My husband told me "I just don't dont love you like I used to. We have grown apart and I don't know what I want anymore."
I have been married for 20 years (21 in March), if we make it til then. I thouht everything was ok, great most of the time.
I absolutely adore my husband. He is a wonderful man. He is short tempered.
We have a 19 year old son who is actually a really good person. He is extremely a country boy. He graduated last year, went off to college for 5 months at Thanksgiving he came home and my 42 year old brother was tragically killed in a car wreck. My son has since dropped out of college and says he does not want to be that far from home ever again. He has already found a job and has been saving money to help pay off his college loans that he has accrued to this point. I do think that he will go back to school but just needs time to get himself together.
My husband is extremely angry. He and my son fight all of the time. I play the mediator and try to resolve the conflicts. I know I should stay out of it but I am always worried it is going to end up violent. My husband has never been violent but his temper has gotten so bad.
My work has taken me from home - I am now only home on the weekends. I have a great job that I love and our payments depend on me making the money that I make at this job.
I thought that even with the problems between my husband and son (that is 99% of our arguments are about), I really believed that we would be married forever. Now I just don't know.
I desperately need advice, opinions, prayers, etc...
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You poor thing! only one reply in two months & even that is removed?!
First of all, let me assure you of my prayers! I will keep you in my Rosary & when I go to church I will remember you...having been happily married for nearly 34 years myself (in July of this year) I can certainly understand how you must love your husband very much & want your marriage to succeed.
Has he had a check-up recently? Does he have health problems that might be contributing to his moods? (I only ask because alot of the time, as we get older, especially in men, problems that come up *especially undiagnosed ones* can play a real HELL on the psyche & the way we feel about ourselves can plummet!!)
If he has always had a temper but has suddenly gotten worse, this might be part of the problem.
I notice that you said "in March" ...well, it is the 30th today, so I was wondering how things were going for you by now??
Anything I can do to help, I would be very happy...altho' we don't "know" one another, we are all children of God & therefore connected in that way.
Be hopeful, maybe you can get that spark back. Have you thought about a romantic getaway?
Remind him of what he loved about you 20 years ago.
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