Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Pansexuals, Transsexuals, and everyone in between! Come here for friends and support!

Welcome welcome. ^_^ My name is Amanda. Pleasure to meet your acquaintance.

If you are part of the LGBTQ community (or if you are straight, you are welcome also), I decided to make this forum for anyone who needs support.

There is so many great sites that offer communication and support between queer youth. www.mogenic.com is personally my favorite site.

This is also a place where you will be able to just BE YOURSELF. That is the most important thing.

I am doing this because when I came out, I didn't have much support. I felt alone. And I don't want anyone to ever feel this way.

I am actually pansexual, which means I love someone for them, not their gender. But I do lean more towards the female sex.

Feel free to introduce yourself. ^_^ And have fun!

I've had threesomes and those times were the last time.  I've heard many people say it works for them and their relationships, but for me..it just ruined it.   There really has to be a huge level of trust and honesty between partners, and I did not have that with my ex-boyfriend.  It caused major "damage" to quote deedus between my ex and I.  I lost trust in him and felt he always wanted to have sex with other women.  I learned that sharing my partner is not something I can do and am very happy to be with a woman who wants me all to herself.  :)

ive never had 3 somes with my hubby or past boyfriends I would think it would make things to complicated. I have had g/f and he nos and has been friends with them. but nothing ever goes more  than that.

i agree that you don't have to have sex to realize anything about your orientation but a few sexual experiences "confirms" it.  after all, it is called sexual-orientation.

my friends believe that just because they want to hug, cuddle, and kiss other women means that they are bisexual. 

i see that as a natural need for human contact.  society has put somany lables on groups of people that we deprive ourselves of our primal need for affection.   we need human contact but we don't get as close to others as we should because we're afraid of being judged. 

hugging the ones we care about is psychologically & spiritually healing so do it more often!  and don't give those wimpy hugs that make the both of you feel awkward, give a real one; one that feels like you mean it!

in other words, affection and sexual attraction are two different things.

It's only too soon that you will recognize what you have done to yourself.

hey

I'm bisextual, my friends know but my parents and friends parents dont know. So yeah I dont plan to tell them for awhile. I dont think they would care, but when having sleepovers they might get all weird about it... 

Original Post by aiseiah:

i agree that you don't have to have sex to realize anything about your orientation but a few sexual experiences "confirms" it. after all, it is called sexual-orientation.

my friends believe that just because they want to hug, cuddle, and kiss other women means that they are bisexual.

i see that as a natural need for human contact. society has put somany lables on groups of people that we deprive ourselves of our primal need for affection. we need human contact but we don't get as close to others as we should because we're afraid of being judged.

hugging the ones we care about is psychologically & spiritually healing so do it more often! and don't give those wimpy hugs that make the both of you feel awkward, give a real one; one that feels like you mean it!

in other words, affection and sexual attraction are two different things.

I don't know...the line between sexuality and companionship is fine, given that it exists at all.
But I completely agree with you that society's basically neutered us of affection. Around most East Asians I can fulfill needs of affection through 'amae'-ing, but around most Americans people get all confused about it. So weird.
I have a bad habit of getting into relationships just because I want someone to cuddle. Cuddling comes first, love comes later. :P

Hey, pretty new around here. I signed up awhile ago, but never got into it. I'm Hailey, I'm 20 and I'm a lesbian, woot.

Original Post by wikidlette:

Original Post by lunamagae:

The title of this thread caught my attention but I figured I was going to feel comfortable posting a reply because I am married. I was surprised and glad to see that other posters who are married had no problem doing so, which then made me feel comfortable. Ever since I married a guy I feel weird using the title bisexual. I can't help but feel that everyone will think I am a fake... yada, yada... pretty illogical, but I can't help it.

To be honest... I think I actually lean more towards females, but my guy ended up being the exception, which makes everything even more confusing and challenging.

Oh believe me, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I definitely lead more towards the female sex, but it doesn't mean I won't be with a guy. When I was in a long relationship with a guy, I actually got shunned by part of the gay community. Just because I was in a male/female relationship.

The truth is, bisexuals/pansexuals are discriminated in the gay community. Some believe we are "greedy" and that we can't make up our minds. The truth is, I have completely made up my mind. That I will not be held back by gender. That I will love who I want to love.

I made this forum for everyone. So if you need any support, feel free to ask. And nice to meet you. ^_^

 

HA! that's me too!

I'm bi, in a relationship with a wonderful woman who has been my strength and my sanity for almost 5 years now. Because of where I live (grew up in a SMALL town and moved to college in an even smaller one) it's not safe for me to come out. A few of my closest friends know but simply because they would see us together and put two and two together.

I'm so glad to be able to come here and have others that understand where I'm coming from!

Hey! I'm new here. I'm a 21 year old woman in love with another woman, and I've never felt closer to anyone. When I met her I'd ended my first relationship (with a guy 10 years older than me; it didn't work out for a number of reasons) a month or so before, and had no intention of getting involved with anyone for a while, but we just clicked and we've been happy together ever since. 

It's weird (not unexpected, but weird), but when I told my friends about my new girlfriend they were all perfectly fine with it, but many of them assumed that having a girlfriend automatically means that I'm a lesbian. As I'm not sure myself whether or not this is true, I've never bothered to correct anyone...still, sometimes I wish that it was possible just to exist as a girl with a girlfriend, instead of having to categorize myself right away.

