Let Go of Limiting Beliefs
Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to lose weight when you've tried everything to make it happen? You really, really want this, yet success eludes you. If it's difficult to stay on track, even when you know what to do, dig deeper and discover what's really holding you back.
Your Conscious vs Subconscious Beliefs
When there is something we consciously desire, but we can't seem to make it happen, chances are that our subconscious, hidden beliefs are preventing us from having what we want. Let's use an iceberg analogy. Our conscious mind is the tip of the iceberg. It's visible and obvious. From this place our desires are pretty clear: "I want to lose weight."
Your subconscious mind is the mass of ice below, hidden beneath the surface. It is much more powerful than the small tip above. For you to lose weight with ease, your conscious and subconscious minds must agree. If your subconscious mind also says, "I want to lose weight", you most likely will. But if your subconscious mind holds fears, doubts, and apprehension about losing weight, chances are you will have a very difficult time.
What's Stopping You?
To move beyond whatever subconscious blocks exist, you need to discover what they are. Be gentle with yourself. It's not your fault if you're having a hard time releasing weight if you don't even know what hidden obstacles are blocking you. But if you truly want to lose weight, it's your responsibility to find out.
Here are some common underlying beliefs that often sabotage weight loss efforts:
"I'm afraid to lose weight and become thin because men will find me attractive and take advantage of me."
"I'm afraid to lose weight because if I'm thin and I still don't meet anyone, then I'll really feel like a failure."
"If I'm thin then I won't be like everyone else in my family and I don't want to be disloyal and feel separate from them."
"If I'm thin, my sister may feel sad because she isn't."
"If I lose weight, than who am I if I'm not a fat person?"
"If I lose weight, more may be expected of me and I don't feel confident that I can handle more responsibility."
"If I lose weight and my family no longer picks on me, then maybe they'll gang up on my brother and I need to protect him"
"I want to lose weight but I just don't believe I can be successful at this or anything."
Acknowledge - Release - Reprogram
If you've struggled with weight loss for a long time, simply acknowledging that hidden, self-limiting beliefs exist is an important first step. This is not an excuse for why you're unable to release weight; it is a psychologically valid explanation.
The power of subconscious beliefs lessen when you know what they are.
While insight alone isn't necessarily enough to eliminate them, they begin to lose strength once revealed.
When you know what deeper beliefs exist, you can neutralize and release them. You then recreate in your mind new beliefs that support you in reaching your weight loss goals. For example, you can release the belief that you are a "failure" and create a new belief of confidence and strong self-worth. While you may think this is impossible, understand that "thinking it's impossible" is just another belief that you can change.
Give yourself the gift of support and speak with either a psychotherapist or life coach. Visualization and hypnosis, as well as the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) are powerful tools that help you create new, positive beliefs to support you in reaching your weight loss goals.
This process takes time. It requires your patience. Understand that something deeper than finding the next quick fix is your only solution to permanent weight loss.
What underlying beliefs are holding you back?
Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight loss and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane’s Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly, for spiritual insights and tips to release weight with confidence and love. To contact Diane directly visit her website at www.dianepetrella.com.