Looking for people that are not easily offended to talk fitness.

I am crass, tactless, completely insensitive, and find myself constantly insulting people without intention. Therefore, I would like to start a group for people like me, if there are any, who can help motivate/ get motivated without getting angry when I say something completely inappropriate. I promise to conform to the basic guidelines as set out by our wonderful mediators, but I can't promise I won't encourage discussions about sex, politics, and any other such drama-starters.

In short, I know that somewhere, over the rainbow, poorly motivated sarcastic wiseguys like myself are looking for a kick in the pants, and I'm here for you friends. Let me kick you in the pants. (Metaphorically of course)

The people you mention are the people I disclude from this group. I never get any. EVER. It's very depressing for me, especially considering I am a filthy bugger, but I appreciate that other people have what I want. If anything it gives me hope. I feel no pity for other people, and want no pity from them. So I guess it depends on the person. It's not PC to mention vodka to an alchi, but who cares? They're probably so sloshed they won't even remember... *ducks*

There's always self love ...I would not feel bad for anyone not getting any..nor would I not mention it..I turn everything into some sort of sexual thing..thats just me though.

"SHOULD I/YOU" is very different than "DO I/YOU ACTUALLY"

For myself - Yes - I feel sorry for people who don't get as much action as they want. Because I damn well know how frustrating it can be. But do I expect the sympathy when I'm down and out in that department? No. Definitely not. I might joke about it though - because really - my sex drive is kind of hilarious.

Dieters: Sure I feel sorry for people who can't have the icecream - because I will feel sorry for myself when I can't have icecream. But it wouldn't stop me from eating it in front of someone if I wanted it and knew they were dieting. And I don't expect others to restain themselves either around me. But you shouldn't expect the sympathy side of things. 

As far as mentioning/consuming vodka? I like booze. And I will drink booze. Especially vodka. Although I can honestly recommend not consuming 1L of it in one night (experience counts for something...) And I will talk about it too. And I will drink it infront of you. ANd I don't know why but when its a medical condition like alcoholism (or any of those ED's you can't escape from hearing about on here - I hate myself for even bringing that part of it up) I feel less/not at all sorry about being senstive to it?!?!  Perhaps because I don't have that problem myself so I just don't understand its hurdles or the addictive qualities of it.

But assuming the medical conditions have addictive qualities similar to sex then maybe I can be more understanding if I think of it as someone who just can't get some.... A PERSONAL REVELATION!!!

(oh and self love sure - but its still just not quite the same)

Fitness/Food talk:
Do I skip half of my afternoon snack and put more tofu in my stir fry tonight so that I have more protein? Or do I eat the snack so I have energy for my weight training after work?

No pity from me.  I'm not going to feel bad for enjoying the things I do just because someone else has an addiction and/or lack of a partner.  My husband has been clean for 15 years and told me from the start of our relationship (14 yrs. this September) that his addiction is his problem to work through.  I do support him, but if I want a cocktail, I have one.  He's cool with that.  Those that aren't have got a lot of work to do. 

It's rude to expect everyone to restrain themselves around you. And about talking about sex. I mean, too bad. I won't eat ice cream but go ahead, at least that way I can live vicariously through you.

Eat the snack.

So I recently came out in another post as a trolly b*tch and someone was all, "Wow..." Like I should be ashamed.

Whatever. Sorry I'm not desperate for acceptance, and don't devote my life to pleasing others and making sure other people are comfortable. Hence me crawling back to the dark corner I've carved in the motivational forum.

Go team go!

ok, im so jumping in this again but bf needs his computer! & i guess i have to go to the gym before they close. but ill be back. i have a feeling this thread might be moved to the lounge. unless we keep sex as a motivator to lose weight & be healthy.

Original Post by rnjt:

ok, im so jumping in this again but bf needs his computer! & i guess i have to go to the gym before they close. but ill be back. i have a feeling this thread might be moved to the lounge. unless we keep sex as a motivator to lose weight & be healthy.

Sex motivates me...and I want to lose weight and be healthy!

Oh YES! I so much wanted to be the one that gets the 69! WOOHOO!

Ok... the snack is being consumed as I type.

To be honest: I like to be the positive person on most forums. Some people are really delicate and stupid too and just want to hear something actually helpful to them. 

IMPORTANT ADDITION: I'm glad I found one where I don't have to be that positive nice sensitive person. haha

BUT - I love reading the comments from the tough love beeitch's who say what I was thinking in my head. haha. So keep on being that beeitch.

Tough love is the way to go.

I'm off for today - gym - tofu dinner (and just to be clear I AM NOT A VEGETARIAN!) and then YOGA (if I make dinner in time to get there)

And then a long weekend of not behaving at all.... why do i do this to myself... I"ll make up for it during the week I suppose.

Okay, so I don't find anything here crass or insensitive....it sounds like good honest conversation to me-right on! LOL!  

We won't go to the lounge, I wrote "Go team go!". They can't do that to me, I'll get whiney and cry and plead the fifth of whatever.