It's how I explained it to my mother, actually: all I know is that I'm in love with this girl, right now, and she's the only person I want to be with, right now. I can't say whether or not that will be true FOREVER but it certainly is in the present moment, and that's all I need to know.

Awesome thread!

I'm pretty interested in this stuff too, but I'm too tired for a decent conversation at the moment. xD  I identify as 'bisexual' to those who ask but I know aren't truly interested, I use 'pansexual' for people I think actually want to know.  I'm not going to stop myself from falling in love with someone for a silly reason like gender identification. So, there you have it.

Anyway, THIS is a really interesting article I found I thought some people here might be interested in. :]  I think it's refreshing to see the perspective of upper-mid class students that you know, explore, since it's not something I've had much exposure too.  The media seems kinda afraid of it.

Original Post by lynnlette:

I'm pretty interested in this stuff too, but I'm too tired for a decent conversation at the moment. xD I identify as 'bisexual' to those who ask but I know aren't truly interested, I use 'pansexual' for people I think actually want to know. I'm not going to stop myself from falling in love with someone for a silly reason like gender identification. So, there you have it.

Anyway, THIS is a really interesting article I found I thought some people here might be interested in. :] I think it's refreshing to see the perspective of upper-mid class students that you know, explore, since it's not something I've had much exposure too. The media seems kinda afraid of it.

Oh gosh, there's that article again. I wouldn't recommend taking it at face value - the reporter took most of those quotes out of context and misrepresented joking comments as fact for the sake of making up a juicy story. I'm a senior at Stuy and knew some of the kids mentioned in that article in passing...they were a funny, outgoing, and not at all prudish bunch of friends, but they were hardly having makeshift orgies left and right in the hall.

The real story should have been that Stuy in general is probably a lot more tolerant of alternative sex/gender identities than your average public high school. I'm very appreciative of that fact being bi/pansexual myself, but the school still has a long way to go as far as complete acceptance is concerned.

Original Post by e_mangoes:

Oh gosh, there's that article again. I wouldn't recommend taking it at face value - the reporter took most of those quotes out of context and misrepresented joking comments as fact for the sake of making up a juicy story. I'm a senior at Stuy and knew some of the kids mentioned in that article in passing...they were a funny, outgoing, and not at all prudish bunch of friends, but they were hardly having makeshift orgies left and right in the hall.

The real story should have been that Stuy in general is probably a lot more tolerant of alternative sex/gender identities than your average public high school. I'm very appreciative of that fact being bi/pansexual myself, but the school still has a long way to go as far as complete acceptance is concerned.

Of course, I think the media's shown us already that we can't take anything they say about open sexuality at face value. Still I saw it as a refreshing article. I'm not really sure how much the reporter actually understood what he (she?) was saying, though. The second sentence in the second paragraph made me do a bit of a double take the first time a read it, but honestly, I don't think what went through my mind was exactly what the writer meant to imply, or what actually happened. On the other hand, his physical descriptions of the girls were a little more elaborate than I thought was necessary, and that's pretty straightforward. >.<

It would take a lot more than one article for me to believe any legislature or student body was readily allowing anything really interesting to happen in highschool hallways, from bisexual wet dreams to politically charged beat poetry concerts.  The article had the same over-sexed tone to it any report on bi-curious (or the like) teenagers is going to have, it just wasn't focused on the class of people I normally expect to see when the phrase "gay" is thrown around so freely.

Anyway, that's my two-hours-sleep-in-the-last-sixty-or-so-hours explanation.

I do have one question, though...  How do you say "Stuyvesant"? ^^;

the thing is, there's just not enough support for me to come out right now. maybe when i move out to some other place, i don't know.


Subwaybusker: I felt the same way. I've only "come out" as being bisexual to two people at home. I feel that my family doesn't need to know until I am in a serious relationship with anyone. However, almost all of my friends here in Korea know. I felt it easier to tell them starting out  than having to tell friends who've known me for 8+ years. haha

And to all the people asking about bisexual guys... I've dated two bisexual guys. It was never an issue for us. I just made it clear that when we were dating, it was just us and if they wanted to be with guys then the relationship was over. Like, luna, I'm into being with whoever I'm with at the time...

I'm sorry to ask but what is pansexual?

How do you go about telling your boyfriend your bisexual?

I've just always been pretty casual about it..."just so you know... I'm into girls, too"... 

Ok I have never actually told anyone this and I am not sure where to put myself. I am physically attracted to women but I have no interest in dating one. Are there other women like that? I have no idea...

funindasun, i'm sure pretty sure there are plenty of women like that out there. you're not the only one. ;P

I'm Arianna.  :)

i'm pansexual,

my mom doesnt know. i think she would accept it, but im not sure if she'd veiw me differently, and i think she might be a little grossed out by it.

 

peopel at my school seem to think that means i love threesomes.

never had one, and never would have one. i'm too territorial. i dont share, and i dont want more than one person.

I'm Sam. I'm 17 and transsexual. I was born biologically female but identify 100 percent as male. I've been on testosterone for almost a year now and hopefully I'll be having chest surgery in the next year (it's very expensive and not covered by insurance and my family is very poor).

 

I'm also gay. I like other boys.