Lost 17 pounds and nobody notices????

Im 5'7" & went from 141 to 124 and nobody has said anything?? friends, co-workers none seem to notice. y??

When you are around people day in and day out it is harder to notice the weight loss -- try to find someone who hasn't seen you for quite some time -- they'll probably notice.

and, hey, I've lost 30 with nary a word from anyone (and I didn't start out "that" big) -- so don't sweat it.

Also, they may have noticed but didn't think it appropriate to say anything.

i think that contributes to part of my problem of wanting to lose more. I feel like im not really that thin yet if nobody can even tell. Like I havnt really lost enough 

I know what you mean Samantha...it's especially bad when you can't even tell yourself!

I agree with coach on this, plus I know sometimes people don't say anything because maybe they're a little jealous and just don't want to be reminded.

That's how my friends were..after the summer they didn't say anything about how much I lost (that's when I lost the most).  Then the other day I was talking about being tired and said something about exercise and then FINALLY one friend said, yeah you look good..what have you been doing?  Then she went on to mention she hasn't been able to lose weight successfully and she wants to borrow my workouts!

I was like, Oh so you CAN tell you just didn't want to say anything =P

Hi Samantha!

I've lost 35 pounds since I work where I work. I went from 155 to 120. My co-workers never said anything until recently. She said she never talk to me about it ebcause she didn't know how I would react. She was noticing the change but was shy/not comfortable to talk about it with me.

Don't worry about it. People probably noticed but they don't know how to talk about it with you. What's important is how you feel because, I'm sure, you lost weight for you in the first place, not for them.

Samantha,

I've lost 25lbs and nobody has said anything so far.

I echo amoria00's post, don't worry about.

The thing that counts it that you know that you lost that amount of weight and feel better and healthier for it. Other people's opinions about you personally don't matter it's yourself that you should try to make happy.

It took me 40 lbs for any one to notice! Dont feel bad :0)

some of my close friends do struggle with weight loss. So ya maybe thats why they havnt said anything. I know for myself i feel awesome ive lost the weight, but it would feel good to hear other people say "hey you look great" those kind of compliments feel wonderful. I just hope when I reach my goal of 120 someone will notice lol and it wont drive me to keep losing till people notice

Hi Samantha,

I've lost 18 lbs and no one has noticed it. Although one person did but thats because she hadnt seen me in weeks.

Dont let it worry you, i remember waiting for that first person to notice and it feels really good when it happens, it will happen for you too.

I think the people around us everyday dont notice as they see us daily, my mum had a hard time seeing it too. I hope you've taken measurements etc because that made me 'know' i'd lost the weight even thought no one saw it. clothes getting looser or being able to get into the next size is all rewarding. Hang in there and dont let it make you feel demotivated.

Sometimes people dont always say what they see. As long as you noticed. :)

Hi. The same thing has happened to me. I have lost 22.5 pounds and the only people who say anything are the ones that don't see me that often. I think it is harder to notice when friends and co-workers see you every day. Don't feel bad. You are the one who knows how much you have lost and the progress you have made. That is what matters most-how you feel about yourself.

In my experience more comments about "pounds lost" come from people who are on the thinner side, or like-minded regarding healthy eating and exercise. The heavier ones tend to keep their mouths shut, but they usually are noticing. Probably makes them feel bad because they aren't taking any positive steps to drop the extra pounds. That's one reason why it's good to be on c-c. You get positive feedback and support!

Well done, Samantha, and you are nearly to your goal weight! Keep up the good work.

It could be that they haven't really noticed or don't want to say anything because you weren't overweight to begin with.  5'7" and 141 lbs. is a normal BMI, 5'7" and 120 lbs. is underweight actually 126 lbs. is underweight also. 

I have lost 21 lbs and my hubby has not even noticed!  Talk about SAD!!!  Friends have said things but the ONE person I want to think I look HOT and thin has not said WORD!!!  ERRGGGGG

 

 

I know that I would probably never say anything to a female co-worker or acquaintance (unless they were a good friend), mainly because I would worry about them feeling awkward. I'd be concerned that either:

a) they'd think I thought they were fat before; or

b) they'd think I was checking out their body.

Don't worry though, you've lost almost 20 pounds, which is 14% of your total bodyweight.... that HAS to be noticeable. Good work!!

oh please dont say no one noticed, im heart broken for you and for me. Im 5'7 want to drop from 141 to 125 excately the same as you and now there seems no point if it wont make me look different. Im sure you must look slimmer, please post a picture as id love to see the before and after im aiming for :-)

thanks everyone. Ill try to put a pic on here. I check this site out while im at work (shame sdf!) but you know i guess im starting to understand that maybe some people just dont notice, or they dont want to say anything bc they dont want to husr my feelings.  I totally agree with shayna, my husband is the same. He hasnt said anything like " wow u look great" or "thinner" he does yell at me for counting my calories and measuring everything i eat though.

Samantha Great Job!!!!!  Don't let the poor inobservant get you down!!  

People's comments (or lack thereof in this case) can really have a negative effect on motivation...I often get that "what's the point??" mentality, but actually for the exact opposite reason. I had gained some weight while I was abroad, and once I got back I felt the desperate need to get back to my old body (mainly for my health's sake, since I felt so sluggish and out of shape.) But whenever I mentioned the weight I had gained, most people would respond "you look exactly the same to me!" I'm sure they thought they were giving me a compliment, but all it really did was make me think "well, if I'll just look the same to everyone after all the hard work of dieting and going to the gym, I might as well just give up now."

But the point is that I saw (and felt) the difference. And I'm sure after 13 pounds, you're already feeling the benefits, and in an ideal world that would be motivation enough. The reality is feedback is a huge motivator, but it is true that people don't always say what they mean (as everyone has already pointed out.) No one wanted to tell me "yeah, you came back a cow," but as soon as I had actually lost the weight, my very closest friend finally admitted that she noticed a huge difference (and this is only 5-10 pounds we're talking about.)

If you really want to start getting comments, you could maybe try to stary carrying yourself like a 126lb person, then people will either realize the change or feel more comfortable bringing it up. Dress in clothes that show off your new shape, strut around a bit, make it a little more obvious that you want to be noticed ;-)

Maybe they did notice, but were afraid of bringing it up? I would be!

 You know what's funny? Once I gained two lbs and my mom was congratulating me on my weight loss, hehe. Moms are always trying so hard! XD

I've lost 57 but the one person I wanted to notice it the most didn't. Many people have noticed and commented. However, the fact that it bothered me that my special friend hadn't said a thing. I had to stop and think about this for a little while.

Eventually, the topic came up and she said she hadn't noticed, then guessed maybe I had lost 20. She's very thin and 3 pounds is a bit deal to her. For a second that rattled me felt like trying to get another 150 off was pointless.

On another note, back in college long ago I'd porked up to 243. I got a grip and got to 206 with 12 percent body fat. One of my female friends that NEVER paid any attention to how I looked started to notice. Her kind words of encouragement were another thirty pounds or so I'd start looking decent.

Then it occured to me, I'm doing this for me. It doesn't matter if someone else notices, or likes it or not.

Do this for you.

people are so strange.

Personally, I think when women lose weight it's so easy to recognize. 

I've always figured the female to male loss equivalent is 2 to 1, maybe 3 t o1. Meaning, a guy has to lose 10 lbs, before it's as noticeable as a woman losing 5 lbs.

But that's just me. Lately, people have been asking me left and right, "have you lost weight?" Instead of being sarcastic, I just say thanks. If they really push, I say, "actually it's only been 2lbs" and it has, but I'll take the compliment's nonetheless.