A little rant if I may

I started using this site in January/06.  I used it for about 6 months and then went on a hiatus.  So when I was ready to continue losing weight, I came right back to this site that was so useful and supportive to people like me.  People that actually needed to lose weight and wanted to do it the healthy way.

Since coming back here, I have found more forum postings and people crying that they are not a size zero.  These people don't actually NEED to lose weight.  Some might even argue that they are actually doing themselves a disservice using this service.  I find it to be quite unhealthy.  

But I think that it is a far bigger problem with our society in that we all feel not good enough the way we are in this moment.  Everyone equates beauty with being a size zero.  I say that we just accept ourselves as we are and find out that beauty is actually being healthy. 

Don't get me wrong, the tools on here are great if you are a size 2 and you want to watch your calories to maintain what progress you have made....but I don't think we as women need to beat ourselves up if we are a size 2 and work like dogs to get "that number".

Be good to yourselves ladies!

I agree with you Tamara, but I also think it's ok to have the best body you can (in good health of course) I know that's all I want :)

Thanks for the word to the wise :)

i know. its driving me nuts too. i went to the post that asks if we are happy and what size are we now, expecting bigger women talking about the size they hope to be ( a nice conversation talking about goals. ) instead i see 0-3 size women talking about not being a 00. ug. i'm so glad im fat. i'd rathar be fat trying to lose weight, than to be a size 3 and still unhappy.

wait, i didn't mean im fat, unless you compair me to a size 3 woman. that came out wrong. lol. i just mean im glad i do not have a distorted perseption.

silvraynebow, you pretty much hit the nail on the head....many younger women have a distorted perception of what thin is.  Heck, I've seen enough on this site to indicate that I think as some people become more engrossed in their weight loss, they start to get to that mentality of "it's never enough".  Even when they get to their goal weight, they want to lose just 5 lbs more.  Then that 5 lbs turns into 10 lbs and so on....I've been guilty of it too.  It's something that some people just don't realize that they are doing.

I'll admit.  I'm not fat.  I'm at an ideal body weight.  But we always want what we can't have.  I'm a size 5?  Well darnit, now i wanna be a size 4.....

Well thank you for that!  I thought I was crazy...or it was just me!  I do feel sorry for those that think that they need to be a 00 to be happy, healthy and accepted.  In my opinion it borders on eating disorder to be that obsessed when you are that small.

Good luck ladies......from someone who is overweight and comfortable with who they are.  Oh...and i mean that sincerely....I hope you find what you are really looking for.....(i will give you a hint.....you already posess it inside yourself!)

Now off to track my pms calories!

Thanks for posting this.

I am working SO HARD to work out and eat right in order to be healthy for my body type.  Ill never look like a model, and though I am slim, (5'4" 115-118 lbs) I am not built stick skinny.  I have curves, hips and thighs and butt.  Out society is celebrity and size 0 obsessed and its hard.  Im trying to focus on toning and treating my body like the temple God intended it to be and not care so much about the number on the scale.

Thanks fr the reminder.

Here's something to keep in mind, if you're trying to stay super skinny...men do not like super skinny grls.  I found this out in my 20's when I got down to 0-2, from over-exercising, not starving.  I had a major crush on a guy I worked with, who was tall & thin, and told me point blank I was too skinny for him.  I was crushed.  Others told me the same thing and I cut back on the exercising and got up to a 4.  I looked great.  That's when I met my husband.  Later he told me he was afaid he'd "break" me, because I was so small.  Now I'm a 12, trying to get to 6-8 and he loves the added curves (I don't like them too much).  I'll never try for a 4 again, it's too much work and my body has changed after having kids.  I just want to be healthy and like what I see in the mirror.  I am very concerned about all the women on here at such unhealthy low weights, trying to lose more!  It's very sad our society is so obsessed with size, rather than health.

So it didn't use to be like this?  I'm fairly new (started last week) and I definately noticed all the posts by thin girls wanting to be thinner.  I came here from sparkpeople.com, which is another free site like this one, and I never saw many posts at all like that.  Most were people who really need to lose weight, of which I'm one. 

I'm 194 and need to lose at least 50 pounds.  So I found it a bit frustrating to see all these thin girls starving themselves to lose 5 more pounds.  But there are a ton of other on here as well in the same boat as me who really need to lose.  But it is frustrating to see these girls doing that to themselves and I hope they get help and realize they are beautiful just as they are.

I am 5'8 and my usual weight is aroud 120 pounds. I shot up to 140 and I am miserable. And I have posted on here to find out as to why my weight woul shoot up like that in two weeks. Well, if I had been "in shape" at 120 pounds and then gained weight it would not have been a problem. Ans yes at 118 even, I was unhappy with my body. The scale does not matter as much as how in shape you are. I lost and lost to try to be healthy but I still had A LOT of loose flab. I was not in shape. Yes, some people on here are a size 2 and starve to lose weight they don't need to lose, BUT other people like myself come here for support and advice to find out how to be healhy and in shape not just skinny. I would rather weigh more and be in shape than to weigh less and still just have mostly body at. All we can do is offer support and motivation and hope and pray that the other person just wants to be healthy.