lost and gained it back....trying again

hello all,

as i'm thinking this has happened to some of you out there, i gained back all the weight i worked months to lose. i got depressed and pretty much fell back in to bad eating habits and not being active. now, i've gained back 15-20 pounds while my man has lost about 30 (which you wouldnt even know was possible by looking at him!). in comparison i feel fat and unattractive.

today, i am resolving to get back in to the game even thuogh it's really hard to keep my head high when im very disappointed in myself.  i have been a yo yo dieter for a while now, but i really wanted it to stick last time. maybe this time will be my last with the weight battle.

any advice or motivation? i could use some!

Aggh!  Hi!!  I'm going through the same thing!  I gained back the 15-20lbs i lost last summer and I've been trying to get back to losing but have been failing (I do good for one week, bad for two, good for two weeks, have a REALLY BAD weekend or two). 

I need this to be my last time too -- I've been up and down quite a bit as well!  Don't be disappointed, just make small changes everyday -- you'll feel better immediately! 

We can do it!!! Good luck and DM anytime! :D

I'm right there with ya.

I put on almost everything I lost.  I was at 155 in December and I was at 177 today.  I just don't get how I get off track so long

I need some kind of  motivation :(

That's my story, but it might make you feel better to hear that I gained back aboug 45 . So it can be worse.

I had a lot of people looking up to me and I looked awesome.

What I have noticed is that the more disciplined and active I get, the less I think about it. My mind is on the process, not the past. I tell my boyfriend that he no longer has to tiptoe around the issue becuase I am not as sensitive about it. We can joke about it some. It makes our relationship more healthy when I can accept his compliments. I allow myself to feel sexy. And I also allow myself to believe that he means it (he met me @ this weight anyways..so it is only up for us from here) I tell him to get ready, cause he will have serious competition soon.

On a more serious note, I feel like, if I did it once (I did it in a relatively healthy way) I can do it again. I realize that I am better than I was when I started the first time, because I know more, I love me more, and I know better than to take it for granted.

I've gained back this amount of weight a number of times in my life.  Each time, I had lost it too quickly with too much deprivation.  I'm now losing so slowly and changing my lifestyle little by little, it would take a long time and a lot of changes back to an old way to gain it back.  I overeat occasionally still, but it is no longer a way of life.  I weigh once a week, no matter what, because i can get in trouble avoiding the scale.  It helps me to think in terms of taking a year or more to lose 30-40 pounds.  The longer it takes, the more of a way of life the eating/exercise will be.  In the weeks where I don't lose weight, I'm still making many many good choices.  I don't seem to lose OR gain easily the way I'm living now, and that's cool.  It used to be steep loss/ steep gain.

The other thing is I believe I'll need to log my cals and weights for years to come.  It's important to me to stay accountable.   It's fun for me to use the analysis tool and try to A's on my food choices. 

thanks all for the great advice! newdays18, i definitely agree on the year plan for a big weightloss of 30-40 pounds! i worked out today and was more conscious of what i ate and it felt really good!