Lost first ten and noone can even tell

I have managed for the first time ever to drop ten pounds, need to lose 30 all together, and noone is able to notice difference.....I've asked.....thats just plain depressing

Hey, I'm sixteen, lost 12kgs (26lbs), to be 61kgs today (134lbs) and I doubt anyone's noticed. I think I'm going to have to lose nearly the same amount over again before I'm happy. But I guess it's all a learning experience... It's not all happy, that's for sure.

My husband is very supportive of my weight loss efforts, but he's also not very attentive - the last time I lost 40 pounds - 40! - and he didn't notice! =)

Don't feel bad...people are just not that observant.  I had over 100 lbs to lose when I first started and I am down 36 lbs and all people say is "Did you get your hair cut??"  It's funny...they notice a difference, but can't figure out what.

This journey is about you...how you feel, how your clothes fit, how healthy you are.  Don't worry about other people...the only person who has to notice is in the mirror!

Original Post by officespudette:

Don't feel bad...people are just not that observant.  I had over 100 lbs to lose when I first started and I am down 36 lbs and all people say is "Did you get your hair cut??"  It's funny...they notice a difference, but can't figure out what.

This journey is about you...how you feel, how your clothes fit, how healthy you are.  Don't worry about other people...the only person who has to notice is in the mirror!

I concur.  People will suddenly realize something is different when you get up the amount you were hoping to lose, but until then they won't know/see.  And even then they probably won't know why you look different.  Concentrate on being healthy, not visible changes to impress everyone.  You will appreciate your results more if personal goals of heath and wellness are made than if you are waiting for the approval and notice of others.  Besides, it's healthier just to take care of you...  Blessings on your journey and instead of luck I wish you dilligence and patience.  -K-

Congrats on your weight loss!  Don't sweat it seriously.  No one noticed anything on my end until I lost about 15 or so.  It doesn't matter anyway honestly.  You are doing this all for yourself right?  Just keep plugging away and you'll get the results YOU want.

The problem is that people who see you every day aren't going to notice a slight weekly weight loss- nobody at work said anything about mine until I had lost 45 pounds.  But I'm sure if someone who hasn't seen you in 6 months sees you now, they'd totally notice.  Just be happy that YOU know you're losing!

people started noticing my loss after about 35 lbs. it can be tough but what, i am doing this for myself

It may be that they HAVE noticed, but don't want to ask you if you've lost weight, and risk offending you.

If you are losing weight gradually, the friends and family who see you everyday probably won't notice at first. Don't get discouraged - even if they aren't sure what's different, they will notice as you become more confident, healthier, and comfortable in your own body.

People you see only occasionally are more likely to have a 'wow' response. When I was in college, I weighed almost 210 at one point. While studying abroad for six months, I lost the first 30 pounds I needed to reach a healthy BMI. No one there seemed to notice, and I started to feel like, "why am I even bothering?"

When I came back to campus, very few people commented, but suddenly I was being asked out a lot more and invited to many more parties. Acquaintances became friends. Suddenly, I felt included in a way I had always wanted. I was still far from a healthy weight, but the social effect was very noticeable. I'm sure that my appearance factored into all of this, and fat-phobia is definitely real - but I was also a lot more fun to be around, because I wasn't so self-conscious and ill at ease in my own skin.

And that's what people seemed to notice the most - it was like I had came out of hiding. I was told, "you always seemed so wrapped up in your own world before" and "you just seemed inapproachable." I think people unconsciously respond to the signals you send out about who you are and how you present yourself. If you feel feel good about yourself, they're more likely to respond in kind, and that feels much better than someone simply making a remark about your weight reduction.

:) It's alright, they'll notice eventually. People that see you every day see the very gradual changes, and it doesn't really register. If you talk to someone who only saw you before you started on your weight loss plan, they'd probably notice right away. It's also abuot your attitude. Once you start acting like you're happy with your body, others will see it.