Loss of appetite...becuase...

I dated this guy off and on since freshman year of high school, i was like 14 or something when we started out, and I'm 19 now..almost 20, its always been a kinda verbally abusive or manipulative type relationship on his end he made me think i couldnt get anyone else and noone else would want me... i always wished he could change and was waiting around for it, but now a MILLION years later i realize i can do better and i don't have to deal with it. i broke up with him 2 days ago, and on Wednesday i only had like 750 calories b/c i just couldn't eat, and yesterday i had like 900 calories so its going up and getting a little better, but I'm like making myself eat I'm not even hungry I'm just eating b/c I'm supposed to..usually i eat like 1300 to 1500 calories a day.. should i just eat high calorie foods to get to 1500 calories until i get my appetite back? and if i should what should i eat that's high calorie and not super fattening..anything helps thanks guys!  

Hi sweetheart,

I'm sorry to learn that you had to endure such an unhealthy relationship.  Trust me when I tell you, I've been there.

At least you were smart enough to move on and realize what you're worth and that you don't have to put up with it.  YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND YOU WILL BE HAPPY.  I did and I never thought it would be possible.

Regarding your eating habits; if everyone restricted their calories as a result of stress/depression, than the majority of us would not have a weight issue.  (I have the opposite problem myself)

That said, going under your calories isn't healthy either and yes, you should be eating your recommended number.

Try to snack on nuts or more calorie dense foods if you feel too full to eat larger meals.

Good Luck and God bless.

Mary

i feel your pain.  when i'm stressed or depressed, my appetite is out the window.  i have to literally force myself to eat.  i go for things like peanut butter protein bars & saucy pasta.  protein shakes made with milk are good for getting the calories up there, too.  the only down side is that you have to not be hooked on the high cal goodies when your appetite returns.

also remeber that being underfed makes the funk even harder to break out of becasue it causes your blood sugar to be out of whack.  so keeping your body fed will help you pull through it faster.

congrats on dumping the loser.  it'll get better.  i promise.  *hugs* 

thanks guys!

Good for you.  I second what everyone else said.

Also, maybe see if you could go out and get a meal with some friends.  Even if you think you don't feel like it, it might chear you up.

If I were you, I would start setting goals. Focus on things positive away from food and your ex, and soon you will feel better about yourself and gain your self-esteem back as well as appetite.  I wish you the best of luck.

I have been there too a long time ago, but I remember the pain of being in an abusive relationship but I also remember the pain when I broke up with him.

It's not easy to do and every part of us suffers including your appetite.  Just treat you self with kindness and love.  One way is eating right though you don't feel like it.

I know you doubt it now, someday you will be doing the "happy dance" over this.  So love yourself up and keep reaching out when you need a helping hand.

thanks everyone, its not getting any easier, but my appetite is getting a little better, he came over today and got his things, and gave me a bag full of EVERYTHING ive ever given him, pictures, cards, stuffed animals, an album i made him, birthday things..like EVERYTHING i think hes still playing a game trying to get me to look at it all and feel bad and call him, and yeah it made me ball my eyes out but im staying strong, that happening today kinda made me not wana eat again, but i have been..thanks for the support i need it

he's totally playing a mind game with you.  throw all that crap out and delete his number if you haven't already.  and if he calls you, tell him i said he's a turd.

haha k ill tell him u said hes a turd haha =) thanks

i just put it in my outsdie storage thing, im moving from my apartment into a house in like 2 weeks so ill go through everything as a pack and get rid of stuff from him/ stuff that reminds me of him. and start out fresh! its hard though...

i have my appetite back now though so thats good