Missing Son, Prayers Please**-- BODY FOUND--**

EDIT: Chirs' body was found 19 months after he went missing. It is evident that he had gone for a drive that night and went off the road in the canyon.

A virtual-memorial page was set up for Chris http://christopher-coan.virtual-memorials.com /

EDIT: Chris went missing September 3rd 2007, here is a link to his web site, please let everyone you know know about this. Thank you.

www.FindChris.org

I'm crying as I'm typing, so please overlook all typos...I'm really not all here.

Our son, who turned 18 last month, has been missing now for 76 hours. He went to work Monday, left work and no one has heard from him nor seen him since. He wasn't having any problems with us, Sunday we all were together and had a great time. He wasn't having any problems with his girlfriend. He did have a bad day at work and we are guessing he went off on a drive to cool down, but we really don't know. He didn't say anything to anybody about where he was going. He was in a hurry to get to work that day and left his wallet home. So he has no money on him nor any access to money. We were able to get into his bank account today and there hasn't been any unusual activity in the last month. We have called everyone he knows and no one knows anything. His girlfriend has called everyone she can think of too.

This is so out of character for him. He has never done anything like this before.

The police are involved and doing all they can. Two different aerial searches were done today and tomorrow there is a ground search going on with volunteers and the police department. He has been listed as a missing person in all 50 states along with a description of his blazer. The police department made up fliers for us to put around town. The top of it says "Missing Person, Suspicious Circumstances".

This is so unreal. This is something that happens on TV, not in real life. The roller coaster of emotions is beyond imagination. The possibilities of what has happened to him and where he might be are endless. To the East of us is a canyon, to the West is desert hills. He could be anywhere. Not knowing anything is the worst.

My husband and our other children are hitting their limits too. Our home is crazy is an understatement. We have had lots of friends and family offer love and support. Meals have been brought in for three days. Our phones are ringing off the hook with well wishers and everyone wondering what they can do.

I'm sorry for going on and on, I just want to cover all the bases, but I'm sure I've missed some things.

Prayers are definitely welcome.

Mostly I'm still in shock. I'm not sure I'll be back on the site for a while. I will post as soon as we know anything.

Please everyone take care, and go hug your kids...

EDIT: Here is a link to the news paper artical.

http://www.thespectrum.com/apps/pbcs.dll/arti cle?AID=/20070907/NEWS01/709070304

I tried uploading the flier but it didn't happen, I'm not sure why.

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. It does help to know that people care.

EDIT: I took a picture of the flier and added it to my pictures

EDIT: Here is a link to the web site  http://www.findchris.org/

Still thinking of you everyday!

Shannon,

Thanks so much for keeping us updated!

Our prayers are with Chris, you and your family!

Still thinking of you!

Even though I was gone for a while I never forgot your story. Never give up and just keep praying for that happy ending.

Still nothing...

We are still here, on square one, we still don't know anything. This weekend it will be the eighth month mark of when Chris went missing. Eight months...this is crazy.

One of the hardest things is that specific events are coming up that we use to do as a family, and now we are going to either not do them or have to do them without Chris. It was weird getting through Christmas and other holidays. The weirdness just continues. I want to continue some traditions so that our lives remain as normal as possible. Dave wants to not do them. I don't blame him. It's hard to act like everything is fine when it really isn't. It is hard to be in places where we have memories of being with Chris.

So that is all for now. Thanks again for giving me somewhere to update and to find strength.

~Shannon

(((hug)))

Shannon, I hope what ever you do in regards to your family traditions, you do together.  At least you have each other to rely on.  You have my continued thoughts and prayers for resolution.

My thoughts and prayers are continually with you and your family. Peace.

Praying for good news.

Praying for youa nd your family continues here in Alaska. thank you for the update that I can share with everyone.

I normaly don't do this ... But I wonder if I could give you a suggestion. When my son passed away it was realy hard for us to get back to the "new normal" I found that it was easier when we did thema s if he was there but not. I am nost sure this will make since... But we never think about the day he died. We visit him on the day he was given birth. I (in my head) think about the things that I think he would like to do on a sunny day. and than I tell everyone. Hey we are going to go on a bike ride with Jacey. We head out and we go. and we do it for him.

