You are losing weight too quickly
Does anybody else get these comments?
I have been changing my diet since December and only really started taking my diet (as in, the foods I eat) seriously in January when I started logging foods, joined a gym and seriously took note of the foods I ate and the effects it had on me.
In January I was 202lbs and as of today I am 172lbs (30lbs loss for those of you not too keen on math!) The first week I dropped ~5lbs, not surprising since I was eating a load of rubbish previously!! And there after have lost a pretty steady 2lbs each week.
I believe I have been eating healthily with the introduction of more fruits, seeds, and veggies etc to my diet along side regular exercise, plenty of water, a range of foods each day, and ensuring I am consuming enough calories.
At 5’10” I am far from underweight yet both my mum and people at university have made these ‘you aren’t being healthy’ comments, and I feel it really takes the shine off my new found (and much loved!) healthier lifestyle and weight loss. Anyone else have similar experiences?
They may be jealous of your success.
I don't know why people feel the need to stand on others success. You know that you are being healthy probably a lot healthier than them. I would just reply with something like " really....that's odd cause I feel great".
Congratulations on your weight loss and healthier life style choice don't let them discourage you.
Don't worry what other people are telling you! I'm 5'8" and am now at 166lbs - as long as you are around the 2lbs/week mark you're probably alright.
Congrats on your weight loss and keep up the great work! Don't let anyone rain on your parade!
I get that all the time. When I was bigger, nobody questioned the way I ate (chips, two servings of dinner at the dining commons, always had dibs for dessert) and in fact, people were happy that I ate because it made what they ate look like NOOTHINGG, haha. When I realized how much weight I began to pack, and how lazy I was starting to become, I had to change. Now that I exercise daily, and watch and measure what I eat my suitemates are like.."are you done yet?" "have a cookie, it's just ONE! wow..wow jennifer wow. it's just a cookie," and I'm just like..OKAY can't you see how hard I've worked? I'm not trying to let the food pushers ruin my progress.
D< It makes me frustrated.
As long as you feel good, keep it up! 30 lbs is a big deal and you're doing great! I would blame jealousy also. 5'10 and 172, I bet you're looking great!
But I feel you. I've only lost 20 (ok, 18) but I feel like people are really starting to watch me to make sure I'm not picking up an eating disorder or anything. And I do hate how people feel overeating and eating the wrong food is more acceptable than watching what you eat and exercising.
I've lost almost 30 lbs (1.8lbs shy) since 1/1/08. People can see my body change obviously. Then, someone would tell me that it was the water weight I lost. Figure that out! :)
No one's said anything yet about noticing that I've lost weight, but I had a really hard time getting started because I have mostly male friends and most of them like heavier women and would constantly say I looked great when I was definitely overweight. I hated the compliments! And now I don't get any, or "you're too skinny" or "if you lose any weight, you'll waste away." Ugh. It's such a pain. Thanks for nothing, guys.
A lot of folks are jealous. Or they so handcuffed to tradition, that the idea you could lose that much weight, that quick, goes against all their brainwashing, so their best option is try and tear down your accomplishments. I see it around here, a lot.
Lets keep up the good work, keep the weight off, and prove them all wrong. *Mu haw haw*!
I only ever got that from one friend, and it hurt dreadfully. However, she had other things going on in her head, and it was just one person. Most of the comments I get are from people at work. It goes like this...
"Wow, you are so TINY! You've really lost weight. What are you doing?"
"I've been logging my food at this website, and exercising. I'll send you the link."
"Oh. Counting calories and exercising. That website said that the 14 Reeses Peanut Butter Cups I eat are three times what my daily intake should be. I just don't know how you do it..."
It's as if they think I'm hording the magic pills somewhere. I've had this conversation with some people MULTIPLE TIMES, and they still won't get up off their sofas or eat a vegetable.
I wanna start beating people as soon as the "oh they are jealous" statement comes up. No, they probably aren't. People just don't care about others to that extent to be honest.
What ends up happening more often than not is people do not like change. When you change, you force them to change and they do not like this. People do the same thing when you move, change jobs, get some snappy new clothes or whatever.
