Who in your life motivates you?

So last week I fell off the wagon, I didnt go crazy and eat 4000 calories a day, but I didnt exercise, I didnt log my food, and I didnt drink enough water. I just slipped. I think I needed it, needed to break away for just a little while and re-group.

On Friday, my wonderful boyfriend had flowers delivered to me at work, the card said "I love you and Im so proud of you!". It has totally brought me back on track, I feel like my little break coupled with his encouragement was just what I needed to go the distance! Its a long way to go still but I know I can make it!!

So who in your life motivates you to get healthy? Support on a journey like this is so important!

I am going to say more than I should, so sorry in advance.   I just broke up with my bf of 4.5years.   We have been through so much.  He has nursed me through a near death experience, we have had family members die (3), I thought this was the man of my lifetime, but I am not sure.   I need some time to see what is out there.     I want him to do the same thing.    se if there was some girl who DOES like video games -- because I think WOW is the devil  (sorry).   

In short, people who motivate me......  him.      I want him to come see me a year from now, healthy and happy and either be so happy and I am too that we hug and it;s all ok.     OR    he hugs me, and we kiss, and everything is ok. 

Others....   My mom.....  Had the WORST parents....like A Child Called It...    mean mom, doormat/nice dad..   chose to be the best mom in the entire world ever in the history of time.   if I do half as good a job as she did, my prospective kids will be totally fine.    SHe is my how to be a lady role model.    ( :   ROCK ON< MOM!  

also.......  SMurfette ----- all theose blue men.  come on.           LOL

First let me say: I love this thread! Second: I hope everything works out for the best Olivia. My motivation is the same. My boyfriend. I watched him get really comfortable when I was pregnant. I fed him good. Made all his meals everyday. And we both gained so much weight together. Then one day he decided that it all has to go. I was still nursing so I didn't hit it like he did. So, for the last year I have watched him go from over 300 pounds to under 200 pounds. Now he is thin and has one of those wonderful wash board stomachs. So, my motivation is seeing him go to the gym EVERYDAY. Seeing him win second place in a dunk contest and his team win second overall in the basketball tournement. I admire him and want to be as sexy as I can for him. So, that is why I bust my butt everyday on the treadmill and watch what I eat like a hawk.

Then my other motivation(not even a close second though to my first motivation)is sending a picture to my mother, who in a word fight, called me fat last year. I just want to make her eat those words. :)

Living for me, and doing me. This is a great tread, thanks for posting this one.

God is the head of my life, and the captain of my ship.

1st I must say my children, when I heard my baby girl say. Mom you are losing weight it woke up my spirit to what I need to do for my children even more.

2nd the people I take care of. I have to stay focus and strong to care for these people I love so much.

3rd my mother, she took the step and I took it all the way for the both of us. She had the bypass done a few years back, and she made me promise to get a grip on things with this weight. I've gotten my grip, and now it's time for me to help my mother keep her grip.

4th my father and brothers. They tell me all the time.. Keep up the good work, and meet me at the gym a few times a week.

5th and he is last, but my boyfriend. He's not on my case about my weight, but we workout together. He lost 20 pounds and now he is working on toning or bulking up. He's with me in the gym 3 days a week, and yells.. Put that back when I want the wrong thing.

6th on my list is the people on CC. So many of them have pushed me, and kept me accountable for what I need to be doing. They keep me grounded and focus, and when my day is bad. I always have a PM in my box from someone telling me to cheer up and look at what I've done. Or a PM in my box on how did I do this, and I am a strong woman.

Hello,

Can I be incredibly trite and say I am motivating myself? *changes username to "clichewhisperer"*

Actually I am probably motivated by my mum in all the wrong ways. She has been fighting her weight all her life, and I just didn't want to turn out that way.

Good thread by the way!

olivia - hope the post breakup time is OK for you. Been there, done it, bought a selection of Tshirts (most of which say "This sucks").

x

I don't think that anybody in 'real life' motivates me. I have a few family members (aunts, cousins) who have lost weight recently, but they are neither motivating or inspiring, closer words would be arrogant and stuck up. Its almost like now that they are thin, they completely forgot what it's like to be fat. They love to lecture people.

I think that people on CC motivate me, because they really know what its like out there, and some people on here have lost a lot of weight in healthy ways, and are maintaining and I find that amazing, and very motivational because it makes me believe that I can do it.

I think my brothers have the most influence.  They all still workout and they may not eat real healthy or anything but they are all still in shape so I know that I have to be too!

This is a really great thread.  I would say some of my motivations are healthy and others aren't.

One motivation is that I have a health issue that can be partially alleviated if I get back down to my ideal weight.  It affects my fertility so the fact that I might be able to have children if I get the weight off is a motivation...even though wee aren't trying right now, and don't want children right this second.

Another motivation is my husband.  he is so proud of me when I am proud of myself, so I really want him to see me reach my goal.

An unhealthy motivation is that part of me feels like I am in competition with other people in my family.  I see everyone having babies and everyone is so happy, but I can't have kids; least of all right now, so I guess maybe I think if I look better than them it will somehow make me as valuable as them.  I know it is insane and weird, but I really think that way sometimes.

