If I lose weight will people like me more?

I think that's a question a lot of people trying to lose weight asks.  What do you think?

If you like yourself more, other people will like you more. Plus, your perception of how others feel about you will change with the way you feel about yourself.

not only because of the weight loss.  i think when i feel more comfortable with myself, i will naturally be friendly and more outgoing, at least to an extent.  that might make me more likeable.  weight loss and how much people like you are not directly proportional though.  it depends on your personality either way.

This is something that I have struggled with for a while, I always thought that, but then I had tons of friends because really outgoing and crazy party girl. Now I am slightly more reserved because I am not drinking and carefree constantly. It is a trade I am willing to do tho, I just wish I had more non drinking friends...

I think if one is trying to lose weight in hopes that people like you more, you are not losing weight for the right reasons.  Under those conditions I doubt anyone would think that they are better liked, even if it was their goal, and even if others actually did like you more, it would not be noticed by you.

Having said that, setting goals and meeting them, along with seeing improvements in ones appearance and health is wonderfully confidence building.

I am answering the question as a rhetorical.  I sincerely hope the question was asked as a rhetorical question.

I dont think its a case of liking you more but they may see you differently. No matter what we say we all judge a book by its cover, especially as we have control of our own book cover, our image is what we choose to present. I guess we instinctively lean towards more attractive people. Im sure if losing the weight makes you feel better about yourslef then yes you will be more likeable, youll be more confident, out going and smiley. But dont wait until you lose the weight to be happy. Some of the friendlist happilst most popular people we know arent the best lookign ones, they are just the ones tahta re always nice to be around. 

Food for thought: Some people who are not really true friends might like you less! (due to jealousy).

When your body changes people's perceptions of you can change along with it. It's not a given. And it is also not guaranteed it will be for the better!

Edit: Also - what if you lose all this weight... suddenly think you are the hottest thing alive and become a huge egocentric snobby b to people???? haha - I wouldn't like anyone more for becoming that way.

Haven't we all known plenty of slender people that we did not like AT ALL?  Thin does not equal likable.

That being said, in the memoir "Half-Assed" she talks about how as a fat girl she knew she had about 15 seconds after she met someone to overcome their negative impressions based on her size, and to distract them from her unattractive body and onto her intelligence and wit.  I felt that way as well.  People could (and did) like me when I was very large, but I had to work harder to overcome whatever assumptions they made when they first met me (stupid?  slothful?  weak?  jolly?)

I agree with what everyone has said about being more likable now because I am happier.  Contentment and self-acceptance attract people.  Of course, anyone CAN be content and accept themselves at any size and it is always attractive.  However, I was not a contented fluffy girl, I was an angry, unhappy, self-loathing cow.

I can also say that I am not a happy, self-loving woman now simply because I lost weight.  More the opposite - I needed to stop abusing myself mentally and with food, I needed to start looking at myself as someone who deserved to be treating herself better, before I could successfully change my lifestyle and lose weight.

Having struggled for so many years with obesity, and having overcome that struggle (at least just for today), I am more sensitive and generous of spirit toward others who undermine themselves with defeating, sabotaging thoughts.  That makes me more likable.

Being smaller does not make one more likable.  Having more confidence and being more outgoing may do exactly that, but one has to work on being more confident.  Just losing the weight may not do that for you.  Start working on a positive sense of self worth right now.

That said, strangers treat me better as I lose weight.  Strangers are more friendly, salepeople and waitstaff more attentive.  People we don't know will judge us by what we look like, and there is a lot of weight discrimination.  That doesn't mean that strangers are suddenly going to be your best friends though.  Friends like one thin or fat.  Real friendships aren't based on what we look like.

Neither are real relationships.  My fella has been with me for 17 years now, and he loves me.  I wasn't thin when he met me, and I'm not fit now, but I'm working on it!  But he loves me for me, and the outside packaging doesn't change that.