Looking for a weight loss buddy!

After loosing over 50 pounds I kinda fell off the wagon. My goal weight has always been 115. I got down to 126 and I kinda just forgot about dieting. I didn't gain anything back, not until recently when my daughter was seriously injured. All my focus went to her and with weekly trips to a larger city near-by to take my daughter to a specialist and for surgeries, and lots of fast food and gas station snacks...... I have gained some weight back. My daughter is not yet well and it depresses me, but seeing the scale over 130 every morning these days is not helping. I want to get back on track and actually reach my goal this time! I am hoping to find someone to e-mail with so we can help each other out. Hopefully someone with the same amount of weight to loose. I am 26 years old, a large framed 5'1", currently 132 (!) and want to be 115 by my 27th birthday in May, if not sooner! If there is anyone out there like me that wants to e-mail with me for moral support, weigh ins, and menu ideas let me know!

LONG reply short?  YES ----  sign me up.  

I would give my left arm (or leg) to be 115.      I would settle for finally breaking the 150 mark, but I will get there.   I keep trying until I die.   =P 

what did you have in mind?    ( :  

What did I have in mind?

Just someone to talk to! Moral support.......someone to keep me accountable, hopefully, lol. And if you have any good ideas on yummy, filling, low calorie things to eat....that always helps too!

hi!    sounds good. all about the  motivation

what kind if things did you have in mind ---  sweet, savory, dinner. etc??    ( :    I have a million 

Hi

I used to be very athletic till a year ago when i started eating like anything. I am still not sure why but now I hope to go back to my original shape soon. I am 22 years old, 5'8" and weigh around 180 pounds and my goal is to loose around 45 pounds. Would appreciate support and motivation from everyone.

Hey! Sign me up.. I can help you. What do you need help with?

I can start off by sending you this great link that a friend set me to. I love it, and this how I learn new things to do at home.

www.bodyrock.tv

I really love this link, and the things this girl shows you is neat. Check it out. She has a ab buster on there, and I love doing it. Really hurts, and I use 10 pound weights when I do it. I might need to down size to a 2 pound weight.. hehehe.. NOT! I love a challenge, and that abs workout is a great challenge for me with the added weight. Check it OUT!

Jan101, I know you are a runner.. My ? is.. Did you start off with the 5k?

hi to all  ( : 

here's to motivating each other  ---  

cool vid link, lynn!   EDIT TO ADD:   oops.   I love running.   not me, lynn, I should have started with C25K, but I just did my own thing....  mapped out some different routes on mapmyrun.com and just went for it.   I started out just walking 2 summers ago and just slowly added jogging and ending a runner.   YAY!!

as far as food goes, afton, I LOVE IT  (lol)   Obviously if you have 50 lbs like you did, you know what you are doing....   I started to make a big  list of snacks and stuff, but after re-reading....maybe you need more dinner ideas?    anywho...I f am way off, just redirect me and I will try again  =P     I like to work smarter, not harder....   on weekends, a lot of time I will bake a bunch of chicken and then plan to use that all week ---   chicken and baked potatoes (so fast and easy), chicken tacos, chicken salad, BBQ chicken, I made chicken noodle soup this week when I was sick ---   only took 15 minutes to throw in the crockpot and I am still eating on it.    I like my crockpot for TONS of stuff---  epecially in the winter...   veggie soup, roast and veggies, pepper/steak/onions....   I like to make enough I can eat it for a while and I have extra to freeze for lunches or fast dinners some other time.  

made myself hungry  =P 

Well Jen. I lost 50 pounds by not really eating any meals, so to speak. I would have coffee for breakfast. A sugar free energy drink for lunch. I would tie in a few slim fasts when I was starving. Maybe a few Jell-O's. And end my day with nearly a pound of steamed broccoli or carrots so I was so stuffed I new I wouldnt eat anything else before I went to bed! Eventually I started cutting out slim fast and adding in Bowls of oatmeal or Fiber One cereal. I think I did really good for a full year......as I got tired of one thing I was able to tweak what I ate to keep myself satisfied while still eating at a deficit and loosing weight. When I broke 130 I got a little too confident maybe? Got to 126 and I remember thinking that day "I could easily be 125 by tomorow if I am really good, and then I will officially only be 10 pounds away from my goal". I think that thought alone sabotaged me. I really got too confident. I felt really good about myself. Thought I looked great.  And I guess I ultimately thought I could loosen up a bit. Started eating whatever. Some days I would weigh 127, some days 128. But I knew that that was just normal. For weight to fluctuate when you weren't literally counting how many calories you ate to ensure I slightly lesser number on the scale the next day.  But I didn't freak out because I wasnt gaining at least!

