Would you marry for money?

We were having this conversation at work tonight....I'm still trying to decide..

A really rich man/woman asks you to marry them....you don't find them all that attractive, but they're not that bad either. You get on with them OK, but they don't float your boat. They say if you marry them you'll never want for anything ever again........

Would you?

Whats the alternative?!

 

JK..I probably would NOT..

No, 'cause I'm not all about money.  I didn't marry Alex for his money or his family's money or whatever, and if he ever does fall into a large sum of money, I want a post-nup stating that money is not mine, it's his, and if he croaks it goes to the kids.

I like working, and I grew up knowing the satisfaction one feels after a hard day's work.  I wouldn't give that up for anything.

Maybe I'm a sap, but I rather like the thought of marriage for love. Maybe I'm a tad of a romantic? Even if my boyfriend was broke, I'd love him anyway.

Original Post by davefiredancer19:

Whats the alternative?!

 

JK..I probably would NOT..

 I guess the alternative would be either remain on your own....

 or...

Marry someone you love, but doesn't have money..

nope.  but then i'm not sure i'd marry for love, either.

good question.  Right now, I probably would.  To have companionship and money...love can always come in time. 

It is a better option then being alone.

PG...yeah you see that's where I'm kind of at....I don't know if I want to go there again....

pamm...I hear what you are saying cause I also don't particularly want to be on my own either, so if the only offer was this one....

would I turn it down?

I don't know?

If I were a single mother, and had kids that needed stuff, then yes. I would marry a friend. But if it's just me, I'd rather keep looking until I find someone I actually love.

but you know, to the same extent that i wouldn't marry for money, i also wouldn't attach myself to someone who has nothing.  how much would it suck to fall for some loser who can't hold down a job or make a car payment?

does that make me materialistic?

Marry the rich guy, divorce and get half his money, then marry the man you love.. :D

No, but really, I'd marry the man that I loved even if he were dirt poor. But there is a difference between a dead-beat and a man who is happy with his job, however it pays a low salary. Like an artist or musician. I wouldn't marry a lazy slob who refused to work, though...

I suspect that the answer to this question varies with a person's feeling of confidence in providing for themselves.

Considering that I am working hard to become a well-paid professional, I would not marry for money because I'm going to make my own money. I already see a time in my future when I won't want for anything.

If I were a single mom of three with no education and no prospects, however, my answer might be different.

That depends, do I get to stay married to my current husband as well?

Yes. I would keep working, though. Honestly, I think that love can develop over time.

Probably not.  I can make my own money.  I hate depending on people.  Honestly, I'd probably rather be alone than live with someone I don't care for.  I'm comfortable enough with myself to be alone.

No! Marriage is hard enough with someone you love. If you marry for money, you will earn every penny of it. You will miss out on what marriage is supposed to be about, best friends, emotional support, growing and maturing together. That's what it's supposed to be about.   

Everyone says they'd marry a man who had zero money... but really... would you marry a guy who couldn't hold down a job and basically lived off your hard work?

Money issues are the number 1 cause for divorce. I'd say you wouldn't stay married long...

Original Post by alibuch:

Everyone says they'd marry a man who had zero money... but really... would you marry a guy who couldn't hold down a job and basically lived off your hard work?

Money issues are the number 1 cause for divorce. I'd say you wouldn't stay married long...

I don't think I'd be able to marry a man who was poor. In my future husband I would expect him to make a reasonable salary. There is no way in hell that I'm going to be the one working my ass off making all of the money, paying the bills, having babies, taking care of the babies, cooking, cleaning, etc. I'm fine with doing the last four things on my own but my husband has to also do his part. Marrying a man who is dirt poor for me would not be realistic at all especially if I wanted to have a family. Even if I made enough for the both of us, I don't think I'd be able to live with myself if I married a man who was working at McDonalds while I spent 12 years of my life through college earning a good job.

NOOOO. i'm definitely addicted to money-- its like my prime objective (after friends, fam, etc ofcourse). but i mean, unless their wealth would be able to pay for something benefiting (sp?) my fam, friends then i wouldn't do it.

Original Post by alibuch:

Everyone says they'd marry a man who had zero money... but really... would you marry a guy who couldn't hold down a job and basically lived off your hard work?

Money issues are the number 1 cause for divorce. I'd say you wouldn't stay married long...

forget marriage--i wouldnt want anyone living off my hard earned work (unless they had some sort of condition etc that prevented them from doing their own thing). there are a few oth situations that i could deal with my sig other being like this. but in general, not really a [permanent] option

Money can come and go - marrying a man who is does or doesnt have money is no guarantee.  People have burned through big loads of cash to find themselves hopelessly in debt and others have persisted despite low paying work to advance financially.

Marrying someone who is hard working and responsible with money should outrank their financial status, whether rich or poor.