Sex motivates me. As in: if I lose weight I will get more sex. That's a damn good motivator.

I will continue to be a b*tch because, alas, I can be nothing more and nothing less.

YYYeeeeeeeaaahhhh long weekend. I'm going to see Jack Johnson at the event centre I'm working at this weekend. *speaking of sex, I would like to take a run at JJ for sure.*

There's a wine made just for the Babe In Total Control (of) Herself... It's an easy drinking red called:  B*TCH.  From Australia...good stuff.  And the yang for that yin-- a beer called Arrogant B*stard (Stone brewery).

Who could ask for more?

I'm intrigued. I happen to be a b*tch, and I LOVE red wine. Also love beer and have been called (once or twice...) an Arrogant B*stard. Maybe the Aussie's aren't so bad...

So I'm right ticked because as of today I have lost 30 lbs in 4 months and I don't feel any different. Granted, I've got a LONG way to go, I feel like I should be able to notice a difference of some sort. No one I know has mentioned anything either. Be that because they don't notice or they're afraid to mention to me, I may never know. But damnit, 30 lbs should be a pant size or SOMETHING. Less jiggly arms, a thinner neck, ANYTHING. I mean really, COME ON.

Now there's a possibility it's Karma. That would seriously suck, because I totally deserve it.

LOL! 

I have been called both for a very long time...I speak my mind and know what I know. So, yep, I'm celebrating what I am instead of waiting for someone to pat me on the head and tell me what a good little girl I am.  (I'd bite their arm off in a minute)  

Here's to speaking our mind and knowing what we know!

Cheers!

opps, hit the button 2x....

Original Post by m_c_85:

I'm intrigued. I happen to be a b*tch, and I LOVE red wine. Also love beer and have been called (once or twice...) an Arrogant B*stard. Maybe the Aussie's aren't so bad...

So I'm right ticked because as of today I have lost 30 lbs in 4 months and I don't feel any different. Granted, I've got a LONG way to go, I feel like I should be able to notice a difference of some sort. No one I know has mentioned anything either. Be that because they don't notice or they're afraid to mention to me, I may never know. But damnit, 30 lbs should be a pant size or SOMETHING. Less jiggly arms, a thinner neck, ANYTHING. I mean really, COME ON.

Now there's a possibility it's Karma. That would seriously suck, because I totally deserve it.

30 lbs in 4 months?  That rocks lady!  I have lost 3 and gained it back and have 27 to go.

Check out before and after pictures-You have to look different! 

Why do we see the worst in ourselves???  We gotta knock that *&^% off.

As for Karma-you got serious good Karma points for starting this forum.  So there.

Yah, if I'd let pictures of me be taken before, I might have something to go on there. But, alas, no such photos exist. And I think you're right, I should get serious brownie points for pointing out this niche. At least all you have to lose is 30 lbs. That was water weight for me. I still have another 60-70 lbs to go! But I'm super duper optimistic.

So um...are people talking about sex or just talking about how un-PC they are? I heard sex and thought I'd come check it out ;)

There was another thread about sex and whether losing weight has made you want it more. My answer to that was, not really, I have always had a fairly high sex drive, even at my largest. I have never been shy with my partners, that would suck the fun out of it. Though I am not keen on the side view in my mirrored closet doors...that view can definately stand improvement.

When I first started talking to my boyfriend, we were chatting online and I told him that I don't understand why people are so reluctant to be frank about sex, about what they like how much they like etc...so many incpompatibility issues could be avoided if people were just honest about that stuff up front. As a woman, I risk being labelled as a hussy or a nympho if I dare to bring the subject up too early and (god forbid) admit I want it a lot and often and creatively....I went on this rant after just coming out of a relationship with a man who had claimed to have a very high sex drive but in reality, was happier on his computer than in bed. And before that, I spent 5 years waiting for my SO to sort out all the **** he said was preventing him from being willing to have sex. ACK. ANyway I am really glad I was honest and open with this one, we have the most fabulous sex life, as we determined compatibility very early on, and he was really impressed with me for that, bonus!

So my question to the men in here is, do you consider a woman too forward if she talks about sex? Are you honest about your preferences? And to the women...are you afraid of/have you faced the same kinds of prejudices I mentioned?

Original Post by 1aprilfool:

"I've heard you are supposed to "do what you love" for your job. That means I should be a prostitute (high class of course... we're not talking sketchy crack whore here).  Can you imagine getting PAID to be a horn-dog?!" 

That is so real!  Thanks for that.  I'm a wh**e at heart.  I'm always thinking naughty thoughts.  An 18-year-old boy ain't got nothin' on me.  That's why I'm a smutty romance reader.  Whew!  The stuff those authors come up with. 

Nora Roberts (author)  And I am probably being totally lame here, but those are some pretty good smut reads.  I'm waiting for the princess and vampire to go to it!  Ye-haw! 

This sex stuff (in my case-total lack of) is killing me, the only date I can get right now is one from the dried fruit isle in the produce department.  Story of my life!!!! Fess up and give me some hints.