Would it make you mad if...

Your boyfriend was always calling other girls beautiful, gorgeous, amazing, etc.? Or am I just overreacting?

Hell yeah I would be mad. Theres no reason to let him do it if youre not happy about it!! And its not even like those words are harmless.  amazing and gorgeous are words you use on your girlfriend not some chick!

you are NOT overreacting<3

Girls that are his friends? Girls that he sees when you're both together (like a girl that walks by you at the mall).  Or is it more like celebrities and women on tv?

It depends on how he does it. My boyfriend does it just to tease me (in a nice way) and I laugh along with it. I think if I got pissed off about it, that's when he'd become more mean about stuff like that. If you're boyfriend is actually leering at these women (whether friends, other girls or celebrities) then I think it's time to dump him ;p

I wanted to make sure I wasn't being a psycho jealous girlfriend before I brought it up to him. I don't even know if I should bring it up... :/ Should I?

He does it to girls that are his friends, girls that are my friends, girls on t.v. :/ And he'll be like, 'your friend *insert name here* is pretty cute'. Uh.

I don't agree (with post #3)

If my boyfriend was hitting on girls that were his friends, that would bother me. Unless he was just telling her she was beautiful, that wouldn't really bother me. If he was going on about how hot one of his friends was that would probably get on my nerves.

If he continuously hit on girls that we walked by I would start to get annoyed. I would let a couple of times slide.

Celebrities though? I could careeeee lesssss! I have posters of James Dean all over my walls. I guess I would feel like a hypocrite.

edit to add: I think the friend thing is crossing the line, especially if it happens constantly. Talk to him about it. Sounds like he's trying to be a jerk. Hit on his friends..haha.

edit - just to make it clear, my boyfriend doesn't hit on girls! the only thing he does is that he says 'oh she's pretty' but only in a teasing way :)

and i love james dean too!! so hot :D

Hmmmm...obviously even when you are in a committed relationship, you are still going to find others attractive, and that's totally normal and okay.  It's what you do with those feelings of attraction that matters in my eyes.  If my husband were constantly pointing out how hot others were (especially you know, just a girl passing by on the street as opposed to a celebrity), I would find it pretty disrespectful.  But it's totally up to you to decide what you are comfortable with.

I think it is fine so long as he doesn't act on it and it's a from time to time thing. It's perfectly okay for someone in a relationship to find others attractive. What would make the difference to me would be if he did it ALL of the time. Then it'd verge on annoying.

Celebs, that wouldn't bother me.

I think what would be more important is how he reacts if you choose to let him know this bothers you... will he respect your emotions and refrain from making comments (ones, that he probably has NO CLUE bother you- and how will he know if you don't tell him) or will he laugh it off or belittle you and how it makes you feel? Will he attempt to down play it by saying you are over reacting? IF YOU ARE HAVING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ABOUT WHAT HE IS SAYING, THEN YOU ARE NOT OVER REACTING- YOU ARE JUST EXPERIENCING EMOTION AND SHOULD BE ABLE TO SHARE THIS WITH HIM... Women are too often told the emotions they are experiencing are not legitimate and this is ridiculous.

That said, he may just be a super visual guy and sharing his observations may just be innocent communication or perhaps verbalizing his attraction to others neutralizes that attraction (I experience this. If I tell my guy I think his friend is cute and it is all out there, then it is no big deal and isn't going to grow into some secret "forbidden fruit" sorta thing...)

The only thing to do is to mention it to him. Maybe next time he says makes a comment, just ask him why he feels the need to say things like that- in a super nice low key way, of course- he may a touch defensive- then let him know it happens frequently enough that it is starting to bother you and see what he has to say...

MY BOYFRIEND DID THAT TO ME TWICE IN THE MONTH WE WERE GOING OUT...BUT HE SAYS NO OFFENCE BEFORE HE SAYS IT...IT DOES ANNOY ME AND I GET PISSED BUT YOU KNOW THERE WILL BE THAT 1 DAY I SEE A HOT GUY AND I CAN BE LIKE WOW HES SEXY..SO IM NOT TO WORRIED ABOUT IT...BUT YOUR NOT OVER REACTING

I was with a guy who used to do that, and it made me mad AND insecure. I was able to laugh about it the first few times (the celebrities didn't bother me, however), but it only encouraged him to do it more and get worse with it since he thought I was "okay" with it.

Does he COMPARE you to these girls, by any chance?

Talk to him about it. If he doesn't quit and consider your feelings, it might not be worth it.

I accept the fact that he's going to think other girls are pretty and stuff, and I don't expect him to never check someone out, but I just wish he wouldn't tell me, ya know? Like, if he thinks my friend is cute, I don't want to know. Ahh! And I don't mind if he calls his friend pretty or something, but gorgeous and amazing? I always considered those to be girlfriend terms. It kind of makes me feel nervous when we're around my friends, because I don't want him to think I'm really ugly/fat compared to them. :S

But I care nothing about stuff he says about celebs, they're whatever.

Personally, not at all.  I'm secure enough to think that "yeah, he thinks she's hot, but he's with me."  I just think its not that big of a deal if he calls someone else cute or whatever.  Flirting does no harm.  Hitting on and flirting with is a BIG difference though, so be aware.  Getting emotionally attached to someone else...now that is an even bigger problem.

If you have told him exactly how much it bothers you and exactly how big of a deal it is when he makes those comments (because it obviously is a big deal to you), and he still does it...dump him.  Not worth it.

Just take a step back and see if you really are overreacting.  Let him know how insecure it makes you feel.  If he doesn't respect your needs, dump him.  If you're just feeling insecure, know he's with you because he obviously finds you more attractive than anyone.  =)

I'd be effing PISSED. But not jealous, not at all. Just pissed at the untactfullness, if that's a word.

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he does, and it does make me mad, because i have body image issues and automatically assume those girls are better than i am. although, he doesn't know. so my feelings are just as much my fault i suppose. i would say tell him, and he should put your feelings first. 

Nope, not at all. My BF and I are incredibly honest with eachother. We'd make it a little game, we'd pick girls out and discuss their "hottness". It was kind of interesting how often he picked out girls that i didn't think were that perfect, or I would find myself thinking, "she's got a huge tummy!" or "that girl's such a pear shape" and he would just think "cute" and I would pick out some stick thin girl and he'd say, "she's too thin" or "where's her butt?"

it depends on the girl... if i know her i'm like lol im hmmm should i worry? yet if i dont kno them i just laugh along.