Minor Losers Club?

Hey everyone,

While some talk of wanting to lose "that last 15", this is the first time ever that I've wanted to lose that MUCH.  Losing 15 pounds seems tough but shouldn't it be easy if others are slogging through 40...100+ pound losses?  I'm such a wuss. :)

I'm slim-ish but over the years have gradually gained small bits of weight.  I started off wanting to lose 5, then 7, then 10, then 12...now that number is about 15-17.  I like healthy food and exercise but I always get thrown off track of my good habits.  My husband's habits are not very good.  To look at me you wouldn't think I need to lose weight but I know better: none of my jeans fit and I'm wearing leggings every day now!.  I also saw my first bit of stomach cellulite the other day, and I have always had a tiny waist.  So this sucks, and I have resumed my good habits...

The challenge for me is sticking with them!  Maybe you have to gain a ton of weight to really say 'that's enough!' and make lasting changes?  I don't want it to get to that. 

I am 5'4" and remember really liking my body and being able to wear anything at 120 pounds.  The last time I was 120 pounds was at age 28.  I'm 34 now, and 137.4 pounds.  I just got married - actually, in my profile pic from my wedding day I am 137ish pounds.  Is the gradual gain inevitable?  Do I need to buy bigger jeans and deal with it?

I don't think so, because my BMI is now high-end of healthy.  I have set a goal of April 1 to get to 120 pounds.  I would be happy with up to 123 though.  Is that date too far away?  Too much leeway to take my time with it?  Can I do it sooner?

Help & share stories!!

It doesn't matter if it's 5, 15 or 100 pounds. If you don't feel good about yourself you need to take the weight off.  In top shape, I was a size 10 and gradually crept up to a 12 and was okay with that. But now all my clothes are tight and I'm horrified that I let myself get to this point. I can feel my tummy fold over my waistband and that was always the slimmest part of me! Everybody says "you look good , don't worry." Well, just because I'm not morbidly obese doesn't mean that I don't need to get my ass in gear. I've never gone on sites like this before but I think it will be good for motivation. Hang in there, Bluewonder. Your goals sound realistic. I, too, just need to get back into good habits...and lay off the cocktails! It seems there's always some occasion to celebrate and it's easy to get into the mindset of "I'll start tomorrrow." That's my big problem.  I look forward to reading people's stories and learning some new strategies.

I completely understand. And just to boost your confidence, I have always read that those last 10 pounds are the hardest! So outta all the people who have been amazing and lost 100 lbs, they too dealt hardest with what we have!

I have lost about 10 lbs and have 8 more to go. Its SO HARD!! Its like, how much less can I eat and how much more can I exercise, haha.

I'm just so tired of being small, but not small enough. All of the girls that I go to the lake with are smaller than me...it sucks. I'm tired of being the big one, when I'm not big at all.....makes me so mad....

Maybe we could use this forum thread to encourage each other through those last 10-15 lbs! Good luck!!

Hi all!

I think I'm in the same boat.  I'd love to lose about 10 lbs, and hearing "you don't need to lose weight.  You look just fine" isn't nearly as encouraging as people think it is!  It's nice that our friends and family love us just as we are, however just as fluffystuffy said "if you don't feel good about yourself you need to take the weight off."  It's not about what other people say, it's about us!

On the flip side, I do think there gets to a be a point where it's beyond the need to lose weight, and it's more of a confidence issue.  It's important, to be aware of your thoughts - are they in the pursuit of good health, or are they strictly in the interest of vanity? 

I've said it a few times in other posts, but it's just as important to feel good about yourself on the inside as it is to approve of yourself on the outside.  If you're lacking in the former, no amount of weight is going to make you feel good! 

However, I'm not looking to rain on the parade of the "Minor Losers Club".  I need a l'il support to ;)

Yeah, I want in on this :)  You're right that it's hard to commit when everyone is saying "eh, you're fine."  But the goal is to be happy with yourself, right?  So at some point, you have to drawn the line for yourself.

