My little sister's overweight

How can I get my mom to understand that?
She keeps buying cakes and junkfood..... and complains about how she's eating.

How should i tell my mom to get better stuff+ be more .... knowing(?)?
And how can i help my sister lose weight?

 

as for me...... i can't stop eating so much. i over eat on every single one of my meals... and i have more than the average # of meals. And i've been eating more junkfood my mom buys like hostesscakes and stuff... i can't help it. the foods THERE so i eat it anyway.
i need help controling :(

 

buy my sister now again......... i told her she needs to eat better but screams at me that she doesnt care *shes EIGHT years old*......
did i give her somekind of problem????

is it MY fault? :(

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NO ITS NOT your fault!  Your sister is eight and though you feel responsible for her well being it is ultimately up to your mother to feed her healthy, and you for that matter.  She doesn't care because she does not know yet the consequences of being overweight.

Play with her.  Wrestle, run around outside, play simon says, red light green light stuff like that.  Get her moving. And tell mom, hey look can you buy some fruit instead of twinkies. 

Stop trying to take on your moms responsiblities and take that energy and move with your sis.  Hope this helps sweets.

stop! don't tell your sister what to eat! i was overweight as a child and whenever someone told me to eat better i would eat WORSE and MORE to get back at them. I know its not logical but thats just the way i would feel.  Just try and get your sister to be more active, try and learn to cook some good tasting heathy snacks or meals. how fat is your sister? if she's just a little chunky she will probably even out during puberty. i'm am still a bit overweight but i know know how to eat well i work out every day and i have been vegetarian for years. i did all this without anyone telling me how to eat or work out and i've been working on losing all the "baby fat".

my older cousin did the same thing to her little sister always telling her to eat less and work out.  and now the girl is anorexic/bulimic and has a ton of problems. I think she began to think that losing weight was the only way to make people love her.  

i understand your problem... my mom keeps tons of junk food in the house!!!  only difference is she can eat it all and still be skinny whereas if i ate it all i'd be a million pounds.... while it's of course still your decision what you eat, it's very hard when there's so much right in front of you.  the biggest thing you can do is show your mother how very important it is for you to all be healthy and not be overweight and limit the amount of junk food in the house... maybe if she really wants something she can keep it in her room? or in a sepearte place? and eat it when you guys aren't around? or maybe she can turn it more into a reward then stuff that's just "normal" to eat... a treat wednesday nights ice cream night? something like that? 

as for your sister, she's still young so she can afford to splurge but at the same time, the habits you get as a child will stick with you a long time... don't press her too much not to eat or tell her she's fat...t hat can definately backfire... try to get her involved in picking out and eating healthy foods and snacks with you.... get her to exercise more, even if it means doing it with her... or have her pick something she likes and join a team.

 

 

you should have a serious talk with your whole family.  Chances are, if your sister doesnt change now she will always struggle with weight.  Maybe if you get some other adults in the family in on it?  Like a grandparent or uncle or aunt?  Good luck!

It's not your fault! But I wouldn't tell her what to eat - kids hate that! Mom needs to have healthy food around the house and give your sister a choice of what to eat. For example, your sister should help determine what to eat at dinner. But she's only allowed to choose between two options - say broccoli or spinach. This way, your sister can be a part of the decision making process, but she ends up eating healthy food anyway. Kids shouldn't be allowed to eat whatever they want, because if left to their own devices they'd all be overweight!

I think the best route to go is to talk to your parents about all seeing a family doctor.  Have her pediatrician discuss her weight with her, have your doctor discuss your weight with you, and the same for your parents.

Unfortunately if your sister doesn't want to lose weight, she's not going to.  All you can do is hope a visit with a doctor will get thoughts through to your parents and you can all work on improving your lives.

When I was 8 years old I was chubby - let's face it, she knows she's chubby. All young girls know how they stack up against what they see on TV.  I was lucky and somehow my mother encouraged me to start playing soccer and then volleyball and slowly the junk food started disappearing from our house and I realized ice cream wasn't a breakfast food. I lost the weight without my family telling me I was fat.

I agree, this isn't something you should talk to your sister about.  It will only make her obsessed about her eating and weight at a young age and I don't wish that on anyone.

You need to go to your parents, what house needs twinkies and junkfood throughout? Of course you can't stop yourself, of course she can't. If I had junk in my house I would eat it too.

