lies lies lies

So. After always wondering what the mystery is of my friends who manage to stay so slim, I finally figured it out. They don't eat a lot. My one friend who brags about how she has such a fast metabolism but she eats a lot is spending the week with me and my family in another state. What do I notice? She barely eats anything, and when we all go out for dinner she eats half of what everyone else eats! I find it EXTRODINARILY intimidating because when I used to be on a strict diet and really watch what I eat she would always get cookies and other junkfood and eat it around me. I'd be like wtf you know i'm trying to maintain my weight. Now that I binge like crazy and have gained 13lbs she's the one whose not eating a lot and I feel like a fat pig eating next to her. I get ice cream and eat the whole thing she has 4 bites and throws the rest out. We have dinner and I gobble practically everything down and she only eats half. It makes me feel bad and like I'm out of control. I want to start watching what I eat again but I find it hard not to binge. Any advice? Seems like I went from the underweight girl to the overweight girl. It's very stressful and brain-warping.

I know exactly how you feel! My best friend is stick thin, and although it seems she is always eating junk food, once you actually analyse everything she is eating, she is eating at the most 1200 calories. What annoys me is that she is always making comments about how 'healthy' I am, how I need to 'live life' and everytime I buy the small popcorn it's 'Sinéad, you're not trying to lose weight again are you???' So even though I'm the one who's eating the right amount of food, she eats miniscule amounts of nutritious food and the rest sweets, yet I'm the unhealthy one..........

Sorry about that mini-rant!!! So yes, I can relate to you a lot, it seems that most very skinny people do in fact eat very little, whatever they might say.

My advice to you, is if you want to be healthier, do it for you, not because you are comparing yourself to your friend. Whatever it may seem at this age, health is the most important thing. Skinniness may be the height of fashion now, but what about in ten years??? If your friend really is very underweight, it is quite possible that she could develop osteoporosis or other health problems. Meanwhile, if you learn to battle your binging habits, but don't drop below a healthy weight, you will be by far in the advantage!

And if you really want to make yourself feel better, just think that your friend could easily be in starvation mode, so if she develops a larger appetite as a na dult, she will gain weight like crazy!! Mean I know, but if it reassures you...........!!!!!

Most of my friends are thin.  I would say there are three types of eating patterns that I have noticed among them. 

a)healthy eating (but normal calorie intake) and working out. i have a few friends who are athletic and truly care about their weight, and work hard at staying in shape

b)people who don't necesarily eat good foods, but who don't eat A LOT.  i mean, i knew somebody who ate only only happy meals, frutopia, chip ahoy cookies, and junk, but the reason she didn't gain weight is because she didn't actually eat that much calories at the end of the day

c)and finally, a mix of healthy eating, and junk food, but in small quantities.

I mean, I don't know anybody who weighs 120 lbs who ate more than me.  Maybe on ONE DAY, they'll have a bigger meal, or drink 10 beers, but when you are with them the next day, you realize that all they might eat is cereal in the morning, and grilled cheese for dinner.

Your friend is prolly naturaly thin, and doesn't have a big apetite. Maybe she feels intimidated that you want to lose weight, and afraid that you might steel her spotlight.  Either way, you have to live for yourself.  Eat what YOU want and feel you need, don't binge.  You also have to realize that everybody is different in their eating habits.

Sometimes underweight people think they eat a lot, but in reality, they don't.  One of my best friends is underweight (but she's naturally like that) and she's always complaining of how she doesn't gain weight (she tries supposedly) and she eats so much too. So whenever she would come over and have dinner or sleepover, I would notice how much she eats. It was not a lot. She would eat about half of what I ate and say "Oh wow...I am so full, I ate so much." -.-

Hey you girls,
Katyat- I experience the same thing with my friend(s).
But after this past year of spending more times with my friends then my family I have realized that the reason why people are so skinny is they just don't eat a lot. Thanks everyone for the supposrt/advice about just being healthy for you an not for anyone else. My friend rants on about how healthy she is and always comments on me being unhealthy even though I am over the top healthy (Except for my binges which can't be very healthy). Like for example, when my toenail broke off she was like, " i can't believe the whole thing came off thats so unhealthy!" (gross i know but still) or when my veins show in my legs, she's like "that can't be healthy" or when she was like "my eyebrows are growing so fast!! i never have time to wax them, oh well at least their growing though, that means I know I'm healthy! because that means my hair is growing".
and i know what she is saying is just a simple true fact but she talks about health SO much and she is the only friend i told about my ED when I had it bad a WHILE ago. Like when my hair was falling out etc etc. So it feels more like she's rubbing it in then normal. All my other friends who haven't known me before I lost weight or have an ED say I look so healthy like my hair and skin and I feel great. This girl is just so intimidating because she b**ches at me when I only eat broccoli for a snack ,yet when we go out to dinner she takes 6 bites and then is full. ITS SO ANNOYING. sorry I had to rant. But I'm glad that the rest of you guys know how i'm feeling!
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just remember, you are making your own choices, do not let it derail you

First, understand that a lot of bingeng has to do with a reaction to over-restricting calories *or* waiting too long to eat. 

Try to make sure that you're getting enough calories and for a few weeks, try to eat on a schedule.  See if that doesn't help you.