looking for 5'3 to 5'5 ladies:)

Hey! Im 5'4 and 108 lbs.. 15 years old....

I think i should probably gain a few pounds... even though i really dont want to...

I was hoping anybody who's 5'3-5'5 could post your weight and age... maybe your calories range... whether you're trying to lose/maintain/gain... and maybe even a picture of yourself if you have one?

I sound like a stalker... sorry.. Im sorta recovering from an eating/exercise disorder and i have a completely distorted body image of myself. Its helpful to see what others around my stats are doing to maintain their weight.

thank you so much!

Please don't do this....  don't benchmark yourself against other people because someone will come along as say 'I'm 5'5, 130lbs, eat 2500 cals a day and look and feel great'  and the next will say 'I'm 5'5, 100lbs eat nothing and I look & feel great' and you'll want to be that person in spite of yourself.   You know you will.

You've been very ill and you're still recovering from that illness.   Go with the advice that your doctor tells you because he/she has your mental and physical health as their top priority.  Work with your family, school and friends to find self-confidence and self-esteem beyond the bathroom scales.  That's how you'll stop being self-conscious and start to be happy in your skin....

Im just curious what others ages and weights are. my doctors tell me to be 110 lbs! i think thats actually to thin! i wouldnt mind being fit and athletic and a little heavier.

Do what your doctor tells you because they know your condition and your history.   Other people aren't you and haven't recently been admitted to hospital with heart problems.  Your doctors are currently asking you to maintain and your weight is dropping.... so you need to eat more than you're doing in order to hit that first target.  My feeling is that they'll stabilise you for a while, let you get into a good eating regime and then ask you to step up the intake when they think you're ready.

Words of wisdom from gi-jane, as always.

I've found that weight/BMI is a really crappy indicator of how people look, anyway- so it would be useless to get that info from people. There are so many other variables...like your frame, how fat is distributed across your body, how much muscle you have, etc. A lot of people who say that they are unhappy with their weight are actually unhappy with their body shape. Don't worry about a number, just work towards feeling OK with yourself. Congrats on beginning your recovery process, and good luck.

When I was 15 years old I lived on coffee and white bread, I'm not sure how I survived. I was totally obsessed with my weight because all the girls around me were skinny. I was 5'3.5 and 130lbs, but I thought I was a fat cow. Now that I'm older I know that's a perfectly normal weight, but I wish young girls would eat better. It gets easier when you are older, being young can be so hard.

As a 30 + year old who jumped on this dieting bandwagon at around your age...please do not waste your wonderful youthful years obsessing weight and the scales.... it is a never-ending depressing sad hole you will slip deeper and deeper into...and literally waste your life.

. What i would do to be 15 again and focus on other things ... it will truly waste your life.   Its not too late!! Take GI-Janes advice.   Gain self-confidence through other avenues. 

Thank you so much for the fantastic advice! You guys rock... I know i should stop obsessing about food. I feel so abnormal... im a teenager for crying out loud!!!

Here's my plan (im typing it out here so i feel more compelled to actually stick with it):

Today- Jan. 6: Eat 3 balanced meals a day and snacks when i am hungry. Eat foods i crave regardless of calories

Jan. 7- Jan. 13: Do not count calories! Eat "normally" throughout the day, but write down what I eat. At the end of the day, tally up roughly how many calories I ate. Record number. At the end of the week see what my average intake was....      If I am UNDER my maintaince number, simply start eating more each day. If im over, cut back a tad.

Jan. 14- Jan.20: Same as previous week. (Continue counculating my weekly average intake until it is roughly my maintaince level.)

Jan. 21- Jan. 27: Stop tallying up calories and live a normal life!!!!!!!! woo hooo!!!!!!

One suggestion I'd make is the Jan 7 - 13 part where you say 'If I'm over, cut back a tad'... as you're trying to gain weight that's not necessary.  

And the second suggestion.... Jan 14 - 20....  don't write down your food or calculate your weekly average intake any more.  Cut loose from calorie-counting entirely from that point.  It'll feel strange at first but after three or four weeks you'll forget you ever did it.

ok gi-jane! thanks! ill see how it goes...