men!! what is more attractive...

a girl that is out of shape but really skinny or a girl with a curvy build that is in shape?

what are parts of a girls body that lets you know a girl was really in shape?

Curvy and in shape.

Really skinny doesn't "do it" for me.

And it's a combination of arms and legs. A girl with semi-muscular arms (not huge and bulging, but obviously uses them) or legs is attractive to me, and it's clear she is fit.

Fit is also an attitude. Fit women aren't going to be sitting in front of the TV or computer all day. They can't, to be fit. They're more active.

This is hard to answer.  I don't necessarily look for one certain feature.  More of a combination of things.  I would say a REALLY skinny girl doesn't do it for me either.  

Curvy in shape.  No contest.

depends what curvey is considered.  If curvey is 180 at 5'5 ill take the skinny thing and wipe it in shape.

watching top model with my guy's friends...


the beanpole thin guy says: "wow shes hot"

the muscular/chunky guy says : "ew that b*tch is nasty. she looks like a dude"

i really think it doesnt matter what one guy things because it going to gross the another one out.

the girl was very very thin like a stick (the one they were talking about) i just think its funny that two friends who agree on pretty much everything dont agree on whats attractive to them.

Okay. Sounds like you  just wanted someone to agree with you because you didn't even the score here. One is out of shape whereas, the other is in shape. Obviously, anyone is going to decide that the one in shape is more attractive.

However, I don't see it quite that way. Because I've noticed that what some consider ' curve ' I do not.


If curvey means ' fat ' to you or chubby, nu.

I'm with Giggle_Puppy on this one. The only way that it's considered curve is if the girl is trim with assets. Meaning ' 5'3 c cup. '  Yet 113lbs. Or taller but trim with large assets/booty. That's curve. Curves aren't 5'5 180lbs.
 

Chubby and curvy aren't the same thing.

This is not "In Proportion" either.  Just because you have a DD cup, but weigh 180lbs, doesn't make you curvy because of your fat breasts.  Curvy first requires you to be healthy.  Otherwise those things you consider "curves" are just more fat.

Hmm yea, if by chubby you mean fat...then i would pick the too skinny one (can always force her to play tennis and feed her cookies, mmm cookies).

By out of shape, im guessing you mean no muscle? Thats not a big issue with me, they wouldnt really need to lift anything (thats what im for apparently o.O).

I think the in shape girl would be more attractive and fun to go out with.  It really all depends on the girl though i guess.  Of course dont settle for either.  Find someone who does it all for you.  Thats what Im trying to do but it might also be why Im single.

Apparently, from what I understand from my guy friends is that they like small and "fit" girls, but not someone who's too thin and who still have a body, so to speak. Chubby unfit girls aren't unattractive, but they aren't first choice either. I once had a friend of mine who used to chase after me and try and feed me because he said he missed my booty and boobs from high school when I weighed around my heaviest,  155.  I weigh about 115 now and unfortunately with the weight loss, my boobs and butt sort of shrank as well. :-/ Sigh. He does like my tummy however. No matter how fit a girl is, guys seem to like girls who have a little tummy. Too many things to worry about. :-s There's no pleasing everyone! ;-)

Id rather have a girl with curves. I like a girl who fills out a pair of jeans. I like muscle but not body builder. Those ladies freak me out.

T and A are important but to me at lease a sexy stomach is much harder to find.  As long as everything is proportional you will be just fine!  Healthy and fit is always sexy!

I think it depends on the age of the man and the man's particular values.  In academia I find being the 'media' attractive, eg - fake boobs, push up bra, tight jeans, and thin but not muscle thin, just thin - if you get what I mean that's rejected by the men there.  It's associated with a lack of culture and the girl identifying with mass media. 

teenage guys now, many of them anyway like thin, thin, that's the media ideal.  My husband and his friends like naturally attractive, proportional and average.  Not fat, maybe a bit overweight, but certainly not underweight either. 

I don't think you can say 'men'.  I find too that when men mature they give up (not without a lack of trying maybe- lol) their younger ideals on the 'perfect woman'

I agree that not all men like the same things - not at all.  Part of it is maturity, certainly but part is also just individual taste.  That's why there are 31 flavors, after all.

I tend to go for anyone who is "fit" and certainly curves are good.  Assuming fit means not obese, I'd go there certainly (Marylin Monroe over, say, Heidi Klum).

I do like some petite women if they are both small and short - I think it inspires some sort of protective instinct in me.  Having said that, I don't think it would excite me for as long.

I still think that confidence and personality are the keys for me, and for all people. 

so what constitutes a sexy stomach then? 

I can't say that I'm curvy as I am lacking in the boobelage dept, which is a shame as I've got a booty, so I'm half curvy lol.

But like most have said it's all personal tastes.  Don't they say that by a certain pre-pubescent age that men have formed what they find attractive...thought I read that somewhere.  I think these days tho, as mentioned, there is more of a media ideal that shapes younger peoples views as it's a constant barrage of images of people who all look a certain way.

I have to say that there's something about certain people that really gets me.

Its the person who *must* have the well-built, hard-bodied person, but is a lazy out of shape person themselves.

I had a friend who said "I need a girl with a flat stomach and runner's legs."

He did nothing but drink and sit on the couch.

Hello!!!

I think you're overthinking the issue somewhat.

A sexy stomach is YOUR stomach, if you're sexy. Sexy is different thing to different people, but for most people, it's an attitude. A Sexy person KNOWS they're sexy, loves being sexy.

There are many girls, on this site and in real life, who have grown up believing they need to achieve these unattainable goals to be sexy, to look like the fashion models. They don't.

A Sexy Body is YOUR body, no matter who you are. Someone will find you attractive, no matter what you may think you look like.

Not that I expect my intended audience is actually listening to me :p

gotta stop asking what men think...what do you think is sexy, kren...because ultimately what you see in the mirror is what matters, not what others see...

men are not responsible for maintaining our positive self-image, any more than madison avenue or fifth avenue are...we are the only ones responsible for our self-image.

Hey! What about skinny girls who are in shape???

Well, we all know that you're hot Susan :)

Not all of us can have a perfect rack!  

Beautiful is how you carry yourself and how you feel.