one's heart and nearly impossible to rationalize the behaviors you know you should carry out in situations like these, but you need to try really hard to accept what has happened and move on.

You probably love each other. The fact that he hit you doesn't change that. But would you really want to continue doing yourself such a great injustice, being with somebody who respects you so little that he physically harms you? When someone loves another person, the last thing they want is to see them in any sort of pain.

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship on and off for several years. It got to the point where my friend flat out told me that if I talk to him one more time about how my then-boyfriend was treating me, he just wasn't going to offer advice anymore because he already said the same thing countless times, and that's dump him. I couldn't get it through my head; I loved him, he was finally starting to get it right, blah blah. The fact of the matter is that once we broke up, I felt leagues better than I did when I was constantly stressed out over him. It wasn't so great at first, but it became a great decision.

Something I tell myself that I still have a hard time believing is that in time, your feelings for this person probably won't even be relevant anymore. I assume you're relatively young like I am (I'm 22), so I know for a fact that I will eventually get over a guy even if I like him a lot. Hell, even if I love him, though that's rare. Point being, you may feel that pain in your chest whenever you think about him with another girl or living his life without you, but it is not forever. It will hurt for a while, but tell yourself that eventually you will be able to think about these things and feel all right.

You know the right decision, one you have to make for yourself and for everyone in your life who cares about you. Once one partner hits another, it's game over.

and guys who hit kids (usually one in the same). 

Usually just neet to get a good-ass whoopin' to get a taste of their own medicine. 

Girls should not hit guys either.

I'm not sure of the statistics, but I have heard that abusive women tend to put the man in the emergency room far more often than an abusive men put the women in the emergency room.  It is because women tend to use something like a frying pan - or a butcher knife.

good point rux.

my bf's ex slammed his face with a frying pan. she ran over him once too.

her loss... im thankful she had no clue what a wonderful man he could be when someone loved him right.

Ok I feel like I have to explain this. My boyfriend did not hit me, actually he doesn't even kill spiders. He wouldn't hurt anyone.

It was my friends boyfriend. Last night was just really intense. We were all drunk, he was acting very weird to me all night. Long story short, he took my cell phone and put it down his pants and said that if I wanted it back, then I have to get it. I'm sorry but I don't react well to derogatory statements, especially from a guy whose DATING my good friend. I took his beer out of his hands and threw it on the floor. Then he grabbed me and pushed me against his door. And he proceeded to hit my chest until I fell out of his room and ran out of the party.

Mimi, I am very sorry you had to go through that.  Drunk or not, he should never have hit you.  He has problems, and you should tell your friend so.  He'll probably use the drunk thing as an excuse, but I have been quite drunk myself, and I STILL KNEW right from wrong.  Blaming alcohol is a cop-out.  You should tell your friend about this guy's behavior if she doesn't already know or wasn't present at her boyfriend's display of violence.  She should be made aware.  Since he's displayed that he is capable of violence, it is quite probable that it will happen again.

Stay safe!

No one should be hitting anyone.

Women hitting men is just as unacceptable, especially when it seems like they're not even allowed to defend themselves! If a woman is willing to hit like a man then she should be prepared to take one too. Obviously preferable if no one was hitting anyone.

My uncle had his ex-girlfriend coming at him with a knife and he was too afraid to defend himself, he ended up getting stabbed. He felt if he hit her or whatever in self defense, she could turn around and say she was defending HERSELF from him.

My brother's ex-girlfriend used to physically abuse him. One night she went crazy and tried to leave, drunk. My brother wouldn't give her the keys to her car for obvious reasons so she BIT him. Who bites people? I don't know... but he knocked her on her ass. Threw her keys at her and went inside. She drove into a fence. In the end, he had to take domestic abuse and anger management classes, which he had to pay for, and now has a record because of her when he did nothing wrong.

Violence is violence and should be dealt with equally.

I would've called the police on the drunk dude. Cops don't care whether he was drunk or sober, he still hit someone. You can still press charges now too btw. I wouldn't waste time. People like him should be told off right away before it gets worse. You wouldn't want him to do this to your friend either.

I concur. It's sick =X

That's called assault no matter how it is sliced. 

mimi, what you described was definitely assault, and in his mind probably a "retaliation" for your refusal to reach in his pants for the phone and play his game. Drunkenness doesn't excuse it.

Original Post by mimi_js:

Guys who hit girls.

Well that's original.

I personally hate people who are obsessed with their own or the opposite gender.