Lost motivation since wife walked out on me

It is sad that for years I had been working out religiously with my wife. She went from 300lbs+ to a svelte 150lbs. She worked out for two hours a day to get to where she is and she ate salads for lunch for as long as I can remember. She had a personal trainer that would train both of us but focus mainly on her even though we paid for the two of us to be trained.

Now she walked out on me since I do not share the same motivation. I asked for her help and she walked away from me saying that I need to motivate myself in order to loose the weight and not her help. It hurt to hear that from some one you supported to loose a tremendous amount of weight. She now has a totally differnt life with a new group of friends that she spends more time together than she ever spent with me.

Anyway I have been struggling to get back into the swing of things. Since she has left I have lost 13lbs but have hit a wall since I do not see why I should be working myself to death anymore to get to where some one would find me attractive.

I can definitely say I have very low self esteem, I am crushed, and confused on how I can balance out my diet and workouts to have the best results. Support, motivation, being pushed, and encouragement has been something I have not had in a while.

I do not want to give up so easily but it is hard to just get up in the morning. How am I suppose to be motivated to go to the gym?

Hi zifhip

I just wanted to say that I kind of understand you. Every one of us needs some type of motivation. And even though I  think it was kind of wrong the way she acted I think you are focusing in her insted of youself. IF you want to loose weight you should do it because  you want to feel better about your self and i think you are doing it just to make her happy and more attracted to you.  Do it for you because it will make you feel good not to make her happy.     And if still need a motivation more than being happy with you self you can alway think that maybe that is a way to get you guys closer and share some time together but alwas keeping in mind that you are doing it for you , for your happiness not hers

i wish you the best of luck

Hey giselleddios,

       &nb sp;  I agree with the sentiment of doing it for me, but it is hard since she moved out, wants a divorce, and has another person in her life. So there is no chance of trying to solve the issue of how I can not get any support from her. She stopped supporting me when I needed help along time ago since she was so focused on getting ready to run a marathon. I blame myself for what has happened and I know I shouldn't but who wouldn't? Everyday I am trying to get back up on that horse and remind myself that now is the time to focus on me and not on what has happened. What more can I do than to drag myself to the gym? Most times it is extremely hard to get out of bed in the morning let alone convince myself to go to the gym. I guess I have to convince myself that it is all in my head.

remember that being active help you mentally. more you are active more you feel better about yourself.

take your time. 

3 years ago, the dad of my babie, cheated on me and left me for her. i was overwieght, but working on it. Going to the gym a lot and i was loosing weight. when he left me, i stop working out. i was so depress. But slowly i started to go back to the gym and slowly start feeling better.

Getting over a break up is something and being healthy is somethign else!

anyways, you look great onyour picture, so just saty positive and  do it for you, because you deserve it!

Val