Managing Your Emotions: Four Powerful Questions
By Diane Petrella, MSW
If you’re reading this, then chances are you want to release excess weight so that you can become healthy and fit. But sometimes, the cycle of emotional eating seems to take charge of what you eat and you feel out of control. To regain control, ask yourself these four powerful questions. They will help you stay true to yourself and keep you moving forward.
Set the stage
When struggling with the decision to overeat or not, use the Stop-Breathe-Reflect-Choose technique. STOP before impulsively acting on that urge and then take a deep breath. Then use that reflective space to have a meaningful conversation with yourself. Focus on the four questions. Develop the mental discipline necessary to propel you towards your goals.
Four Powerful Questions
Question # 1: Do I want immediate gratification, or long term self-confidence?
Sometimes it’s easy to feel helpless when confronted with strong impulses to repeat self-destructive habits. The immediate relief of satisfying a compelling urge to overeat often clouds our better judgment. But, actually, you are not a victim to your past patterns. Tell yourself you have a choice, and at some point – perhaps today - that choice will confidently bring you just once step further towards your goal.
Question # 2: How do I want to feel one hour from now? One day from now? One year from now?
This question helps you to directly anticipate the results of choices you make. Do you want the next hour, day or week of your precious life to be contaminated with guilt and regret? Or do you want to honor your body and feel strong and confident? Whatever you decide, realize you are creating your future life with every decision you make today.
Question # 3: What would I do right now if I fully loved myself and my body?
This powerful question helps you link with your Future You. Act as if you are already someone who is healthy and fit. How does someone who totally loves his/her body act? Create the image in your mind of being that person. Now imagine how the Future You will handle this situation. Close the gap from where you are today and where you want to be.
Question # 4: What do I truly want?
It’s easy to forget what we truly want when weighed down by overwhelming feelings. But by reminding yourself of what you want, you link to your desire and desire coupled with positive expectation is a powerful, inspiring force. Remind yourself why you began this journey in the first place. Do I want to lose weight, or not? Do I want to be someone who feels helpless and defeated? Or do I want to be someone who is in charge of his/her body? Do I want to eat this when I’m really not hungry? Or do I want to stop and feel confident about having the life, and the body, that I want? Ask yourself right now, how committed am I to releasing excess weight from my body?
How do you answer the four powerful questions?
Diane Petrella, MSW is a psychotherapist and life coach. She offers her clients a spiritual approach to weight loss and helps them develop a loving, respectful relationship with their bodies. Receive a free copy of Diane’s Seven Easy & Effortless Weight Loss Secrets by signing up for her monthly e-newsletter, Living Lightly, for spiritual insights and tips to release weight with confidence and love. To contact Diane directly visit her website at www.dianepetrella.com.