Do you put your life on hold ?

Do you postpone buying new clothes, dating, meeting new people in general  till you lose your extra pounds?

For me, I do that but it is a bit hard because I have gained some of the weight back. That means enjoying my new life will be postponed a little bit.

What do you guys do? does anyone here feel the same way?

I did to start with then I realised it could be a life long challenge and I would have been on hold and done nothing so NO not anymore.

Andie-joe, It is sad to realize that we have to struggle in this for the rest of our lives. I thought it is a one time battle to win and move forward.

No.

I have never postponed anything about my life due to weight, but I am more confident with every lost pound. I find that I am more outgoing when I am thinner.

Well it's a life style change and I expect that most of us will slip up from time to time.

So life is to short I say stop saying tomorrow and just go do it today and have fun! :)

I've postponed buying new clothes.  I'd say about 75% of my old clothes don't fit me anymore...and I desperately want new clothes...but I refuse to buy bigger sizes!!  My hubby said that once I get down to about 5 lbs away from my goal weight that we will go shopping and buy a new wardrobe for me : )  I can't wait!!!

I've also postponed pictures...I don't have many pictures of me during my first year of marriage b/c I don't like the way I look right now.  I'm so sad about that : (

This post caught my eye.

You shouldn't postpone your life, I feel, until you meet some arbitrary goal. Maybe you'll get there. Maybe not, but why postpone your LIFE until you maybe meet some weight or size or.. whatever.

How many guys are you letting disappear because you aren't dating? How many experienes are you missing out on?

Life is to be lived, enjoyed, savored. Save the postponement for the Court Service. LIVE your life. You only get one.

Be the best you that you can be everyday for the rest of your life.  Do not put your life on hold for anything or anybody.

I postpone buying new clothes because I keep hoping that I will lose weight. Plus, I have a whole bunch of clothes that are still new that I bought just before I got pregnant. I can't fit into them yet, and I just can't justify spending money on new clothes when those clothes are waiting for me. I buy some here and there to get by.

I am uncomfortable around people I used to know and people I meet now that I am fat. I know that it is silly to feel that way, but I do. It does hold me back from meeting new people. I feel insecure.

i postponed my life for over a decade because i was so overweight. then one day i realized how much my life sucked, and stopped putting everything on hold, including losing weight. so i guess my answer would be that i haven't postponed living while i'm losing the weight because i've made losing the weight an integral part of my life, and i know it always will be.

and i definitely don't postpone buying clothes; that's most of the fun of losing weight!

Original Post by safina1:

Do you postpone buying new clothes, dating, meeting new people in general  till you lose your extra pounds?

For me, I do that but it is a bit hard because I have gained some of the weight back. That means enjoying my new life will be postponed a little bit.

What do you guys do? does anyone here feel the same way?

i do not buy new clothes if i;ve gained weight because i don't want to feel horrible about myself! So i feel better if the number is a bit smaller

Nope, not at all.  I was going to put off buying new scrub pants to see if I could grab extra smalls, but instead I figured it's another excuse to go shopping.  I work long hours.  I deserve it.

And I sure as hell won't be sitting inside, sulking with this adorable body, even though it could be better, while I wait for my thighs to shrink.  I'll just wear a skirt.

lulufit, I keep doing the same thing. I postpone buying new clothes because I keep hoping that I will lose the weight I have gained back. I just refuse to buy size 14 after I was a size 6. It is winter time and I need a coat and some new clothes. what a problem!

hk, even if I start dating, my weight will always be a problem. I remember one of the posters here said in a pervious discussion that he would question the standards of any guy who wants to date an overweight woman. his comment was very hurtful but I don't know if it was true.

I actually have a pair of pants that stopped fitting after I gained weight last semester.  I'm sure i could fit into them now but I refuse to try them on until I'm closer to my goal.  I've been wearing too-big jeans, T-shirts, and sweatshirts instead of the wardrobe of super-cute clothes that I have, postponing until I get there! it sounds silly buy I think it keeps me motivated.  I do regret my summer a tiny bit though, I came home weighing about 20lbs more than when I left and I felt GROSS! I cried to my mom on more than one occasion! (Luckily she's amazing and understanding) I didn't go out for a lot of the summer, partially because I didn't want to be in pictures, partially because i didn't want people to judge me for gaining back the weight I'd lost when I first went to college, and partially because i didn't want the temptation to ruin my diet.  I missed out on some fun things, but I also felt a bit excused since I worked 70-hour weeks and wasn't technically lying when I said I was tired or I was at work!

I don't like to buy clothes when I'm heavy, and if I have to I'll usually hit the thrift shop.  Sometimes I might not feel like meeting up with people when I'm plump, but it's usually inevitable so I just suck it up and do it.  

I hate having my clothes fit too tight, or having to wear the "bigger" stuff.  But that's life with me because I'm a yo-yo :/

With the bf, too bad if I'm fat and it bugs him.  I've got my own issues about it without having to worry about him :)

The only thing there's any real reason to postpone is buying a brand new wardrobe and that's just because of the cost! That doesn't mean that you should walk around in rags until you get to your 'ideal weight'... the thrift store has racks of stuff just waiting to be bought for a fraction of the cost of new. You only get one life and who knows what's around the corner... you could spend the rest of your life waiting for things to be perfect and it's never going to happen because 'perfect' doesn't exist. There are plenty of happy fat people and plenty of miserable thin people, and mostly the happy ones are the ones who are getting out there and living.

Not in the least.  I'd never put off my life because of my weight.  How superficial and downright silly that would be.  The clothing issue can be managed quite easily if you just organize yourself. I consign my too big clothes to a boutique and use the money to buy things.  I'm lucky enough to have several high end charity thrift shops that carry designer fashions and accessories.  I just have a pared down wardrobe and I've gotten used to that. 

I look with great sadness at one of my friends who has put her life on hold for 2 decades because of wanting to be thin.  She says, I'll do this or that when I lose the weight, or when I get my house cleaned out, or when I get the windows fixed, - one excuse after another.  Meanwhile the poor woman lives like a recluse, still fat and living in chaos.  Is that how you want to end up? 

so what about dating? it is usually an unpleasant experience for an overweight woman. Am I right?

i met my husband while I was overweight and still am for that matter.I think it's sad if you put your life on hold because of your weight, your missing out on so much. You never know if tomorroww is your last day or not---sorry but it's the truth

Original Post by safina1:

Do you postpone buying new clothes, dating, meeting new people in general  till you lose your extra pounds?