Got Married and Gaining Weight! eek!

Hello! So I just got married and now I feel like i'm gaining the "freshman 15" except its the new wife 15!

I realized now that i'm living with a man I am starting to eat like one!! I googled it and that seems to be why lots of women gain weight once they get married. They just eat as much as their husbands do without realizing it. 

My husband is way more in shape than me already and the same height as me, i'm worried if I gain any more weight he is going to wonder why he is slowly getting to be smaller than me! haha we are also going to see his family next month and I don't want them to comment on how i've gained weight especially because we have only been married 2 months! 

I'm just looking for support basically...is anyone else experiencing this..or did you experience it and beat it?? I would love some advice! 

Hi,

I just joined this site and I can totally relate to your situation. However, my boyfriend has always been skinnier than I am! And I'm definitely not overweight.

We've recently been living together and I've noticed that I'm eating more. I tend to say things like "Oh, I shouldn't eat that chocolate." But since he knows that I really want it, he'll encourage me to go after it. In his defence, he also encourages me to work out and eat healthy when I say that I want to.

I think for me.. the hardest part is doing something different than what he is. I can't eat the same things, I can't sit around all the time with him and not exercise. The worst part is having to push myself to go to the gym, and to limit myself to healthier foods so that I don't just try to eat healthy when he's around and then when he's at work binge on chocolate for breakfast (ie: this morning.)

I can't really offer any solid advice, just support and good luck with your goals! Gaining weight is tough, but it sounds like you have a great husband to be there for you. Maybe tell him about your goals? You could go for walks together or the gym.. and just be conscious of your meal sizes. Maybe give him a bigger plate and have a smaller plate for yourself so that it looks like you have the same amount as he does when you actually have less.

.Hello,

I totally hear you . I was 145 before i got married and now im 185, so i gained 40 lbs within 4 years, and it is so true" we eat like the man we live with".  but for us girls, we don't burn calories like the men do. we ate same amount of food and we end up gaining weight.  So i really hope you good luck and we can do this!!!

I understand where you are coming from, I am 21 and in University 5 hours away from my fiancee. When I met him, it was a time in my life when I was at the fittest and slimest I have ever been. I felt fantastic. I have slowly gained about 20 pounds in the two years I have known him. Because we don't see each other all the time - I find that we go out to dinner and treat ourselves when we do - I loose weight when I'm back at school. That and I have constant encouragement from him about how beautiful my body is. He sees me in a light that makes me feel spectacular, yet its not helping me keep my weight where I want it. I've realized that I need the body that satisfies me! I finally started watching what I eat again two weeks ago, since the summer ended and I'm back at school - feeling healthier, stronger, and more beautiful already.

I got married 3 months ago and have already gained 20 lbs and my husband is a really fit and active guy so I can relate.

My best advice is that as much as your husband wants to companionship of you eating with him, you don't always have to eat the same foods and you should not be eating the same portions. (this is a hard one for me) If your husband loves you he will want you to be happy and healthy and if that means sometimes you are eating on a different schedule I'm sure he would rather you do that.

I know its tough but good luck :)

You've just got to remember that you can't eat like him. It has helped me to have smaller portions at the very least. If he dishes up icecream I dish up myself a quarter of what he is having...you have to be aware of what you're doing and know that it has consequences.

Good luck and congrats on the wedding.

Oh my I totally relate to that! I just got married a year ago but my husband and I have lived together for about 4 1/2 years. I never used to be a big eater but I have gained weight from cooking him dinners every night. He is super skinny and can eat anything he wants (and we all know that never works the same way for the rest of us women!). I also bake a lot and I've had to put a damper on that because every time I bake something for him I usually eat some of it too! Lately when he wants steak and potatoes I just remember that he doesn't care if I don't eat the same thing. I usually just have a salad and some other vegetables. Don't feel like you have to eat the same thing as him, or just eat smaller portions that fill you up :). The other thing I've noticed is that my husband knows what I crave, and if I'm having a bad day he'll bring me chocolate or something. I know he means well but it's hard to say no when the person you love is waving your favorite treat in your face! For me it has helped telling him that I'm cutting back on certain things and he is totally supportive. Just be open and honest with your hubby and he will support you no matter what! :)

Hey everyone thanks for your support!! I'm trying to lose at least a couple pounds in these next two weeks for when we go to meet his family! Its nice to know i'm not alone and lots of other people are having the same problem :) I also want to mention that my husband is so supportive of me! He is seriously the best, he thinks that I worry WAY too much about my body because he has always loved it from the beginning and still loves it...i'm definitely NOT doing this for him I am only doing it for my own personal self confidence. He would probably be happier if I wasn't doing all this calorie counting and stuff and if I already had body self confidence haha

I am going to try giving him a bigger plate but I am going to use a smaller plate at mealtimes so I can't fit as much on my plate + no going back for seconds!!  also I'm substituting his "high calorie" parts of meals with lower calorie ones....for example the other night he ate brown sugar glazed cooked carrots...and I just had steamed broccoli :) It is going to work out pretty well I think. I'm also just really watching what I eat during the day so that I can feel comfortable eating maybe a little more at dinner...I also realized i'm normally eating with him when he gets home from work at 10. I'll come home from work at 7 have a snack then make dinner at like 9 and eat it with him when he gets home...i'm going to try to just make dinner when I get home and eat it so that I can be done eating for the night by 8. Then he can just warm his up when he gets home and I also won't be tempted to match his portion sizes.

Another thing I realized: since I do all of the baking...I do ALOT of tasting while i'm baking to see if things are warm enough...taste right etc...so all of that tasting probably adds up in the long run??

Thanks everyone for your replys!

we also just got p90x! so i'm trying to fit those workouts into my busy schedule...and by december I should have a rockin body??? haha that is the plan anyways!