miserable :((

so i don't know where to post this, but i chose health and support because im looking for some support right now.

i broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago, because i was feeling kind of smothered and needed a break from being in a serious relationship. well now we've been talking about getting back together, and he says that he loves me and he'll wait for me and that he is not attracted to any other girl.

i have not doubted him at all, he was the perfect devoted, loving boyfriend in the year and a half we were together. He even gave me his email passwords to prove to me that he wasn't hiding anything and that I could trust him.

well, i was curious, and apparently he never changed those passwords after we broke up. he must've forgotten he even told me. i figured that if i was considering getting back together with him, i should see if he really was true to his word about being completely loyal to me. i know this wasn't a moral thing for me to do... but i am a terribly curious person..

and i found out that he had been chatting and flirting with girls online ALL THE WHILE he'd been telling me that he loved me and wanted to get back together. And what's worse, is that from the times on the emails/chats, there were some nights that he was chatting with me AT THE SAME TIME as he was with these 3 other girls.

i know we're not technically dating right now, but i feel that if he was serious about getting back together, about telling me that i am "the one", he should walk the walk. i am just feeling so decieved, and i was really seriously considering dating him again, now that i've sorted out some other personal problems i was having.

and now i feel like i never even knew him at all..

:((

Personally I don't think you are that far off-base.  I agree - while he might have been flirty with other girls in the same TIME PERIOD, actually literally hitting on three other women at the same time he was trying to smooth things over with you doesn't really seem like something a committed guy would do.

Then again, I also don't really believe in "harmless" flirtation either.  Lucky for me, neither does my hubby so we do well together.

Yes, you were broken up which means he could flirt with as many girls as he wanted but IMO if he was trying to get back together with you and is a man with any kind of integrity, he wouldn't have been trying to get with other women at the same time.

We are assuming this post is about men and women and not teenage boys and girls.

How old are the players here?

Move on. He'll cheat on you.