If everyone is used to piling down to the cafeteria at lunchtime and eating 5 billion calories, it sucks when one person stops doing it. You changed the rules. You're not their junk food buddy anymore.
Also, people just get used to seeing you at a certain weight. When you're all of a sudden 30lbs lighter, you look weird to them.
Meanwhile, they were all eating hamburgers and french fries and complaining about how they couldn't lose weight! It's a hard situation, because everyone is sensitive about their weight, but for some reason it's more acceptable to speak openly about thin people in a mean way than it is to tell someone honestly that they're too fat and it's unhealthy.
Original Post by spirochete:
I wanna start beating people as soon as the "oh they are jealous" statement comes up. No, they probably aren't. People just don't care about others to that extent to be honest.
What ends up happening more often than not is people do not like change. When you change, you force them to change and they do not like this. People do the same thing when you move, change jobs, get some snappy new clothes or whatever.
If everyone is used to piling down to the cafeteria at lunchtime and eating 5 billion calories, it sucks when one person stops doing it. You changed the rules. You're not their junk food buddy anymore.
Also, people just get used to seeing you at a certain weight. When you're all of a sudden 30lbs lighter, you look weird to them.
I completely disagree with your first paragraph. You may not care that much, but I'd be willing to wager, there are plenty that do.
Every scenario you described, can be construed as jealousy. I've had friends tell me as much, so don't generalize that none of the comments could be from jealousy, because there's no doubt, some of them are.
The fact is many people we call friends, family, an co-workers are selfish, and superficial, and jealous of anyone who has something they don't or does something they can't. It an unfortunate part of society, but it's definitely there. We are doing a biggest loser in our office, and we had a half dozen people quit after the first month, and won't speak to the rest of us. That's nothing but envy, and then being angry at themselves for failing, and taking it out of people who had nothing to do with it.
To take it a little further, I think many members of our great society, not only don't like to see the people around them succeed, but want to see them fail. I listen to Mancow in the morning, and he has something he calls the $10,000 challenge. He says to go up to a co-worker, friend, or relative, and tell them you got $10,000 either from your job, or an inheritance, or winnings, and see their initial reaction. I've done it, and in most cases, what you see is disingenuous excitement. He has caller after call contact the show, after they do it, and the results are overwhelming. Most people don't like it when someone does something or gets something, they don't.
It's the same with getting in shape. I get so many dirty looks in my office, mostly from the fat ladies in the office, as I lose weight. When we have snacks at work, or food brought in, they crack stupid jokes, because I sit eating my raw veggies, while they shovel in pound cake. Why? Because they can't do what I do, and it eats at them. There's only one person in my office, when I won the first month of biggest loser, came up and congratulated me, and was genuine. He is a big guy, not in the contest, and he said he wished he could do it.
Yeah, for whatever reason some people might say that losing 5 lbs a week is unhealthy, but you gotta remember that everyone's body works differently. If by eating healthier foods, that's what happened to you, well then, it just happened. It's not like you're starving yourself and being unhealthy.
Something similar happened to me too when I first started losing weight - I lost 4 lbs per week just by eating healthier foods.
Original Post by annielikesapples:
Yeah, for whatever reason some people might say that losing 5 lbs a week is unhealthy, but you gotta remember that everyone's body works differently. If by eating healthier foods, that's what happened to you, well then, it just happened. It's not like you're starving yourself and being unhealthy.
Something similar happened to me too when I first started losing weight - I lost 4 lbs per week just by eating healthier foods.
Careful saying such things around here. You might be asked to provide a scientific study to support your results or either they didn't happen, or you are about to drop dead from your dangerous methods.
If the person who make a comment about me is a nutritionist, or someone who had lose weight and maintain that weight off as i hope i will, then ill listen to them more carefully.
But listening to your body is the best thing you can do.. i had lost 30 pds. right now and i feel great. I got way more energy than i had before i started the diet. At first i felt a little dizzy when i workout. I up my calories a little bit and now im working out just fine.. Listen to your body, and if something is unusual, change it.. if not.. then keep going with it.
