my mom secretly wants me to be fat!

OK, the title is a little overdramatic. =)
But serrriously.  Ever since I strted college, my mom loves to send me packages FULL of CANDY.  SOOOO much caaaaaaandy.  I eat healthy all the time, just allowing myself one little treat a day.  Then the package comes and I think, OK, Mom wants me to eat this, so i better get started!

for example, she sent me a halloween package and i ate an entire LARGE bag of peanut butter M&Ms in one sitting.  i think the bag contained at least 8 "servings."  basically, I ate about 1400 calories at 4pm when i opened the package. 

 anyone else have similar experience?  what do you do to deal with it? i know it seems silly, but i just can't help myself when it comes from mom! Anyone elses mom making them fat????

PS i have eaten 2,100 calories today, about 1,800 of which came from candy.  WTF!?!??!  hahaha

 ... have you tried talking to your mum? Tell her you appreciate her kindness, but if she sends you food, ask for healthier products - or smaller portions of candy? A high quality dark chocolate you ought to take time over instead of jumbo bags of M+M's. Seriously, though, try talking with her.

Yes! Ah my mom totally does that! She buys me cookies and cake and hot chocolate all the time! I totally get it. I just told my mom to stop, but she still does it. Maybe you should just find someone to share it with. That's what I usually do.

Since you're at college, find a boy in your dorm and give it to them.  College guys are like human vacuum cleaners when it comes to junk food, lol.

Heh, I have the same problem. Except I live at home, so whenever I get on her for filling the place with pastries and candies, she says "Well, it's for me", even though I KNOW she doesn't like Haribo gummy bears. Even more so, chocolate covered gummy bears, which are my favorite and end up sitting there, tempting me xD

Just tell her. My mom, my freshman year of college, would send me things all the time--and yes, that would include candy baskets at Halloween, Valentine's Day, my birthday, finals time, etc! I simply told her that I really loved her sending me things/thinking of me, and that I loved getting cards in the mail from her (so she knew that it wasn't HER, it was just the CANDY), but I was trying to watch my weight and I didn't really want candy. She completely understood.

Of course, now that I'm a junior she's over that 'my baby's away at collegeeeee!!!!' thing and doesn't send me anything. ;-)

DEFINITELY talk to your mom! Speaking as "the mom", when my kids, nieces, and a couple of their close friends were away at college I used to send each of them a care package every month. I tried not to send too much candy... I would send "seasonal socks", hair clips, movie gift cards, "A" candy bar--whatever was their favorite--not a big bag. Valentines, I would send the little box of "hearts". Sometimes a mug with different types of tea or hot cocoa. Maybe a new magazine. We just want to show how much we love and miss you -- not make you fat!

Good for you.... I have been out of my parents house since I was 18.... I'm 25 now and I am just realizing that my Mom was trying to keep me fat... meaning I learned some bad habits which now that I am aware of I can finally start taking control of.  So Yes  I am all for you taking control!  Do what you need to do and don't let anyone (even your mom) be responsible for your body!

I discuss healthy foods with my mum, like explaining to her what I cook and snack on and show an interest in what's going into my body. While educating yourself, why not share it with your mum? I think she'd really enjoy learning new things with you and getting involved with you growing up and doing things for yourself.

My mum is constantly giving me flour to bake my own biscuits, or giving me wheat free substitute products so that my meals don't become boring. Going to the health food store is like being in a candy store for me and my mum, so she treats me to things I can't afford.

I feel you. I live at home and my mom bought me ice cream the very same week I asked her not to because I wanted to be really serious with my eating habits. And she used to do it before, too. That one ice cream, I must have been hormonal or something but I yelled at her and she has stopped buying me things now, lol. And then a couple of weeks later she was using regular mayo, ketchup and mustard on some coleslaw! While she knooows that I only use home-made mayo!! I didn't get it, sure hers might taste a heck of a lot better but I'm trying to lose weight. I'll go back to normal in moderation once I do! O.o

I feel sad. My mum never sent me stuff like this. =( And I wish she did...

She did for my sister...

So I'd say, try not to be to harsh about it. I think she just wants to make you feel loved. You could try talking to her about it, though. I know at my sister's school they had "healthy packages" you could send your kids.

God Bless the Moms of the world!!!! They are sweeter than any candy!

Everyone Go and give your Mom a hug! (If u don't have one, then find the Geographically closest Mom to your location...providing she wont cringe or call the police if you try and hug her)

But yeah, but even if you tell your mom, they will still do it cause they 'know better'. My Mom still never lets me pour my own plate when i come over for dinner.

My Mom is REALLY BAD in that she knows how hard I have been working to get my weight down and my body in shape and she STILL invites me to go out to fatty restaurants all the time and whenever we hang out, she always wants to go get lunch. It drives me nuts. She is over weight and puts the worst crap into her body and not only does it kill me to know what my mom is doing to herself, but it kills me that she is single handedly sabotaging all my efforts. I love my mom to death but I have had to distance myself from her over the last couple months because there is no way I can find any thing healthy to eat at Pizza Hut… trust me… I tried… I even try to eat something healthy right as she is coming to pick me up (sometimes even eating it in the car so she can SEE I have already eaten lunch) but she still insists we go get lunch. What am I supposed to do?

I am an empty nester, with a 22 year old who moved out of state 2 years ago and a 25 year old.

Moms need to feel like they are still your caregiver and misses you so they are doing what they can in a way they feel would be comforting to you away from home. You donot need  - it mom does. So tell her you love the care packages but list items like popcorn, fruits etc and tell her by switching the items she is helping you - that you are worried about your nutrition, with college food being what it is. She will be so excited you need her.

It is not easy to have your kids around all the time and worries of having a teens --- and it is a hard habit to break -- Being a 24 - 7 Mom.

Empty Nesting has it bright sides - once the benifits kick in -a year from now you will be saying - hey mom what happened to the care packages

thanx for the replies everyone!  i know my mom sends it to me b/c she loves me, but then i think i overeat it because i am homesick.  talk about emotional eating!  i talked to my mom and she said she will send my fave granola bars next time instead.