How long do you wait?

I'm just curious, but how long do you wait before you sleep with a new partner, or do you jump in first night?

Do you think men show more respect for women who hold back or does that not go for anything anymore?

How long would be considered too long to wait....more one for the guys to answer i guess.

Does it matter to you how many partners they have had (men and women).

Do you tell a new partner how many people you have had sex with casual and relationship wise?

How long do you wait before you sleep with a new partner?
When we both wanted to have sex, we had sex.

Do you think men show more respect for women who hold back?
I would tend to respect a guy who wants to like the girl he is going to have sex with. I'm thinking, he'd have to talk to her to find out.

Do you tell a new partner how many people you have had sex with?
After a few years, most of us compare notes.  We wanted to know about each other's first time, last time, worst time etc.

Original Post by andie-joe:

I'm just curious, but how long do you wait before you sleep with a new partner, or do you jump in first night?

Do you think men show more respect for women who hold back or does that not go for anything anymore?

How long would be considered too long to wait....more one for the guys to answer i guess.

Does it matter to you how many partners they have had (men and women).

Do you tell a new partner how many people you have had sex with casual and relationship wise?

I wait as long as my partner and I want to wait, which usually isn't very long.

Many of my partners have turned into long-term relationships, and it wasn't an issue that we jumped into bed early. Some guys might lose respect for a woman because of having sex with her early, but as others pointed out, he must then also lose respect for himself, and if he doesn't recognize that the double standard is unfair then he's a sexist jerk that you don't want to be with anyway.

"Too long to wait" in my opinion would be past the point that you know you both want to have sex and you're just stretching it out to get some sort of "reward" for it. At that point it no longer is about genuine desire, it's about some unspoken social contract or commitment and I think that's what turns guys off at that point - the hidden expectations that sex should "buy" you something from them, either financially or emotionally.

I don't care how many partners they have had unless it's a really high number (depending on their age and opportunity level, of course) AND if they haven't always been protecting themselves. I do like hearing stories about previous lovers, but that's just a weird trait of mine. I don't disclose my stories or number unless specifically asked, and I will try to explain that they might not really want to know (as Jules mentioned). If they insist, I will tell them and let the chips fall where they may.

EDIT: I actually think I would be far more wary about being with a man who had been with a lot of other men, simply because of the demographics of HIV. Same applies to an IV drug user. (Just noticed you asked about previous partners "male or female").

Just for kicks, thought maybe the young people would like to get an older persons view. My husband and waited 6 months, and got married about a month later, that was 33 yrs ago.

Good grief if I had to start dating again I'd be lost by reading the posts. But it would be a long time if I dated someone. No casual sex for me, it would have to be a committed relationship, but I also would never marry again and he couldn't move in with me. Hang out, dinner, vacations, fun.

Here is a story a teacher I work with told me the other day. She got married last summer. Her hub is in the army and her ex boy (who is just married also) ends up in the same shop as her new husband. Her hub is actually her ex BF's boss now. And of course the exBF's new wife also knows about this. The guys in the shop are having a field day talking about this one. Talk about an uncomfortable situation.

I am thinking of giving it up to Bob soon...been married 17.5 years...it seems to be time.

But ONLY with the lights off and in the missionary position of course.