For me it's:

My boyfriend - He makes me feel so loved and attractive.  He doesn't miss an opportunity to tell me he thinks I look good!  (Though I still have a hard time thinking I'm remotely close to pretty.)  I love him so much.  He motivates me because he makes me feel like I can tackle anything.  That I'm worth taking care of, and so by extension worth moving on down to a healthy weight range.

My Mom -  She's a survivor, tough as they come.  She reminds me how important it is to take care of yourself because there are so many health issues we don't have control over.  It's far better to do what you can to prevent the preventable.  She motivates me to take care of my health so I can help take care of others.

My Dad -  He takes a lot without complaining, just plain amazing.  He motivates me to do my best to make him proud and to do things he didn't have a chance to growing up.  He too motivates me to take care of myself by example.  He makes the best he can of every day and is so giving.

All the people on CC -  There are so many amazing people on here, just reading and sharing in everyone's struggles and triumphs is motivating.  That one day at a time, fall of the wagon but always climb back on mentality is infectious (in a good way!).

hey clichewhisperer?   not so cliche....   ( :     I wanted to say that same thing, but felt my other examples were better at the time. 

this thread brightens my day every day.    I am so proud of all of you/us!!!!!!!!!  keep up the good work, hot chicks!!!!!!!!

Well I have to say my main motivation is my health. I have several health problems I am sure I could get rid of just by losing weight.

My Family and my health are equally important because if I am not healthy I can take care of them.

My husband is awesome. We are both overweight and he had been doing the calorie counting with me (because I fix his meals) and about 2 weeks of watching me walk on the treadmill he asked me one nite "can I use that thing" I said sure you can! I sat and watched him walking and the smile on his face was so wonderful. He told me how proud he was of me for doing it .. it made him want to do it.  I made myself a spredsheet and keep my walking, miles etc.. and then he asked me to make him one.. it is so cute! He does not get home until 11:30pm from wk and he will change clothes put on his tennis shoes and start walking. I am already asleep so he will write down his info from the treadmill and give it to me in the morning. I am so proud of him. He has helped me SO much with motivation.

Lastly, I have to say this website! I cant wait to log in my information each day.. it helps keep my day in check. I just love it!

I have a wonderful, supportive husband and a great family who stand behind me 100%.  They come to all of my 5K events since I started running.  Most of all, just looking at my kids motivates me.  I don't want them to have a mom who is over weight and doesn't want to do anything with them.  I was such a bad mom when I was 310 lbs.  Now I am the mom who takes her girls on hikes and teaches them how to eat healthy. 

I will never go back to what I was.  I can't do that to my kids.  They make me proud and provide me with all the motivation I could ever need.

My boyfriend motivates me to some extent, but the rest... it's all self-motivation.  I honestly don't even know why I am so determined to lose weight.  All I know is that I can look BETTER and I have the means to make it happen, by counting calories and exercising.  I guess I'm media-influenced but hey, it's a positive change at least and I'd rather be doing this than scarfing down fried foods and ice cream all day on the couch...

lol believe it or not my cross country team, they are awesome they will run with me when i'm going *girl paced aka slow* and say push it don't walk, and at the meets they cheer me on and follow me out to bring me water. They never say anything bad about how fast i go or how I finish *at the beginning i used to finish last* but told me to try harder, don't let them down and I try my hardest not to. The boys have already told me they'll help me with my holloween candy, they'd eat it for me! lol, Or moto is "We're a family" lol unless your really annoying and bad mouth your teammates lol.

I like this thread as well. In my life it is my husband. He has been sooooo supportive. We have been married 15 years and I have always yo-yo'ed. He has never thought any worse of me no matter what. Since I started this lifestyle, it has not been easy for me. My confidence and self esteem was rock bottom in the beginning. I have always found it difficult to join exercise classes or gym as I am not really a social gal. So my husband, despite the fact he is 6ft tall with a BMI of 22, has committed to help me. We go on long bike rides together and we play badminton regular. He always compliments me, and he is always loving towards me. I get gentle encouragement from him all the time. He even eats the more healthy food along with me (but has his seperate treats) I couldn't do it without him.

The other's are my children!! They don't really know it, but this summer I was able to run about with them and had so much fun!! That in itself was worth a lot. My eldest son is 14 and he has been really sweet. He compliments me quite a lot which is nice!

you guys motivate me!  lol  yep!  you can always find some great motivation right here.

of course, i guess my hubby motivates me.  LOL  the more he eats, the more i want to exercise.

This topic motivated me to get motivated! Most of the times motivation is just a decision. We just choose to do it and we stick to it. It's planning your work and working your plan. I know, it souns so simple to say this...and it is...but the truth is - we need PEOPLE. We need those words of encouragement, words of action, a little push or a buddy to go through the journey with you, someone you can connect with and that will understand your fellings, emotions and your struggles. But most imprtantly, somebody that will not jugde you when you get out of the track. Ahhh..that is so important! That makes us feel so good! It helps us to understand that we CAN do it! 

I am glad I can find this person in my husband and in my mom. My mom is probably the strongest person on this role. I am so thankful for her and for all the encouragement she gave me during my whole life. And for my husband, the sweetest guy on the world, he really believes I can do anything, everthing. That's an awesome thing!!!:o)