Have a heart to heart with your Mom and tell her she isn't helping you be healthy and she isn't helping your sister. Maybe your Mom needs to understand what healthy food is and why junk food should be an occassional treat and not an everyday food to be kept in the house.  

 

 

When I was 8, my mom would make me fresh cookies for when i got home everyday.  If I started to gain a bit of weight, which I would if I ate too many, she would cut back how many cookies she made (maybe only 1 every other day) and she would make me get out of the house for some of my play. 

 I think the most important thing about how she helped me manage my weight was she never mentioned it or made a big deal, she would just casually encourage me to do the right things.

I was the stubborn headed kid who would have eaten more if you told me I was putting on a little bit of weight, so it worked out well for me.  Maybe remind your mom that it's her responsibility to watch your sisters weight, because an 8 year old most definitely should NOT be thinking about things like that.   And as the big sister, if you took some time everyday to play some active games with her and maybe one of her friends, you would become an idol to her.

One really simple way to help is to simply not buy the junk food. It might seem drastic or "omg- I can't do that" but it will help! Replace your cupboards with low fat popcorn, veggies, fruits and nuts. Also, try not to "yell" or "force" it upon her. This will break her spirit and she will become worse. As a child who over ate, I know that if my mother had said to me "Meagan, you cannot eat that- it will make you fat" I would have rebelled by eating twice as much. Now that I am older I have realized my habits, given them up and made a total life change and my mom is thrilled (my family too). Also, children live by example. As her older sister, she probably looks up to you for the world! So if she sees you eating all the things you tell her not to, she is getting two very different signals she does not know how to interpret. If you start eating healthier and making simple changes each week, then she will see the change in you. And soon she will catch on because she wants to "be just like" her older sister. And then you can keep it up (the good eating) because you both enjoy it! Also (again, haha), get your mother in on this. If she does all the grocery shopping ask her not to buy the junk foods. Tell her your concerns and approach all three of yours health with 2 adult attitudes.

and last but not least, baby steps! One week, try cutting out one of your favorite junk foods. The next, go out on a family walk around the neighborhood for some exercise. The next, start controlling your portion sizes and drink more water.

you get the picture! GOOD LUCK and I really hope this helps God Bless

Please pardon this reality check, but.....

Dipped doesn't say how old she is or how much she or her sister weighs and their heights.  From her post one can reasonably deduce that she is in her early teens at most.  And we all know that girls that age have a tendancy towards drama...especially when it involves appearances. 

Not that this is the case...only that one should probably find out if that is the case before dishing out advise on how she should should help her sister----who not her responsibility and may not need it at all.

Just a thought.....

I think some problem lies in that you're telling your sister she should eat better and in no way leading by example. If she sees you eating all this junk food, why should she not be able to? In the end it really comes down to self control. Rather than grab a hostess pack, ask your mom to buy baby cut carrots and low fat veggie dip (quite reasonable calorie amount per serving). Or if she insists on buying unhealthy foods, try to get her to buy the portion controlled 100 calorie packs and limit yourself to just one a day.

You'll never convince your sister to eat healthier but if she sees you eating healthier, she may just be willing to start eating better foods.

Original Post by kay_h:

Please pardon this reality check, but.....

Dipped doesn't say how old she is or how much she or her sister weighs and their heights.  From her post one can reasonably deduce that she is in her early teens at most.  And we all know that girls that age have a tendancy towards drama...especially when it involves appearances. 

Not that this is the case...only that one should probably find out if that is the case before dishing out advise on how she should should help her sister----who not her responsibility and may not need it at all.

Just a thought.....

Haha, sorry... could have just asked though.

My sister IS overweight, and i know. I don't know her exact weight, but its somewhere near the 80's and the doctor said she was overweight......

and yeah. I'm 15. 5 ft2. and i weigh 115... prob 117 now.

 

 

Okay, i took some ur advices.... i try SO hard to eat less and get rid of MY overeating problem (people even say i eat too much.....).... and i USUALLY am a helthy eatin person.... just that the snacks looked SO good all of the sudden... probably b/c i'm so tired nowadays b/c midterms *overnow!! :D*
- so until now, i was a HEALTHYIEST eater XP...... but ate too much....
- my sister eats too much... but of the things she likes...

 

Kay... thanks all. I really like this topic best out of all the other ones i've made.
I will
1. stop posting on this site..... :D
2. try to controll myself and eat only when i'm hungry and not when i'm bored or other stresses
3. Treat my sister in a kind way and still somehow get her to eat better
4. exercise.......... or try :(


bye...... :D