Well, now I have. And I am having a hard time figuring out how to loose again!! The only things I feel to eat are things I SHOULDNT eat if I want to loose weight!

So, I don't really know exactly what I am asking for. Just if anyone has any ideas that REALLY work for them or meals any of you guys think are just the bee's knee's throw it out there. I'm open to all suggestions!

Well, somedays it's hard for me to do breakfast at 6 or 7. So what I do is have a protein shake or a yogurt smoothie. I took myself off slim fast, because I felt that was just too much sugar for me. I wasn't losing any weight with them. So what I do in the morning around 10.. I call 10 my breakfast. I have 2 egg whites and a piece of toast. With some laughing cow cheese on it. Then around noon or one. I have a chicken salad. Very small with a half of grapefruit. Then around dinner.. I have maybe what everyone else is having if I feel lilke eating what everyone else is eating. Then around 10 at night. That's when I have my last snack. I have  2 apples, 2 tbsps of peanut butter, and I cut the apples up and dip them in the peanut butter, and that holds me until 10 the next day. But early in the morning I do have a protein shake before I go workout. I feel I eat more food at night time, because our dinner is loaded with so many calories, and I can easily put away 570 calories at dinner time. What ever it is we are having, and I do try to eat. 2 to 3 servings of fruit, and 3 to 4 servings of veggies, and 80-90grams of protein, and watching my fat grams.. Keeping them around 35-45 grams per day.

I hope this helps you out some.

Hi aftonmae,

It is very difficult to control oneself from the food we want to eat but I guess this is the price we have to pay to loose weight. I think if we can keep ourself  stuffed with healthy food then it would not be a problem. My problem is that I feel like eating every hour or so, trying very hard to control myself. There are a lot of good recipes on this site which you can look through and watch the calories in them.

I can be your support buddy if you are interested.

P.S I hope your daughter gets better soon.

first, second manav's well wishes to your daughter.  

second, I'd call that the old school cigs and diet Coke diet.   Been there, done that.   It is a good call to eat lots of veggies and other very filling foods, but you gotta eat some other real food too.  =P   anything I say sound good?   are you a quick and easy meal maker, OR a cooking cook who likes to take their time?  I am a lazy girl, but I will put the time in up front to eat well easily....ie cook in bulk for myself....

things that REALLY work for me when I get stuck or am not losing like I like....  

1. water, water, and more water
2. lots of fiber, fruits and veggies, salads, enough lean protein, less processed / more fresh foods in general
3. EXERCISE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   even if it is only 30 minutes of plain, old walking is helps SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
4. getting enough sleep is key for me too. I have terrible insomnia
   

Thanks guy so much for you support.

It's funny but everything you guys are telling me is stuff I know! It seems I have just slowly forgotten all of it along the way, all of these basic "weight loss" principles. Eating lots of fiber, drinking lots of water, getting my fruits and veggies and protein. Stuffing myself with lots of healthy things, lol. Which was something I definitely used to do, like I said, eating a ton of steamed broccoli or carrots at night, when I am most hungry and most likely to screw up the whole day...... Working out..... I guess I just got lost. Hearing it from you guys I think is re-motivating me!

I can't wait to start going to the gym again. I started going about 4 months ago, for the first time in my life. I wasn't loosing weight but I was getting nice definition in places and felt good about myself. RUNNING on the tread mill which is something I never thought I would catch myself doing.... Now I WANT to work out. I miss it....