I know your situation is so different.But you might find that doing the things you were doing before to bring you comfort. for not only you but for the whole family. we all grieve in such a different way. Maybe you can leave it open for those that want to and those that don't .

I will pray that God will help you make the right decision for your family and that you will continue to have the strength to cary on in this hard time. God Bless

JenBug

I am with Jen.  On May 22nd would be the 21st birthday of my first pregnancy. I will always remember that and I do mourn on that day.  But then I celebrate the child I do have and work through those memories. I know this too is different because I don't have any memories of the unborn, but I do of the pregnancy and it is still difficult to go through that day without grieving.

Please don't accept this as thinking Chris is gone. I am sure he is just being evasive about his whereabouts.  In time may he find his way home.  I wish you the best of luck and love for strength and togetherness for the family as a unit.

Take care Shannon and God Bless you and your family and may the Lord still be watching over and protecting Chris.

 

Was out of town for a bit but had to pop back in for an update. I'm still thinking the happiest of thoughts for you and your family. Big hugs to you all from Arizona.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.c fm?l=eng&gi=CC

I just cannot stop thinking about you today Shannon. I hope you are ok.

Hi Shannon,

I agree with the ladies above.  We lost a son to brain cancer unexpectedly, in 03.  We celebrate his birthday by going to his favorite place to eat, and on the anniversary of the day he died, we celebrate his life by going to a new place to eat, and share the great memories, and some sad ones too [impossible to be a parent without having somethings you wished you had or hadn't said, or done!].

So for two days a year he is celebrated, and then at Christmas, 4th July, and weddings/parties ect., we always toast him.

We have just found it comforting to have him still in our lives, and not to tip toe around it....it also have helped us to grieve & celebrate in an open way with our other son, who was only 17 when his big brother died.

Obviously, your situation is much different and harder.  But you need to do whatever it takes to help your other kids handle the situation, and to keep your family strong.  Only you & your husband can decide what that is.

I am so sorry that you and your family are going thru this.  My heart and prayers go out to you every day.

Hugs

I am sorry for your loss alysonm.

As always my thoughts and hopes remain with you Shannon.

I love you guys. Thanks for your continued support. I am so sorry for the trials you have had to go through. I honestly wouldn't trade you places. I can't imagine that pain. My pain is different, and it is difficult in a different way.

We made it through the weekend. Dave met a couple that know someone they think he should contact. This person can touch you and tell you things about yourself. Dave isn't sure how he feels about it. It's hard sometimes to know which side the power is coming from. I told him to ask more questions and then pray about it. Who knows if it would help. I'm not sure if by touching Dave this guy could tell us anything about Chris. And if he did tell us anything I'm not so sure we would know how much to believe him. It's funny little things like this that still get us weirded out.

I had another dream. In this one Dave and I were coming home from somewhere and I called home to make sure everyone was ok. Chris answered the phone and I was talking to him like everything was normal. Then it hit me that I was talking to him, that he was home. Dave ran in the house and was hugging him so tight that he couldn't talk to me anymore. We were so excited to have him home we didn't ask any questions, we just hugged him and cried.

Dave hates dreams like that. He feels they are mean, because you wake up and have to realize that all the excitement was for nothing. I like them. I think they are a glimps of how it is going to be someday. Someday we are going to get to hug him again. It is going to be a great day!

Thanks again for being here for me. I appreciate you and your stories. Thanks!!

~Shannon

Hi Shanon, I am so grateful that you continue to keep us updated.  I know you must be so busy with everyday life on top of all of this.  I think it is interesting that you brought up your dream; for some, they are like a knife in an already open wound.  I look at dreams as a way for us to cope with our feelings, insecurities, fears and wants in a way that allows us to process things we don't always have time to process in our daily lives.  Let your dreams lift you up, and take from it what you need-hope.  You deserve at least that.

Continued prayers for you and your family-always.

Thank you so much for taking the time to update us! We are all still rooting for you!

Prayers for you and your entire family.  This must be one of the hardest things to have to go through.  I hope that your family is complete soon.