Maid of Honor

I have to be a maid of honor in round about two years, this has gotten me more motivated then anything else recently.  I'm very competitive, the bride will be getting tummy tucked and lypoed before the big day and I'm determined to look amazing without spending anything on surgery.  SO I have about two years thats 24 months to lose about 100 pounds which comes to just about one pound a week....hopefully there aren't too many set backs.  Anyone else working towards something like this?

I hope I don't sound rude or harsh, but I would say that...

a.) This is not the healthiest way to look at losing weight.. it should be more about how you feel and your quality of life than how you're going to look on one day..

and

b.) You shouldn't be competitive with the bride. It's her day, not yours. The Bride's Maids aren't supposed to look prettier than the bride. That's why they usually pick out hideous dresses for them to wear.

All of that aside though, I do get the goal thing.. 2 years to lose a hundred pounds, I am sure with healthy choices and a heavily increased activity level you can do it.

What is your current weight, what is your goal weight? How old and tall are you?

I'm not competing with her on her day I'm just trying to prove to her that she doesn't need surgery (she and I talk about this all the time).  I've already lost 65 pounds so I'm pretty good at this game so far, either way I'd be losing the weight but now it's to fit into a pretty Calvin Klein that I can't squeeze my butt into now.  I'm 27 I started at 295 now I'm at 230 (five foot three also), I'd like to be between 150 and 120 we'll see how I feel when I get there.  Trust me she's my best buddy I'd never compete with her on her day even if she wasn't getting married we'd still be doing this little competition but the dress I need to fit into is HUGE motivation for me.

Well motivation is a great thing! We all need it. 65 lbs is an awesome amount to have lost, congrats on that! What is cc's recommendation for your caloric intake per day? Mine is 1745, but I am currently a little bit heavier than you (253, 25 y.o., 5ft3in). Your calories might be more?

CC recommended about 1,377 calories a day.  I generally keep it within 100 calories of that, or I try anyway. 

Hi!  I just read your post and your body type is the same as mine.  I'm also 5'3" and I currently weigh 278 lbs.   I'm new at this website and I'm desperate to lose weight.  I can't even tie my own shoes anymore.  This is ridiculous!!!!  Also, having a special day to look forward to is a good motivator.  I will be graduating from college in a year and a half.  I want to look good when I walk across the stage to accept my diploma.  I want my husband and kids to be proud of me, too!  I was just wondering how you've lost the 65 lbs.  Let me know if it's just counting calories or if you've done something else.  Thank you!!!  P.S.  CC recommended 1500 calories for me. 

I don't think it matters what your motivation is. You have a goal and are determined. Good for you

Original Post by flirtin_mom:

I don't think it matters what your motivation is. You have a goal and are determined. Good for you

I think in certain situations it does. Some people have a negative view about themselves and end up being destructive to reach the goal that is driving their motivation. That is why it's important to not encourage people who show signs of such self-defeating 'motivation' (example: anorexia).

As far as j9 goes, I wasn't sure about her motivation until her second post, which now I feel I can safely say, go for it!

I have family reunion every summer and the thought of being thinner is delightful!

j9gwen,

Just wanted to say it's nice to meet you.  Congrats on your 65 pounds.  I am the same height as you 5'3" currently 241.  I still have lots of pounds to go, too.  Us shorties have to stick together!

2livestrong,

How nice to meet you.  Another 5'3" gal.  We should start a club!  Anyway,  I know you are working hard to get your diploma.  And school stress makes some people eat too much.

You can do it.  All of us here are overweight.  I was about at the point of not being able to tie my shoes, now I can.  Just 30 pounds did that.  Take things one day at a time, make small goals and work toward them.  Reward yourself when you reach that goal and then start on the next one.

I am 6 pounds away from my next goal.  Weigh in with us on Mondays and post it here, accountability is helpful.  Also helpful is having someone to talk to who knows what you are going thru.  I started about where you are.  And here I am 13 weeks later 35 pounds down.

I just do mostly low cal (1200 daily) and some floor work in the evening (leg lifts, etc) but that is it.  I am stepping up my physical activity..stairs, not elevator.  Park further from the door, walk to the furthest bathroom.  Walk the long way..etc.

j9gwen,

I have to attend a wedding in the near future as well, I really want to look my best when I go. (Since I know there will be TONS of photos taken.) When I first found out about the wedding I started thinking of excuses of how to get out of going, I was embarassed about the weight I've gained, and I haven't seen these friends in a long time. I thought I could say the wedding was too far to travel to, or I didn't have the money for plane tickets. Then I realized how sad that was, that being overweight keeps me from interacting with my friends, from doing the things I like to do, from celebrating a wedding, it keeps me from being myself.

I know I won't be able to lose all the weight by next summer, but I'm going to lose some of it. Good luck to us both, and anyone else trying to shrink for a special occasion : )

Mayday,

How nice to meet you.   Being obese has kept me from doing a lot of things I would like to.  For example, singing in public.  I sing well, but my appearance has kept me from doing more (church singing). 

I let my own feelings project onto the crowd what I am really thinking myself:

Oh what a pretty face, if she wasn't so fat!

Oh what a pretty voice, she is just too fat!

She would look nice in a dress, but she is too fat!

What is she doing up there looking like that?

In reality they just enjoy my singing and always tell me so.  But my own fears keep me from doing more, hold me back.   So, I sang at church for the first time in years just the other day and I am working on another song for soon.

I AM losing weight, but I am also trying to put off those old thoughts that have been holding me back.  I am changing my thoughts to positive ones, because when the weight is better, the old me will still be here unless I change her.

I totally understand how you feel.  I have lost 35lbs so far and am currently 225.  I set my first goal at 200lbs.  I am self motivated.  I had anorexia as a teenager and it distroyed my life.  I got Polycystic Ovarian syndrom and it contributed to my weight gain as well as medications I was taking.  I have to keep a positive attitude that I can do this in a healthy way.  I am on target.  I find myself embarressed in public sometimes.  I critique my apprience based on other people I see around me.  I try so hard not to do that.  Keep on singing. I think anyone with a beautiful voice has a gift.  Praise the Lord with your voice.  You're singing for Him right?  He thinks your beautiful no matter what and that's what's most important.  I believe that you WILL overcome this.  You seem to be on your way already.  Keep it up. 

Tex, thank you for being so relatable. It's unfortunate, but it also feels good to know I'm not alone in this kind of struggle. I am a musician and my appearance holds me back from performing as well. It's such a shame, I bet a lot of people would enjoy our talents without judging us, but it's as if I can't stop judging myself.

Musical, I have PCOS too. It sucks : P. Another reason why I'm here is so I can manage my PCOS through healthful eating and exercise. If I don't manage it, it can keep me from having babies, and that would be so tragic! Keep it up everyone. Another day on schedule is another day closer to your goals!