MD crush dilemma

hi.thanks for reading.would love to have your opinions

so i'm a nurse in this hospital. i met this intern (MD) who used to work night shift for 2 weeks.  but i've only met him 5 times. i REALLY like him a lot. sadly he's on days now and  btw he has a ring on his right middle finger. i don't really know what to do. he's been running on my head for the last 5 days. the last time i had the chance to ask him about his career move. that's it.

i'm thinking that i would be impossible for him to like me, since there are so many hot girls out there. he's really nice to everyone. there are times when i want to let go, but if i do that shouldn't i be a coward? what do you think i should do? thanks a lot

A ring on his right middle finger doesn't mean anything as far as I know, first of all.  The one you want to watch out for is his left ring finger.

I'm not a doctor, but I know doctors who work in hospitals have very stressful jobs and one of the last things on their mind is the cute nurses.  You said you talked to him about his career move, but he may or may not have truly noticed you, but you noticed him.. you should talk to him next time you see him.  Ask him out to coffee Or make a point to be at the hospital when he's on a lunch break or something like that so you can introduce yourself formally and ask him out to coffee or something like that.  See if things hit it off.

How do you feel about befriending him first? While at work. It's a good way to get to know someone and see if it's more than just initial attraction. Of course, it's a little tricky to turn your mind in this direction. But if you can pull it off, it will also take loads of pressure off. I've made several great male friends this way. Initially thought they were hot, then got to know them and lost the lust (shh, don't tell them).

There is that thing about dating people at work. So you may want to consider potential consequence there.

thanks. additional info. he's just in this hospital for one year and he'll be transferring to another one within the city. i'm a night nurse.he's now on days so i see him in the am.

btw skookum like what kind of things you thought they were hot and finally lost the lust?

katesorad  you're right we all do have stressful jobs. about the coffee i'll try to have the guts to ask him.

please share your opinions. really need a bunch

The residents/interns/MDs at my workplace get hit on all the time.  Everyone wants to get a cute doctor, or even an average-looking one.  There are even ads up on craigslist all over the place.  It's really kind of creepy.  Good luck, I believe these guys are in pretty high demand.

ask him out?

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Original Post by huggitbear:

The residents/interns/MDs at my workplace get hit on all the time.  Everyone wants to get a cute doctor, or even an average-looking one.  There are even ads up on craigslist all over the place.  It's really kind of creepy.  Good luck, I believe these guys are in pretty high demand.

I would like to point out that this only happens to the males. Even med students get hit on/flirted with, whether they are attractive and charming or not.

Whereas women in med school actually find themselves rejected by more guys than before.

I didn't believe this was actually still possible in this day and age, but after a year in the hospital setting (I'm starting my last year of med school now) it's sad but true.

Still totally worth being a female doctor though. The guys who aren't intimidated by you are the best ones of all.

i agree, men generally get hit on than females. why is that?! hmm..

anyway, i don't want to ask him out. still getting clues. so i have this mind set now to sort of let things go, but not act weird in front of him, you know tell myself not to be into him so much. This way i won't have this high hope only to be disappointed.

also he is new , so there's a possibility that he still not in his comfort zone. i don't know

it's not that he's an MD , i don't know maybe the personality, the thing when you look into his eyes you see a nice guy. anyway i saw him this morning, my heart started pounding. i kept on telling myself to let it go. made a few conversation. he even joked around.

so that was my morning today...felt happy but  I'll try to not think of him too much

Original Post by justiine:

i agree, men generally get hit on than females. why is that?! hmm..

anyway, i don't want to ask him out. still getting clues. so i have this mind set now to sort of let things go, but not act weird in front of him, you know tell myself not to be into him so much. This way i won't have this high hope only to be disappointed.

also he is new , so there's a possibility that he still not in his comfort zone. i don't know

it's not that he's an MD , i don't know maybe the personality, the thing when you look into his eyes you see a nice guy. anyway i saw him this morning, my heart started pounding. i kept on telling myself to let it go. made a few conversation. he even joked around.

so that was my morning today...felt happy but  I'll try to not think of him too much

All I can advise is, smile and flirt and show your interest in a respectful way, and at the END of his rotation you can safely ask him out. (i.e. when you won't have to face each other at work the next day). Just be prepared that he is in high demand and you will have a lot of other women going after him for reasons that have nothing to do with his niceness or personality... But since your intentions are pure, you might have the advantage. Most of them are not smart enough to recognize and reject the golddiggers, but some are. Good luck!

p.s. though if this has nothing to do with the MD, why title the thread "MD crush dilemma"? why not simply "crush dilemma?"