I'll actually have to be the BIG loser here - I'm aiming for 20 pounds.  Okay, but here's the sad part: I gained those 20 pounds in about 2 months!!!  UGH!  I'm obviously on a self destructive path right now and I need help getting back into the right frame of mind where food is not the enemy.

My goal is to be back being happy and in my normal, skinny clothes by Valentines Day!

Original Post by pumpkin314:

Yeah, I want in on this :)  You're right that it's hard to commit when everyone is saying "eh, you're fine."  But the goal is to be happy with yourself, right?  So at some point, you have to drawn the line for yourself.

I'll actually have to be the BIG loser here - I'm aiming for 20 pounds.  Okay, but here's the sad part: I gained those 20 pounds in about 2 months!!!  UGH!  I'm obviously on a self destructive path right now and I need help getting back into the right frame of mind where food is not the enemy.

My goal is to be back being happy and in my normal, skinny clothes by Valentines Day!

 We're here for ya!

We're having a Biggest Loser competition at work starting next Monday, and I'm participating mainly to be supportive, but also because I'm one of the coordinators.  That means I'll have to step on a scale for the first time in almost a year, and I'm already having anxiety about it!

I'll be gone for the first few days of the competition, so I'm hoping that'll delay my weigh-in for another week.  However, I'm going to need to have my hand held through this.  Scales scare me!

I feel/felt the same way as the rest of you.  I've just lost 14 pounds & have reached my goal weight & feel much better physically & mentally.  Just as everyone else has said its not much help to have everyone say your fine, you don't need to lose any weight, etc.  My BF & I started calorie counting 3 months ago, he is a lot heavier than I am & he gets encouragement but I didn't get any....but I know that I feel better at a lighter weight so have stuck with it & plan to continue with healthier eating habits.  A smaller weight loss goal club is definitely needed to spread encouragement & support to those of us that don't have as much weight to lose!

Wow, so glad somebody else is in this position. I have never been big but over the last few years the weight started creeping on haha. Too many  takeaways and a few too many glasses of wine!

I've only got 16lbs left to go (have lost 10lbs but it has took me nearly four months). I think the nearer to  your goal weight, the harder it seems to be and if I slip up, i don't put any on but don't lose any either!

Good luck to everyone, if anyone has some tips please let me know

This is SO me.  I am coming up on my 30th in early January, and sometime in my late 20s the lbs just started to appear.  I am 6' tall, and have always been slim (in fact, I was truly skinny in high school).  But suddenly clothes that have ALWAYS fit are tight, and I can't stand the thought of actually buying bigger clothes.

I'm sure that most people would think that I'm crazy for wanting to lose weight, but I'm at about 160lbs now, and was about 140lbs at 25.  And I NEVER watched what I ate!  I guess I have to start. :(  

So I'm aiming for 145lbs. for my birthday.  Hopefully I can make it happen!

Wow, superdude! Just shows how everyone has their own "ideal" weight and look. I am a 5' 5" 47 yo woman and would be ecstatic to get back down to 135 pounds (am 150 now). I am very muscular though. You must be a very lanky fellow( I assume you're a guy with the monniker "dude" ?).  I want to be encouraging but I wouldn't want to promote anything unhealthy.  Being a nurse, I say check with your doctor or nutritionist to set attainable, healthy goals. With that being said, good luck with slimming down. Tight clothes are so depressing. Your goal of 15 pounds in about 8 weeks sounds doable but tough. MY advice would be to take your time. So many ladies in my neighborhood have done the Slimfast, Jenny Craig quick losses. They all looked wonderful...for awhile. Every one of them gained their weight back by the next year.

I love food and adore my cocktails. I'm willing to cut back but not cut out certain things. Soooo, I know I have to exercise more. I've discovered PX90 videos. They mix up a lot of different disciplines and are not boring like my elliptical machine. If anyone's in an exercise rut, check it out!

