Does it make you jealous?

When you see all these posts asking about how to GAIN weight, does it make you jealous of the person? Does it motivate you more? I know I wish that were my problem instead of having to lose it!! LOL And yeah I guess it does motivate me a little bit more, but I am still jealous!!

Please dont flame me for this, it is just a question. 

Karen 

I'm with you Karen. My sister-in-law is the type of person who has always been super thin and has trouble GAINING weight. I am the exact opposite of that so yes, I have always been jealous of her - I gotta admit! I went thru a time in my life where it actually did NOT motivate me - it made me sort of depressed and so I would, in fact, eat more. I'm glad I grew out of that phase! :)

Have a good day and KEEP AT IT! Kris

No...I really dont get green about it. I cycle my cals and have gone through maintain periods and at first it feels rather uncomfortable to eat more food. Stuffing your face to try to gain isnt as sweet as it sounds.

A lot of people are going through e.d. recovery too post those types of things.

My boyfriend and I joined this site at roughly the same time.  My goal was to lose 20 lbs, and his was to GAIN 15-20 lbs.  Around the same time last year, we both had some tragic things happen in our lives.  My reaction involved gaining 20, his...losing.  Neither was healthy - a gain or a loss of that much within the span of just over a month (seriously!) is terrible.  We just dealt with pain in two different ways...he stopped eating, I did nothing but eat and sit on my duff.  So it depends on the circumstance for each person.  I wish I had his "problem" sometimes, but he envies me just as much.  Also, he has a cholesterol problem that I will never have to worry about - remember its not just appearance that indicates health!

 Fight the urge to be jealous and remember that someone else is going to envy you as well!  

I sometimes briefly think that I'd love to have to gain a few pounds rather than lose, but then I remind myself of what that was like.  It's been over twenty years, but as a teen, I was incredibly skinny, and had a hard time reaching 100 lbs at 5'8".  I looked horrible, felt horrible, it seemed like no matter how much I ate, I couldn't gain, and even my very chunky friend said I got ridiculed more than she did.  Looking back, I realize she was picking on me too! Now that I'm in the position of having to lose weight, I think it's easier than consuming the massive amounts of calories you need in order to gain.

i've watched my brother (who's a lot younger than me) grow up, and he's been sick quite a lot.  He's around four eight now, and weighs from forty seven to fifty pounds.  i'm not implying that all very thin people are sick, but being that thin has had an effect on everything form his ability to fight off things like colds, to his acute induced athsma, to getting beat up at school.  my parents feed him like no other to get him to gain weight, but nothing works.  choosing between that, and my own body, i'd rather have mine.  i may be fat, but at least i can depend on my body to get me through pretty much anything.  i've been through bronchitis without realizing it (i thought it was just a common cold).  i'd rather be healthy...

on a different note, i'd hate to be labelled as anorexic and hated by non-skinny people everywhere :)

I was that skinny at university (5'9", between 115-120 lbs).  I was cold all the time, got sick every time someone sneezed, and was generally pretty unhealthy.  Either extreme is not good for you.

I dunno about you but I'm envious of the maintanence postee's!

It doesn't bother me a bit.  I just keep reminding myself that SOME DAY... it's going to happen, I just know it... their metabolism will crap out and they'll be on the losing end of the posting.

And I'll be sittin' back, eating Doritos, at maintenance, with a smirk on my face.

While I do feel a tinge of jealousy on occasion, I just think back a few years. I was skin and bones and used to take weight gaining products. You could literally see every bone in my body. My Dad once said when I ran, I looked like a skeleton. EVERYone thought I had an eating disorder. I didn't, I ate like a horse and never gained a pound.  Now, I'm working just as hard to lose it as I was trying to gain it. While mean spirited, ths comment may bring a smile to your face for a second......We were on a beach and this very attractive girl goes jogging by in a bikini.......with dread in my voice I say, "I'm never going to look like that again!" Boyfriend says," Don't worry baby, neither will she."

not at all.  i think that being in the position of needing to gain weight--even if you don't have an ED--is incredibly difficult.  trying to balance the contradictory messages makes for a very hard road.  often, i think, it compounds a pre-existing mind-body split (been reading bell hooks - sorry).

not saying that losing weight is easy, but at least there isn't implicit (and explicit) pressure to gain.  the goal is pretty straight forward.

One of my best friends is super skinny. About 4 months ago, I was at my 10 pounds lost mark, and she had told me that she had a rough week at school and had lost 10 pounds because of it. I asked her how much that put her at, and she said 100 pounds (she's 5'4). I got so frustrated because I had been working hard to lose weight, and someone who was so skinny lost it just by having a "rough week". I understand now that everyone's body is different. It is hard sometimes though.

I rather have an extra pound or inch too much than too little, but then again I have never been over bmi of 22.

And losing weight means less food for me, which is way cheaper (most food in my country is getting ridiculously expensive). 

So no, I don't envy people that can't gain weight, whether the cause is an ED or some physical problem or they're just naturally thin.