Ladies in ur 20's who really need to loose some actual weight... be my friend, I need support!!!

Hello all. Im 20 years old, and I have been making some pretty dumb decisions when it comes to my eating habits. I am an emotional eater, and lets just say i get pretty emotional at times. Its so hard to stay on track sometimes because I work full time and go to college full time. When work gets the best of me, I eat. When school gets the best of me, I eat. I have no support system at home because everyone I know is either skinny, average sized and can eat what ever they want, or just comfortable with being bigger. Im not comfortable with my size. Or the size of my prego looking belly lol. Right now I weigh 180 lbs, with a target goal of 145- 150. I DO NOT want to be skinny. Thats just not me. lol So if ur in the same, or particular boat, be my pal... Peeezzzzeee? k, bye!

Hi,

Im 19 and just joined. I'm about 20 pounds heavier than you, but I need a support system too. My goal weight is 140 pounds and I too don't want to be skinny and I just want to be healthy and keep my curves. So if you like I can be your supporter as you mines.

Hi! I am 21 and 5'3" 168lbs. I would like to lose about 30-40 and could really use some motivation and support because  lately I have had some awful eating habits.  I work at an ice cream shop and a drive-in  movie theater so I am surrounded by free ice cream and popcorn...two of my biggest weaknesses!!!

That sucks....I have some bad eating habits too: like eating late at night!!!  How about this, If you  are on a diet and you follow it well for about two weeks then have one small scope of ice cream or 1 small bag of popcorn. That can serve as a motivation, if u still want your snacks.

 Some advice that I am actually going to try is for every week that I follow my diet, I will put 10 dollars in a jar that way when I reach my goal weight I have hard "earned" money that i can go on a shopping spree with to celebrate being 60 pounds less.

That 10 a week idea sounds great!  I will have to try it.  Thanks for the tips on the snacks!  I am not as worried about cutting out all of the popcorn as the ingredients are pretty straight forward...popcorn, oil.  Also where I work it is not popped in hydrogenated fat.....but most of the ice cream at work is filled with nasty stuff like high fructose corn syrup so I might just avoid that and if I really want ice cream wait until I am off work and get some more natural stuff elsewhere.  But I will definitely have to use the every two weeks as a motivational treat idea for the popcorn.  Thanks again!!

Hello! I am 25 and so far I have lost 20lbs. I still have about 20 to go and I am at a bit of a plateau.  The thing that helped me with emotional eating was a program called the Weigh Down workshop. It helped me get the focus off of food. I was so bad I would wake up in the morning and the thing that would get me out of bed was thinking about what I was going to get to eat!

I would eat when I was bored, sad, happy, with friends, without friends - any excuse for a meal. It was horrible. I actually lost the 20lbs without exercising at all. It was amazing. Now I just need to do that one more time!

It is nice to meet you and I wish you luck!

~Natasha

Thanx 4 responding =) and sorry it took me so long to get back, I lost the charger to my lap top, (do u believe that?!? Gosh!!) Weelll, I think the idea of a monetary reward for achieving goals is wonderful. I never thought of it that way, I always think hey, I made my goal today, (now what can I eat to reward myself) lol But that sounds like a great idea. Recently I have tried my best to stop eating so much red meat and focus in on turkey and chicken, which isnt all that bad, I bought a juicer so I can find a reason to actually eat the fruits and veggies im supposed to eat, lol because I sure dont. I also HATE WATER. Which is bad, so I just started putting some lemon in it to make it taste a llliiiiiiitle bit better, its still not my cup of sugary tea though lol.

And hey natasha, whats that workshop about? is it online or in your area or something?

I know just how you feel about wanting to lose some weight but not wanting to be skinny. I just joined today and my goal is to lose about 30lbs by December and hopefully grow the willpower to not blow it over the holidays >.< Oh and that $10 a week reward idea is genius!

The Weigh Down Workshop is....well there are online classes, but I started with a local class. It has a "spiritual" base, but is nothing to be intimidated by. If anything I would encourage you to read "The Weigh Down Diet". This is not at all a diet book, but it is amazing, it teaches all the foundational principals about how to beat emotional eating. I was AMAZED that after YEARS of personal training and diets, that I lost 20 lbs. without restricting foods AT ALL! I still ate cheesecake, ice cream, etc. and I did it without exercising!!!!

I still have 20 lbs to loose, but this has given me hope after years of failure.

Go to www.weighdown.com

thanks for starting this "blog" for 20's girls!

that sounds so cool. I actually looked for some faith based things before I found this one. Ill make sure to pick that book up, I need a new book to read anyway, and ur speakin my kinda language when u say I can still eat cheese cake!! lol Well, my goal 4 today is to just eat about 1300 cals and probably turn on the fitness channel while my bf is at work. I have been trying to stay on track but I just get so DANG HUNGRY!!! LOL.

Im not so sure what my problem is? Im just home all day, watching tv. I go to sleep at about four and wake up about 12 . So i dont eat breakfast or lunch and dinner usually happens around 11. I hate to go to the gym but I wont go to classes . I use to be so active and since i went to college its like theres nothing to do and now I just stay in the house because I hate to put on clothes and they dont fit. I hate to go shopping now to cause nothing looks right. Not to mention my boyfriend is a stick who eats everything and doesn't gain a pound. I dont want to be skinny, I just want to be healthy and sexy.

Im willing to work for my goal but after a week I usually lose motivation.

HELP ME !

Hey guys! I am 21 and just graduated from nursing school. I put on alot of weight in college and really need to get it all off. I want to weigh 160, as of right now I weigh 236. I'll be here for a while....but thats ok with me!