Hey guys!  Thanks for responding!  I can't reply to everyone individually but I'm really glad we're all chatting about this.  You rarely see stories like ours in fitness magazines.  The stories are always about major losses.

Well, I'm doing the November Weight Loss Challenge on here, and the first weigh-in is tomorrow.  Let's see if I'm any lower than 137.4  I managed several times that I can think of to resist foods I normally would have eaten, and I hit the gym 3 times plus took a hike on another day.  As ccforme said, sometimes I think "just HOW much do I have to exercise and just HOW little do I have to eat?"  It really is so hard.  I just want to slip on my size 4 jeans easily like I used to, and not have any flab hangin over the top, and not have those thigh bulges when I squat (do you know what I mean)?  I am fantasizing about that!!!  Yet I am still in the mode of not believing I'm going to achieve it because I haven't - yet.

A friend of mine was saying how the reason people don't change is because it's very easy to get used to standards you wouldn't have accepted before.  Unless you really hit rock bottom it's very very hard to change.  So keeping that in mind,  you have to really focus on how amazing it's going to be to reach your goal (being motivated by the carrot rather than the stick, or so they say).  I hope I'm still here in a few months, talking about my success!

Hey everybody --

So, how's it going?  Like I said before, I'm kind of at a point where I had totally lost my mind and couldn't stop eating everything in sight for about 2, 2.5 months.  Since coming back to CC it's been better, but I will admit that I ALREADY had a night out where I drank WAY too much beer and finished off the night with a heapin' helping of pancakes and french fries (who even eats those together??!).  Ugh.  Not exactly what I would call a good choice!

But I didn't let it throw me off, so I guess there's the silver lining. 

I know it will be a while before I feel any lighter/slimmer or notice that my clothes are fitting better again, but already I'm starting to feel better about my body.  My body and I have not been friends lately, so it's nice to change that attitude a little.

Oh, and here's my new motivation: I only have one nice suit - and it fit me when I was at my slimmest...and I think I'm going to have a job interview here soon, hopefully in the next 3 weeks.  Will it be enough time to slim back down to sqeeze my booty into those pants?  I guess I'll have to try my best and just find out!!

I would like to be in this group!  I usually feel awkward in other forums because I don't want to be the annoying person who has never been that overweight, so I end up lurking more than anything else. 

I have about 7-10 lbs to lose.  I'm short, so weight loss is really painstakingly slow for me, not to mention the fact that I keep re-committing instead of just sticking to it.  Like some other people have mentioned on here, I need to cool it on the cocktails/wine.  I feel like I've been crying wolf though, since I keep making the same goals over and over again and breaking them.  (And no, I'm definitely not making overly restrictive goals).

I have a question.  How much are you all concentrating on hydration?  I have a really hard time making myself drink enough water.  Does anybody else deal with this?

5togo: yeah, can totally relate...water is BO-RINGGG...I bought a bottle of lemon juice to put in my water and since then I drink much more.

pumpkin314 (and everyone else)...sounds like we need a way to be accountable.  since we're a smaller group, why don't we do weigh-ins?  Obviously this won't work if you're of the 'burn the scale' mentality, but if you want to have some kind of numerical gauge, numbers help.

My weight on Monday was 137.0 (down a whopping 0.4! oooooooh ;))

We can stick with Mondays...that will give us until next Monday to report a starting weight.  I think it would be handy to have a template to edit, like in the challenges.  I.e. here is mine:

Starting weight: 137.4 (Nov 1)

Goal weight: 120

Nov 9: 137.0

Nov 16: ?

etc etc.

Who's in?

(By the way, every time I hit 'enter', it leaves a space before the next line.  That is so annoying...anyone know how to fix it?)

Blue

Ok, I'll go ahead and enter the starting numbers:

Starting weight: 118.8 (sometime last week)

Goal weight: 110

Nov 10: 117.5

My weight fluctuates a lot, so having the specific time slot on Mondays only will help, since I'm pretty sure any change I've had doesn't reflect any real weight loss.

