20lbs down and totally UNmotivated!

Crazy, right? I am -so bored- of counting calories and going to the gym. I miss all the junk foods I used to eat. I just feel icky all over.

In my mind I know I should be excited: 20lbs is kind of a lot, but I'm only averaging less than a pound and a half a week, lately not even that, and I still have 45lbs left to go.... It all feels like such drudgery! Is anybody with me on this? I haven't had such a down time mentally since I started my weight loss, and it's so discouraging in this weird selfconscious way that I can't find a way to be positive, especially since I'm obviously succeeding. I don't know what's wrong with me. Maybe I just need someone to tell me that this too shall pass... Help?

I feel the same way! I've lost 25lbs, still have 40 to go.So I know its not time to slow down. Not sure I can help you, but I am doing better the last couple days with NOT recording calories. I am just taking each meal at a time. I get past breakfast, then mid-morn snack, then lunch, etc. Just making the next decision a good one for my health! After two days, I feel some what stronger and ready to handle whats ahead! 

Nope, your mind is winning so stop letting it control you. You should be excited. Twenty pounds lost is wonderful. Change your thoughts and you will change your world.

I say these things to myself everyday. I love to exercise (it's fun), eating healthy makes me feel good, eating healthy is easy!! I am greatful to have a strong/healthy body that allows me to work, earn money, live a good life and be so happy. If you think your world is drudgery, it will be.

Think about all the people who do not have even the abilty to work out. Think of all the people who have more then 45 pounds to lose. Are you lucky?? You are.

If you need to talk a break from counting calories, then do it. You should know by now about what you should eat. If you need to break from the gym, then do it...enjoy the fall season and walk outside instead.

Most important is to stop all this negative crap going on in your head!! You can do it, you really can.

Original Post by sherea:

Think of all the people who have more then 45 pounds to lose. Are you lucky?? You are.

 

Well, I am one of those people who have more to 45lbs to lose, more like 60lbs more lbs to lose. I weighed in June 242 and as of today 210 so though 60lbs is alot a HELL OF ALOT It's going to happen. 

Now sortoflikegirl...I know how you feel, it's funny I read your forum topic, because as I'm sitting here at work right now, there is a "pizza party" for "Customer Service Week" so..I go in the break room , and see all this pizza and everywhere in the office you can smell it, and all my co-workers are stuffing there faces. And even the gals  in the "diet club" and we weigh in every Tuesday, are eating. I bypassed all of that and heated up my brown rice and peas! I sat at my desk and thought, "I'm sick of this sh**!! but I realize it's only because of what's going on at the moment, I say that every time I realize I have to go home and workout.  I'm sick of this sh**!! every time I wake up and drink my first of 4 20oz bottles of water...I'm sick of this sh**!!! when I'm watching T.V and every commercial is a damn restaurant or food commercial!!!...I'm sick of this sh**!!! SIGH.....but you know what puts it all back in perspective it's when I get on the scale and TA DAA I've lost another 4lbs somewhere somehow!!

 

That is a great accomplishment and I bet you are feeling better. I have lost 33 lbs and still have about 15 to go. I know they way I have kept myself in this is to "allow" myself to eat some of those foods. In fact nothing is out of reach for me. I just make sure I do it in moderate and always count the calories.

I've heard bunches of people on this site doing this and a lot of people have said out this stops them from binging. The more someone says the can't have something the more you are going to want it. So just give yourself a little.

Okay, try this to re-motivate yourself. 

Go load a backpack with books until it weighs 20 pounds.  Put the backpack on and wear it for a day. 

Then take it off and realize that you don't really want to carry around that weight all the time.  Think about how nice it would be if that other 45 pounds was already in the backpack and not on your hips, thighs, waist, etc. 

Also, have a snack -- eat a bit of junk food.  This is supposed to be a lifestyle change, and it's supposed to feel good and be the way you want to live, not a prison sentence.  So allow yourself to have a fast food meal once in a while. 

Thanks guys! I think I needed a reminder that this is not about counting calories: it's a lifestyle change. I can't look at it as this huge ennumerration of what a terrible job I'm doing. I made myself a really delicious salad, and reminded myself I enjoy it. Then I ate a bowl of ice cream. :) And it was fine. In truth, I may have been having more than a little PMS depression too. Sorry to subject you to that. The "pile up the weight you lost and look at it, and try to lift it" exercise is always such a great motivator, but I've never thought about piling up all the weight I want to loose before. I regularly lift 50lb objects for work, and although on the one hand it's a whole lot of weight (a little daunting), the idea of negative 50lbs feels so liberating just to think about! I can't even imagine how much less my feet are going to hurt. :)