Hey there!  I'm a 21 year old college senior, about halfway there!  My goal is to get directly in the middle of the healthy BMI range, which means I'm aiming for about 145.  I'm right now on the border between overweight and healthy...about 20 lbs to go!

Caramelbaby, I was really that same way last week...I just laid down on my bed for hours upon hours, and didn't do a thing.  but I've gotten back on track this week, and I feel so much better!  I totally get the whole losing motivation thing.  We got this!

Wow, it's so helpful to read your post, and all these replies and know that there are other young(er) women struggling with weight issues!! I would love to friend you and share struggles and advice! :)

Omg caramel, I do the same thing. And its not like mindless sleeping 4 me, its almost like my body feels as though it neeeeds this rest and relaxation, I just wanna tell it, hey- you did this yesterday. lol My boyfriend calls it marathon sleeping. lol But I also feel the same about my beanhead boyfriend. He is so happy in his skin and doesnt realize why im not happy in mine. One clue is that he eats everything in his path, and when he does get a little booty jiggle, all he has to do is go to the gym for 2 days and its gone. What kinda crap is that?? lol I really dont wanna be skinny, I love my curves, (its how I caught my man, lol) So being skinny isnt really an option 4 me. I do wanna wear a swimming suit though. IM SICK AND TIRED OF TANKINIS!!!! I just wanna look cute... I recently wentto the dr and she started suggesting all kinds of excercies for me to do. So, that my friends, was the last straw. lol She said that since I am a black woman, im sort of setting my self up for diabetes if I keep my lifestyle up, eating whatever I want, whenever I want, and how ever much of it I want just isnt going to cut it anymore. I guess I have to just get off my arse and do something... I love burgers and butter, but I dont want my love for them to get in the way of my well being...

Oh szand01 I know just what you mean about loving burgers and butter but not wanting the love of them to get in the way of well being >.< and also about not wanting to lose curves cause it's how I caught my man too lol. I stepped on a scale when I got home from college this May and saw to my horror that I was 232 a mere 2lbs less then my heaviest weight and freaked out, but trying to fix finals week, winter depression, and too much Domino's  seems to be more then I can handle on my own, so that's how I ended up here on cal count. For the longest time I stayed around 210-215 and I was ok with that, but I think if I got down to 190 I'd be really happy with myself. Besides If I lost any more then that I think my bf would mourn the reduction of what he likes to call "the perfect ass" but then again he doesn't entirely understand my diet endeavor because he thinks the rest of me is perfect as is too, which sometimes screws up my attempts to eat better a bit. Do you have any issues like that with your bf?

i've done a lot of research about fitness and weight loss- and rewarding a good two weeks with an unhealthy snack is not the way to go! You really dont' want to make those things, like ice cream, "rewards" because that gives them a positive conotation. You want to incorporate ice cream in other ways into your weekly diet, like lemon ice, or other lowfat yogurt options. 

Reward yourself, instead, with something like a new pair of sneakers for running, a new pair of shorts, or even a trip to the mall with a girlfriend you havn't seen in a while. Go to the beach, or even on a hike, get a massage, etc! Making activities like these positive rewards will help keep you motivated, and you will be much less likely to binge on "ice cream" like rewards!!

Good luck ladies!

I agree with your research,  but I also know that it is extra hard to change your lifestyle and diet suddendly.

My theory however that worked for me, is every  two weeks of eating healthy and following my diet I would reward myself with one favorite snack. (ice cream) Once you get use to your healthy snacks you no longer really desire the other one and I eventuay weeded off of it. NOw eventhough I didnt stick to my diet I stil dont care for ice cream anymore.

But everyone is different.

yes, I have alot of problems like that with my bf. He calls my stomach "cute" F that, I have a gut and I want it gone!! lol It also doesnt help my case that he is not on a diet and he eats alot of pasta, red meat, pork, sweets, (which he can eat everyday and not gain a pound) and I have to prepare these meals for him and I find it hard to eat my skinless, boneless, chickenbreast with all veggies while he eats his heaping plate of spaghetti with garlic bread. It actually p's me off lol. But, I realize that at the end of the day, Its me in my skin, not him. and reguardless of my thoughts of us being together "forever" I have to think of what I will do with my unhealthy body when hes gone? I treated my body like crap the entire time, and now i have to live alone with it. I try not to take what he has to say about cute bellies, and liking his girls with meat on their bones to heart. I can still have meat on my bones, but from now on damnit, it will be healthy meat, because if he desides to leave me, ill be damn if I have trouble trying to find someone to replace him based on my appearance!!

First of all this is a great post!

I just started CC on the 18th and have lost 5 lbs.!

I am 22, I started at 186 and now 181! I am 5'6''... I had a baby almost 3 months ago... I have struggled with my weight for a while... My first 2 years of college I was actually on an athletic scholarship and was in the greatest shape of my life! I was very physically fit and had a great body... it really aggravates me to see how far I let myself go...

as for that research I totally agree... rewarding yourself with bad food isn't good... a little sweets are okay here and there... in fact I have been so obsessed with this I have way to many calories left over pretty much every night and I know it's not good to start out eating to little because you will get to a plateau... well to cram in the extra cals I missed out on I would eat half a cookie, or just a small portion of something you like... a little won't hurt you as long as its not everyday and your portion size is under control...

I have tried weight watchers also and the point is you can eat whatever you want as long as you stay within your points... and the same goes for this in my opinion... you can eat the cals you want as long as you dont over eat you will lose the weight! and working out with cardio also helps to let you have some extra calories to eat!