Lossing weight/breastfeeding and cancer

Hey

so Im a breastfeeding mom and I have never felt so fat in my life before.

I just had a baby few weeks ago, non of my clothing fit me, my body is like a pair looking and  its sooooooo depresing.........

Anyway, I dunno how long im going to be breast feeding cause I been diagnosed with cervical cancer after my 6 week check up. I haven't even told my husband about this yet, is that selfish of me?

My husband hasnt even looked me the way he use to after I had a baby,

i feel soo unatracted and low right now. what to dooooooo???????

You have cancer for sure, or were there some abnormal cells and they want to biopsy?  I think you should tell your husband either way.  I don't think it's "selfish" not to, but I do think you might need his support through this process.

I would encourage you to try and keep up the breastfeeding.  It is burning calories and should be improving your mood thanks to hormones released when baby nurses.  If you have to stop due to treatment your doctors will tell you that.

It is hard to feel attractive when you look in the mirror and see a milk machine you don't even recognize.  I've been there.  It took me a long time to decide to get back into shape and I'm glad you are here because hopefully that means it won't take you so long to make that decision.

BUT The first thing you need to do really is focus on the cervical issue.  You need to be well if you are going to work on becoming fit again.

I would guess your husband is still interested in you, but you are a different person to him now.  Your body is no longer there only for his pleasure.  It grew a baby and now it feeds a baby.  He doesn't know if there are new rules.  He doesn't know if you are healed up.  He doesn't know if parts of you are off limits.  I can see how you might fear telling him about the cancer might make this even worse.  Talk to him about all the rest even if you aren't ready to tell him about that.  Tell him you want him.  Men like that.

Good luck. 

First, I want to say good job on the breastfeeding! My experience was that it helped me to lose weight after my babies. Also it is the very best thing you can do for your baby-- not to say that if it doesn't work out that your babies won't do just fine on formula.

I'm very concerned for you regarding the cervical cancer-- I would also ask if you were diagnosed with full blown cancer, or if you just had some abnormal cells. And, have you fully researched how you might have got this cancer? You can get it from a STD.  This sort of thing is something you or your husband could have had for some time before you got together. He should be told, but you should make sure you fully understand the situation first.

Kitty,

Congrats on the weight you have lost so far. Breastfeeding certainly helps. It's the only time you can eat and eat and not gain weight. Mind you, you may not lose as much either but it's for such a short time. You're doing the best you can for you and your baby! Even if your doctor advises you to stop nursing be proud of how long you have.

I'm terribly sorry to hear about your cancer. I think your husband would appreciate knowing. Consider how you may feel if he had found out something of this nature and didn't share it with you. He's there for you to lean on. And i'm sure he still thinks of you. I remember after I gave birth my husband said i'm not touching you until you get the ok from the doctors b/c he was scared to hurt me! He's probably a bit nervous about what can be done. I hope all your responses help you.  You're doing GREAT! you look FABULOUS! and you should be so proud!  Keep up the great efforts, and stay healthy!