When my daughter was injured I quit going. She was in no shape to be taken out in public and put in a playroom every day while I worked out. Working out seemed selfish all of the sudden after she was hurt. Not to mention the germs in gyms, let alone a playroom in a gym. She was at high risk for infection. How she injured herself was, she was wearing a plastic headband, took it off, bent it, and it broke. When it broke it threw her hand into her face with the broken headband in her fist, and she stabbed herself in the eye with it. Deep into the eye. Truly one of those freak accidents. Half the fluid in her eye drained out, and she lost 30% of her iris, she also recently had her lens removed because it developed a cataract, which will have to be replaced eventually, and she has to go in soon for a cornea transplant. It was devastating. On top of it all, I live in a smaller area with just your basic Hospital and health care needs. They had to fly me to Salt Lake City Utah, 250 miles from where I live, the closest place with the specialists she requires. And I have to drive her there every week now to be seen and operated on.

I might have to miss the gym for a little while after my daughter has the cornea transplant, but as soon as she is well enough to be out and about again, I'll go straight back.

 But.....my work out buddy is out of town now. She will be back in about 2 weeks and when she is back we are going to start going again. I'm a boob, I can't go alone, haha. And I am getting excited. Especially now that I am finding new motivation, thanks to you guys, to get my diet back in order. Might actually loose weight this time!

I feel so motivated right now!

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. At times like these it is understandable to be distracted for a while. I can't even imagine how hard it must have been to see your daughter like this. It takes a lot of courage for this. I hope she gets better soon and then you can start again on the diet.

I just need someone to push me out of my door and on to a treadmill. I hate going to the gym :(

well said, manav....   GOSH, carlyn.  you are a hot stud.  come on, girl.  keep uop the hard work and make it WORK for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I cannot imagine being so devoted with such a full plate anyway, carlyn.   you make me SO APPRECIATE my selfish existance.   yes, I am lonely, but no one depends on me either.  

HIGH FIVE --------  GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aftonmae, My prayers and good wishes go out to you and your family.

I know you are going to get back into the swing of things. You know just want to do. Jan, and Manav has giving you some great tips. When you get back into that gym.. Everything is going to ease up, the weight of life and everything in your world. I use the gym as my de stress place. I'm at ease when I'm in there, and nothing is on my mind but a good workout.

I wish you nothing but the best. We are here for ya.

amen on that

Wait a second!  You said your daughter was seriously ill and that she still is not out of the woods yet.  Unless you are made out of steel, of course you reached for "comfort" foods...your daughter was/is sick.  Plus, I too have traveled, and you are 100% right...Bob's Big-Boy is not on the FDA's Pyramid.  Stop beating yourself up.  Breathe, and adjust.  Focus on getting your daughter and yourself well.  It sounds like you need some down-time.  Is there a friend who can mind your girl for 30-45 minutes two or three times a week?  If so, go for a walk, the gym, the library, a salon, anywhere that allows you to re-charge and de-stress.  These little episodes are to be guilt-free and yours alone.  Soon, you'll be able to focus on your daughter with a clearer head, with the comfort in knowing that your "YOU Day" is right around the corner.  When tempted, do not have a defeatist attitude, "Oh, I already gained 10 lbs...pass the M&M's"  Rather, "If I eat this, I'll feel physically crappy and sluggish.  If I am to help my daughter get well, I need to take care of myself first."  When you give the power to yourself, and not the Twinkie, it boosts your confidence and resolve.  Stay strong, stay blessed.

LOL. Thanks Altagracias! It's all so true. I believe I have been eating out of depression. Of course eating and gaining only makes it worse. It's a vicous cycle.  And I have also eaten candy and junk I shouldn't because I felt I had already gained back so much weight, why try to deny myself something I want! (like M&M's). Such a horrible excuse of a thought process. I remember when I was so dangerously close to 200 pounds, thinking "your already fat, might as well just eat what you want, what difference is it going to make?". I'm starting to realize now I am getting back into the frame of mind I had back then, when I was obese (I sooo hate saying that. I think that is my least favorite word, but it's true! I was!). Thinking a few cookies or a bowl of ice cream or a chocolate bar here and there wasn't going to make any difference in my life. Maybe even added some extra enjoyment to my life. When in reality it is what was ruining me. I can't let it ruin me again! And you know the saddest part of it all? I am insulin resistant. When I eat sugar or High Glycemic foods I get really sick! Yet, I do it anyway.....

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and p.s. if you do want to be diet buddies my email addy is dgaf_xtina@yahoo.com

and if you have myspace i am www.myspace.com/dgaf_xtina

Thanks dgaf. Added you as a myspace buddy!