The MD part is important because he's a coworker and that complicates things. I can see that.

My recommendation, since you have a whole year with him around, is to wait it out. Be friendly, let him see how competent you are (because that's important- I'm positive he won't be interested in a ditzy nurse), and see if anything comes of it. I think it would be better, as you get friendlier and learn more about him casually, to occasionally mention that you'll be at a certain place for a concert, movie, marathon... whatever you both seem to be interested in. You can also casually say, "it's going to be fun- you should come". Asking someone for coffee before you know them is risky and would be awkward for both of you if he says no. Also, be careful who you mention this to at work- some folks don't know when to keep things to themselves and you don't want it to become like a middle school crush or something to gossip about.

Good luck!

 I suggest that you continue to be friendly and invite to have a liquid of some sorts with you... As a friendly gesture!

The fact that he's an MD only complicates things because of the working arrangements,imho. He'll be transferring to another hospital within the city in a year on the up side though. That gives you some time to get to know him on a friendly basis outside of work. It's probably a pro that you work different shifts in honestly. That may make things less awkward if you hit it off. I wouldn't ' wait ' on anything in regard to showing your friendly interest. ' Dating ' is in attempt to gauge your level of interest and your suitability to each other. In your case I'd suggest that you test the water through friendship first. The reason being that you work together  (Even if you're both on different shifts currently. )

I'd simply ask him if he wanted to go have a drink. Coffee/Tea/Water/Soda/Ice cream shakes. w/e A liquid of sorts later. . . He'll either catch the offer or let it fly by him without concern. I'd ask in a friendly way so it it's a non-issue. At this point you really just want to get to know him better,imo. There may be no sparks once you're outside the hospital having a latte,Lol.

You may find out you actually dislike him to a strong degree, Haa. The point being that right now... You just need to take the incentive to invite him to get to know you better. That way you can explore getting to know one another on a friendly basis outside of work. My actions, words, behaviors are consistent on and off-the-job. I'm sharing information and engaging in conversations that exchange information. Information that gives others insight into who I am as a person and what I think/do/believe/Etc. It wouldn't be difficult to recognize me in either setting based on everything known about me. I'm pretty much the same regardless of either setting. However: That's not always the case! Some people are completely different on and off-the-clock. People that know me both off and on the job have assured me of that I'm the same. In general the only difference is others reaction to me. ( Plus: My appearance by clothing,etc. ) My point being this guy may be fantastic on the job, but really a annoying jerk-face off the clock. Find out! He may only appear to be someone you'd have interest in romantically. Attempt to form a friendship outside of work first.

Some people are pretend friendly/nice/tidy as professionals. They aren't actually nice/friendly/tidy people off the clock, Lol! He may only have appear to have it all together due to a short glimpse.

Best of Luck!

btw: I thought this thread was about someone having a crush on House, Dr.Dreamy,  or Dr.McSteamy/Etc!

i just want to say that i think the idea of hooking up with a doctor is a whole lot better than the reality of it.

edit: unless it's you, tw :)

Original Post by pgeorgian:

i just want to say that i think the idea of hooking up with a doctor is a whole lot better than the reality of it.

edit: unless it's you, tw :)

I was just about to be offended (ok, pierced through the heart is more like it) until I saw that edit.

I have, overall, gotten good reviews from the people I have hooked up with. ;)

But I understand your point inasmuch as my class has more than its share of naive egotists with no notion of the reality of the outside world.

thanks a lot. i think i won't be asking him for coffee yet. yup i think i'll try the friendship thing. but i'm not really sure how to  because let's see i see him in the morning, he's making rounds, so am i ( either giving report to the next shift) . like this morning, he just said "hey what's up" and then he left. the thing is i am the one who's asking questions about his stuffs than he is to me.i think he only ask me once about myself. ( sigh)

anyway guys thanks a lot. i really feel better at least i have people sharing this situation than keeping it all by myself.

in response to trustwomen. MD crush dilemma..just to happen that this is really the first time that i really really like an Md and is kind of intimidating.