So. A man called me wide arse yesterday...

I've copied and pasted this from my journal. I was really upset about it yesterday and am still thinking about it so I've obviously not let it go yet.

       &nb sp;  --- I was walking down the street today, quite fast as I needed to get to the shop before close, and this man kept deliberately walking in front of me. So I was trying to get past and probabaly had an annoyed look on my face and he said to his friend: "Haha I always knew how to put a frown on a horrible looking bird's face!" So I just walked past trying not to take any notice and he shouts something like "Yeah go on then wide arse(ass!)".

FFS that is exactly what I DON'T need atm. What kind of person says that to another person, whatever they look like? That man obviously did it just to be hurtful, otherwise he wouldn't have said it so loud. He doesn't know or care what kind of issues I have with my body. I could've been totally confident and laughed it off or I could be a suicidal, recovering anorexic. ----

Why have I let this random stranger upset me? I went way over cal limit yesterday, conversely because of that comment. WHY? It doesn't make any bloody sense does it? I matter to me more than he matters to me so why the hell should I listen to him and let him throw me off track?

Has anyone else had something like this happen? And why does it not make you more determined to eat well and stick to the rules?

On a more positive note I did walk an extra hour last night to try and burn off all the extra food :-/

misscherryjane,

As a guy I apologize to you, you are right that is un-called for and rude. If he was a young skinny guy I would have not held back. So for this reason this makes you a better person and in life you will get rewarded and do not worry that person will get his just reward one day. Stick to the rules and start over the next day. On a personal note nobody was ever that rude to me but my friends and family also did not tell me I was gaining weight. One day I was in a mall and said to myself let’s see how I am doing. That day I almost broke down when I saw 200+ lbs.  Took me months to get it off and at 181.5 lbs today I still feel the need for maybe 15 lbs more. There are many ways for people to be cruel to you. Do not listen to them and do what makes you happy and the best. Find people that will love you no matter what.

Thank you! That's so nice :) My grandmother used to have a lovely habit of telling me and my sister, who used to be quite chubby when she was little, "Oh you've put on weight haven't you? Do you think you should go on a diet?"!!

I think it's very hard to tell your family members of friends if they are gaining weight but you came to the comclusion by yourself that you needed to do something about it and you did. So really you've had to work harder because you've pushed yourself and not had anyone else pushing you. Well done on your loss and I hope you reach your goal :)

x

Thank you and good luck also do not let people that do not have a clue affect you. Hope you find the support you need to move forward and complete your goals. Always welcome to send a hello or concern to me.