"Loaded" Language-please help

I need help with determining what constitutes as "loaded language".  My girlfriend accuses me of this a lot and has asked me to refrain from using it.  I'm thinking that she's hallucinating but I want to figure this out with some more help. 

I can give some examples but it might get confusing. The point is she has asked me to refrain from words like "lie", "accusation" because they are "loaded" or "judgemental".

Does loaded language also refer to expressions like "verbal slap in the face"? 

She uses a lot of references to violence and trauma and it really freaks me out.  She insists it's not due to PTSD rather her expertise in recognizing violence. 

Help me please.  I'm a very literal thinker and speaker and use dictionary definitions in my speech all the time.  I'm being told that it's wrong.

It looks like a control issue.  Nonetheless, maybe you need to get another friend who is real.  As a side note, "loaded language" might be her way of saying "shutup" to things she needs to hear.  It's like the "don't be judgmental" card people play.  When one plays that card, they are an automatic hypocrite since when they judged someone "judgmental" they have just "judged".  It's funny, but it is true anyway.  If one has to "walk on eggshells" in the presence of a friend, why bother?

"Loaded language" is right! From HER! Sounds like she knows how to use a lot of psychobabble to keep you from expressing yourself, nitpicking on your choice of words rather than the message itself.

thanks all.  I think I know what I need to know and will deal with it accordingly.  and the nuclear fallout that will happen afterwards. 

BTw, this is a girlfriend girlfriend.

Original Post by mrsdagle:

thanks all.  I think I know what I need to know and will deal with it accordingly.  and the nuclear fallout that will happen afterwards. 

BTw, this is a girlfriend girlfriend.

 Yup, control.

When it's just your friend, it's much easier to tell them to knock it off, their language is offensive, whatever...

Have you sat your GF down and explained that HER use of violent terms makes YOU feel abused? I don't think the term rape should be used for anything other than what it is, and maybe she needs to understand that.

Her: "Your continuing this argument when I didn't want to continue makes me feel raped!"

You: "No, what me continuing the argument makes you feel would be 'cornered' or perhaps 'pursued'. Raped is a physical violation against one's will, one that I have had happen to me, and I don't appreciate you using the term so lightly. I am not 'raping' you by continuing this conversation. You are demonizing me and making me out to be the bad guy in this argument, and I do not like how that makes me feel." 

Your girlfriend has a fullblown case of the crazies, literally. Good luck with the breakup, it'll most likely involve more insanity.