How did you know your spouse/parter was "The One"?

I would love to hear your stories of how you knew your spouse/partner was "the one" and why.  Please give more detail other than "I just knew".  Did you know right away or did it take some time for you to realize?  Did you both know at the same time or did one feel it first?

i knew he was "the one" when i knew this was the one guy i could fully be myself around and he would love me unconditionally. i went through a rough period where i was unstable mentally, depressed, etc. and one day he said to me "i love you, and i will always love you no matter what" and thats when i knew i would be marrying this guy (and we will... after a 2 year long engagement LOL..in fact when we are married we will have been together almost 8 years!)

It was more like musical chairs, when the music stopped that was who I ended up with.

I knew he was"the one" when I saw him sitting at a table with his back towards me. He had tattooed elbows. I pointed at him and told everyone I was with I would marry him. We have been together for 5 years and will be married for 1 yr on the 31st of this month. Of course I know that he is the one because I can be myself with him, he makes me feel beautiful inside and out, he is a wonderful father and man,  and I can freely pass gas with him. :)

how did I know?  like many said, I was totally myself around him...even more then that, I was a better version of myself around him...he brought out the best in me.  He was also the first man that I was TOTALLY attracted to...I wanted him

But you can't dismiss the "you just knew" because sometimes you just do.  It's different, you can't explain it, but it just is

we didn't know eachother long at all before we knew either...it happened really fast.  But it we will be married 18 years in August so SOMETHING seems to be working

I can't say that there was one defining moment when I realized he was the one. Just that it's been almost 8 years and I'm not completely sick of him yet. LOL.

Honestly, it's that I can be myself around him . For any relationship to work, you must fully accept each other for who they are including their flaws. (We both have MANY flaws)

Original Post by kae03:

how did I know?  like many said, I was totally myself around him...even more then that, I was a better version of myself around him...he brought out the best in me.  He was also the first man that I was TOTALLY attracted to...I wanted him

But you can't dismiss the "you just knew" because sometimes you just do.  It's different, you can't explain it, but it just is

we didn't know eachother long at all before we knew either...it happened really fast.  But it we will be married 18 years in August so SOMETHING seems to be working

Exactly. Love at first sight! Or: Words.

The first time I saw my hubby I thought: " Yum! I want some of that! Mhm. He wants to go out with me? -smile- Mhm. I'm going to kiss him! " We've been married eight years this fall.

We were introduced by people that said we were made for each other. :) I hadn't been dating him a week and half before people were questioning our future. " Are you going to marry him? Are you in love? Does he love you? Neither of you have said it yet,eh? What are your plans? What are his intentions?" People could see it all over us.

  My answer was: " I don't care. I'm going to be his friend for the rest of my life." I was completely aware of that fact. It didn't matter to me if we married/ said I love yous/ whatever. We liked/wanted each other and that was obvious. I felt chemistry/magic between us. Still do. I've been feeling it since I met him. I just can't help myself. Our first date was a walk in the park. In the sense that it was such a right/easy/pleasurable experience and quite literally! We took a stroll through the park because everything was closed! He had to go to work at 6am the next morning. We met at 11pm and stayed out strolling the park/talking till 5:30 am. We were only meeting to have a drink/humor others as friends. It wasn't even a blind date... just meeting... that turned into a date. :) We ended up sharing a drink and going to the park. Funny tidbit: Neither of us share drinks. We're avid about our refusal to drink after others. That's something we didn't know about each other. We have that in common, but it did not apply. Since: We had every intention of locking lips at first sight. We hadn't kissed yet but we both planning on it. ;) As long as things advanced correctly which they seemingly were. People were seriously interested in getting us together. I'd been badgered all day and finally caved in just before 11:00pm. Lol.

I didn't wake up until about noon the next day. I just fall into bed in a magical state of ease/sleepy-ness. My sister in law asked me the next day " How did it go? " and I said " Wonderful. He said he'd call me when he gets off work. " She said:" Oooh.  I see. " As if that was actually a bad thing. She said: " Um. Sometimes guys say they're going to call ... and don't. Did he give you his number? "  Me: "No. I don't need it. He's going to call. I know it. " RING RING... My phone rang just moment after that left my mouth. Him:"Hey, I'm on lunch break so can't talk long. I just wanted to call and make plans for tonight. I'll be off at 5pm today so I can pick you up then? We can have dinner? Great. Okay. I can't wait. See you then."

Summary of my hubby and I: We always have hello and good-bye kisses. Even if one of us are only going to be gone five minutes. We've annoyed people with our constant lovy-dovy-ness. We just can't seem to get enough of one another. We have a dual computer desk so everything we do is side by side. Yet, at the same time we have no idea what the other is doing. We can go hours without saying a word to one another. In perfect contentment without feeling detached, just at ease in each others presence. There are no chains or expectations from us to control one another. Steven and I are complete opposites that complete each other. We're each two very different people from different places with very different backgrounds. I'm cold and he's hot ... together we make steam.

I met dh at a shop where I worked.  He seemed interested but did not ask me out right away.  Two weeks later he decided to pay me a visit at the worst time.

I had been out for hours on my bike and my chain had come off during my ride.  I was covered in grease and sweat and wearing torn shorts.  I looked and smelled awful.  But as I came back to my apartment - there he was, waiting for me.  Dressed in shirt and tie.  He wanted to take me to dinner.

I don't know why I did it but I agreed to go to dinner as long as he took me just as I was.  I did not wash or change my clothes.  He took me to one of the nicest restaurants in our small town.  We married a year later.  That was 19 years ago.

I knew when our first 'date' lasted for four days.....the best four days of my life. I only went home because i needed to get more clothes!

Let's see.  I have been married to my husband since September, a very happy 8 months.  We knew we were meant to be together, I think in some instances you just know.  How to say this.....  We knew each other for maybe two months back in HS 18years ago (we went to an American HS in Germany)  He gave me a ring before his family moved back to the US.  We did not speak to each other until 3 years ago.  Not because we did not want to but our lives lead us down different paths.  He had a child and had been married twice before we caught up again.  I had been married and had two children.  A friend of mine asked if I had been on classmates.com and I had not.  I went to the sight, found him and emailed him.  Less then 12 hours later we were emailing back and forth.  A month later we saw each other and we "Felt like we were finally home."  If that makes since.  3 months later my children and I moved in with him.  It has been great ever since. 

We compliment each other in our strengths and weaknesses.  We trust each other fully, and like most everybody else, we can be ourselves around each other.  My children love him, call him dad.  He claims they are his children.  The oldest looks like him.  We now have a daughter together, turning one on Friday.  She looks just like him, gorgeous.  I beleive that everybody has a soul mate and I am glad that I found mine. 

I went bowling with a group of friends almost 3 years ago, I didn't want to go - I'd chased my car that morning, but it was a friends birthday.  So I went, miserable face and all. 

There was this guy at the counter just changing his shoes, I'd met him on a few social occassions and really fancied him, I smiled and said Hi, told him about my bad day and he gave me the biggest hug, he didn't let me go all night, called the next day to arrange dinner on the Friday, I went despite knowing that he had a bit of a reputation, I left on the Monday, he moved in 8 weeks later and in 12 weeks time we get married.

There have been lots of points where I've thought "this is the guy for me", I called him 2 months into our relationship, I was out shopping, asked what he was up to and he said "nothing, just reading your cousins a story".  That was the first time that I knew I loved him.

I knew because she told me she was and I said OK!!