Thanks for the water tip! 

5togo, About the water: yes.  I used to love just plain water but now I hate it.  I moved to the country and our well water was gross and I guess I lost my taste for it.  I have the terrible habit of drinking only flavored drinks like diet soda, crystal light, tea and decaf coffee.  I know I need to kick that, but right now it just seems like the least of my worries.

Also, Blue, to not have the line break, try hitting shift at the same time as you hit enter to go to a new line.

And I think it's a good idea to weigh in.  I weigh myself already, but maybe making it public would be a good incentive for me.  So here it is:

Starting weight: 139.6
Goal: 120 (or when my clothes all fit again!)
Nov. 11: 134

Gotta admit, tomorrow's weight is gonna be a doozy, though.  Today was my mom's b-day and I spend all day with her, eating out for lunch and then we cooked a huge family meal together.  It was fun and delicious, but way too much for my will power.  Good thing tomorrow's a new day, huh?

Hey all!

I've been MIA for a few days.  I went to Ohio to see my brother and sister-in-law, and their sweet new baby girl!  So, of course being on vacation, I was worried about stepping on the scale when I got back.  I'm 5'9", and I haven't been on a scale in almost a year because I had such anxiety when the number wouldn't budge!

But I think I've grown a little bit, and with the help of an absolutely wonderful husband who loves me the way I am, I've realized that perhaps my body is at a place where it's comfortable.  I've since re-assessed my goals, and set them to always take care of myself!

We're doing the Biggest Loser at my work, and I'm a co-coordinator.  So, I had to weigh in, just like everyone else, and now I have major motivation to work out and be more careful about what I eat!  And it gives me an opportunity to research different ways of taking care of your body, what to eat, etc.  because I'm going to send out a weekly health tip to the group who is participating! 

Anyway...

CW: 150.2

GW: 144.2

I'll update when I weigh in on Monday.  Since I didn't start until after I got back, 4 days isn't going to show much of a difference!  But it's time to get my booty in gear :)

How is everyone else doing so far?

Ok, I'm here to do the Monday check-in thing.  I had a really bad weekend eating wise until yesterday morning, when I got back on track and had a really great work out, didn't overeat for the first time in a while, etc.  Weekends really start Thursday night for me since I'm in grad school.  Thought I should mention that since a bad weekend for me is a little longer than most.  Anyway...today's weight is 116.4, which is way better than I expected.  :)  Think I'm a little dehydrated, but I'll take it!  How is everyone else doing?

Hey all!

I weighed in again today, and I was actually up a pound.  I figure that might be the whole "weight fluctuation" thing, and it could be more or less tomorrow.  I know I didn't over eat this weekend because I've been sick for a while now, but we'll see how it goes!  I may weigh again tomorrow just to check, but after that I'll weigh again next Monday!

I've been telling myself for a while that I'd get back to the gym, but I'm one of those people that lets everything get in the way!  And I've had a cold for over a week with little motivation to do much more than get off the couch to come to work!

Words of encouragement would be great, and I hope everyone had a great weekend!

BTW... 5togo - I love the picture of your kitties!  They look so sweet! :)

Hi!

I'm so glad to see people are sticking around and posting...I really think we can make progress with this checking-in stuff!

Here's my weigh-in:

Starting weight: 137.4 (Nov 1)
Goal weight: 120
Nov 9: 137.0
Nov 16: 136.2

Woohoo, I'm down almost a pound!  (haha).  Pumpkin314, THANKYOU for helping me figure out the spacing thing - it worked.  Also, I just realized we have a very similar start weight & end goal.  You're doing well!  How tall are ya?

Great to see everyone else here....I had a revelation yesterday that when I eat less and work out I actually DO feel better and have way more energy.  It's just so hard to remember that, and I have a bit of an emotional eating habit - I tend to eat more when I'm anxious about things I need to be doing that scare me.  Next time that happens I need to remember all this.