Ever met your bf/gf online??

I'm in a serious dating slump. I'm not sure why either. I know guys find me attractive, because it's always the ones I don't want coming up to me that do. I'm not trying to sound stuck up, because I think that happens to everyone. I think it also has to do with the fact that I prefer white guys over others (I'm black, and it's just what I grew up around and have always been attracted to, I can't help it!) and how is anyone supposed to *know* that? Well, of course they wouldn't. I'm kind of shy as well..maybe I have a fear of rejection, so I seldom approach people. I guess it is my fault in the long run for not making it known that I'm interested. hmmm...

Anyway, I was just going to ask if anyone ever had any success online after craping out in the field? I've heard it happening before - I had a teacher in high school that met her husband online so........

thoughts? experiences?

thanks!

I've been with my current boyfriend (and hopefully last) for 2 years now. We met on Craigslist.

Before that was another boyfriend (6 months) that I met on okcupid.com

Before him, (1 year 9 months) met on hotornot.com

 

I'm a net junky, what can I say? Worked okay for me so far, as both exes are still friends with me. Be careful and very specific if you post as to what you want, and don't settle for someone who you 'think' you could get along with! Pick people that you instantly feel a connection with from what they're typed in response to you, or in their own post. Look for commonalities, but also for things that inspire you or you admire. :)

No, but I know lots of people who met online.  Right now I work with two people who met their S/Os online, one on J-Date (now married) and one on myspace (now engaged).  Also, a girl who appears in some of the Eharmony ads works at my old law school - she met her husband there.

I'm all for it, with the right precautions.  The internet is the cutting edge place to hang out, and nowhere else do you have the possibility of meeting millions of different people in one sitting.

I met my husband online.  :-)

If by online, you count a bbs over dialup.  HAHA.  I'm old.  :)

My husband and I met over a local BBS over 13 years ago.  Most of our friends, we know from the same BBS.

I met my boyfriend online and we're going on three years.  Sure, you hear a lot of horror stories but I think I really lucked out since he contacted me first and he is one of the best people I've ever met.  I'm Asian and shy and prefer Caucasian men myself.  The online thing helped me get out there in the field to meet who I wanted to meet.

I met my husband online. I prefer young Australian men so that's what I got!

For those who worry about the stigma, we'll YOU'RE online, aren't you? I'll never understand that whole thing over meeting people online. it's like people think they are the only normal human beings to use a computer.

Also, 20 years ago it was considered gross to meet guys at bars. Never hear that one anymore

Original Post by nasuoni:

I've been with my current boyfriend (and hopefully last) for 2 years now. We met on Craigslist.

Before that was another boyfriend (6 months) that I met on okcupid.com

Before him, (1 year 9 months) met on hotornot.com

 

 

 you give me hope, girl!!!!

Original Post by spirochete:

I met my husband online. I prefer young Australian men so that's what I got!

For those who worry about the stigma, we'll YOU'RE online, aren't you? I'll never understand that whole thing over meeting people online. it's like people think they are the only normal human beings to use a computer.

Also, 20 years ago it was considered gross to meet guys at bars. Never hear that one anymore

 True, true. LOL

Australian men...that's funny you mentioned that because a while back I had a HUGE thing for Australian men. I'd take one now if I could

I met my husband in a Yahoo chat room called Graveyard:2, but I wasn't hunting for a relationship.  It just turned out he lived near me and liked Taco Bell as much as I do.

I met my Hubby 4 years ago on E-Harmony.  I loved this experience, because I am shy as well and I was able to get to know men before I met them.  Very cool!  It also helped me switch things up a bit.   Btw, My DH was my second try.  :)

I should also add, that my friend met her hubby on yahoo personals, other friend on match.com, and my friend on J-date.  :)

wow guys, thanks for all of the sites, and stories. A while back I used to use yahoo chatrooms, but everyone I liked lived wayyy too far away from, sadly.

Yeah, with the Yahoo chat rooms I was shocked to find someone that lived relatively close to me.  It was still a half hour drive for him to come up and see me, but when he would go to school, he went to a community college less than ten minutes away from where I lived so he'd stop by and visit.  After a few of those visits he decided I was worth the trip when he didn't have classes.

So keep up the hope.  Dating websites are a very common thing these days and have no more risk than normal dating.

P.S.  My great uncle got engaged in May.  He met his gal on a dating website. ;)

Honestly, it's the perfect way to meet someone. You weed out the really stupid people very easily as they don't take the time to type well or correct their grammar.

You can also find people with similar interests easily, and it's cheaper than going on countless first dates.

I answered an old-fashioned personal ad in a printed local paper - it was early 90s before the Internet was even going yet, what can I say, I'm old too.  That was early '93, I'm still married to him/crazy about him. 

I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a couple months and we met on lavalife. We're living together and discussing marriage.

Not to sound like a party pooper, but I have to chime in.  I had some good experiences, and some bad.  Out of about 15 guys that I met, about 10 of them lied about their, height, weight, age, or other physical attributes.  please be very careful.  And also, many men told me they were only interested in sizes (0-8).  They were not shy about this fact and not too polite either.  I scrapped it and called it a day, but that doesn't mean you have to. 

I've had some good luck with match.com. In fact I'm engaged right now.

You can meet men safely -- just meet somewhere for lunch and don't give out your last name, address or even your phone until you are sure you want to see them again. On a dating site like that you have a whole big pool of men who are looking to date too. Some hints-- ignore the ones with numerous typos and weird writing styles. If they don't care enough to write a nice description about themselves then you can be sure they don't care about the whole dating process itself. Be picky about your preferences-- for me, education and political viewpoints were very important, moreso than what a man looked like. Don't get in the trap of exchanging emails for a long time before meeting-- you simply can't know if you have real life chemistry for someone over the internet. I've been fooled that way before and hope to save others that error when I can. Finally, post an average picture of yourself. You are far more likely to have the right kind of guy get in touch with you rather than one of those guys just out for the game. Best luck to you!

I met my husband online. Not on any dating website, just sort of fate I suppose. We've known each other... 5 years come next month. We did long-distance dating (he was in CT, I in TX) for a year before he moved in with me. We got married 8 months later. Our first wedding anniversary is in October :)

I think it's sketchy.