"More to Love" reality show

I think this program is really tacky. Would anyone think this was acceptable if they had made the show about handicapped women, or women of any one particular ethnic background?

"Can these women really find love?" "Oh poor me, I'm so fat that I never think I can find love."

Isn't this a kind of "look at the freaks" show? Well, no one ever accused TV of having high standards.

Poor taste!

Nobody ever went broke by underestimating the taste of the American public.

They will spin it as an "inspirational" show about finding the "inner beauty" of people, as if the producers gave a flying frak about inner beauty and only saw $$ as a side benefit.

It's Geraldo/Maury Povich/Montel Williams in a different outfit.

I guess I don't mind it, however,  WHY_WHY_WHY do they have to post their height and weights???????  When you watch the other shows for finding love the skinny one's don't post their weight!  Obviously we know that they are full figured women.  And yeah, the poor me I'll never find a man being overweight.  Well people there are many overweight men/women who find true love--get over it!!

I finally watched it and it just seemed soooo stupid. All the women were like, "No one likes me cause I'm fat. I don't go on dates cause I'm fat. I'm fat. Fat, fat, fat, fat, fat." You might not be the most popular at the prom, but you don't have to let it cripple you like that. They were all so desperate. They kept saying this was their last chance and that they couldn't go back to being alone. Like being fat meant that they were unlovable. Ugh, it was annoying. >.<

And, I'm sorry, but there is a different between full figured and obese. Some of the girls are indeed full figured, but quite a few look obese, not to mention the guy they think is so cute with his 300+ bulk.

Seems like they're saying that being overweight is like an illness that can't be changed. Like a bum leg or something. I just don't agree with the show, but it's like all reality dating shows, so what can you do?

I agree with the "Obese"  I just thought "full figured" sounded better!!!!

Original Post by lyssalou76:

I agree with the "Obese"  I just thought "full figured" sounded better!!!!

Oh, I wasn't snapping at you. <3

It was the show. They like to call them "real" and "full figured." And it's like, "...they're fat. They're not any more real than anyone else, they're obese." Like skinny people don't exist in the real world. If they want them real, make them a size eight/twelve. :)

Then again, women can be a lot of different sizes and still be "real."

They were pretty pathetic, weren't they? Oh well, TV has to play into the expectations of its audience. What are the chances that these are all actresses?

There wasn't one of them about whom I thought "Oh my gosh! What an unattractive woman!"

And their portly man-target! He wasn't unattractive either, but I suppose the TV bosses thought it would be too unbelievable if they had a head-turning stud for the male part.

The more I think about it, the more I feel like it's all a scripted play. Pathetic, and really rude.

i just saw it for the first time tonight. 

OH MY GOD. i am so irritated by this show. it was just one big sob fest. like i understand feeling inferior because people have treated them differently because of their appearances - fine. but they all are head over heels on day 1 (for a guy who, not for nothing, seems like a bit of a creeper) simply because he's giving them the tiniest bit of attention! what a terrible stereotype to promote - the desperate clingy fat girl - how sad. and putting them in bathing suits & feeding them cake? c'mon now. i think these chicks need to get their acts together. maybe they should consider that the reason "no one has ever loved them" isn't because of their weight, but because of some sort of character/personality flaw that is an internal issue (perhaps the real reason they've been & stayed fat). i think it does all of us (as people actively seeking to better ourselves) a disservice. oy, thanks for listening to my rant!

The first thing I thought when I saw it was why does he have to be an over weight man.  There is a " social gathering" where I live called BBW (big beautiful women) every weekend at a hotel bar. I think the show would be better if there was a hot guy.  

I might be the only one here, but I like the show. The women are full figured and BEAUTIFUL I might add. It's not a step away from the ROCK OF LOVE, or THE REAL CHANCE I was just watching on VH1. You think they have diversity on there? Not even. It's one stereotypical type they cast. Just like with the Bachelor, just like with this new show. We just take it personal because we are in this "dieting" mindset and have low self esteems about our own size. Just sayin...

Regardless I'm going to watch it. My boyfriend commented how he thinks the show will just be like all the others and end up with the cast not finding love at all, a messed up situation. But I think these girls, and the guy are looking for love. I think they haven't been given the proper chance in the past and this might actually turn out to be a good thing.

That's just my opinion. And I know many will disagree. So be it.

So wait, in the intro they were saying how the average woman was a size 14.  Are these girls around that size?  Because I thought they looked bigger.  So why were they emphasizing the average woman when these women aren't really average either?  I have no idea what size they are--I can't tell, but a size 2 is no further from average than like... size 20 or whatever.

Original Post by huggitbear:

So wait, in the intro they were saying how the average woman was a size 14.  Are these girls around that size?  Because I thought they looked bigger.  So why were they emphasizing the average woman when these women aren't really average either?  I have no idea what size they are--I can't tell, but a size 2 is no further from average than like... size 20 or whatever.

 I pointed out the same thing to my husband last night!  At the beginning of the show, he turned to me and said (not knowing anything about women's sizes), "So these women are all around a size 14?" and I said, "Well, I don't know.  I mean, I'm a size 14 but I don't think I'm quite as big as they are."  Then he did a double take haha. 

Most of those women were definitely bigger than a size 14, but then again they were also on camera, which supposedly makes you look bigger. 

I try not to be judgemental, but I also did not like the reinforced stereotype of the clingy fat girl.  I could get on board with a show that empowers heavy women.  This show does not.

And that guy is definitely a creeper.  It's so obvious he's just trying to get some from as many women as possible.  While I'm sure that's not so different than other reality dating shows, it's still crap T.V., and if those women are really as vulnerable as they say they are... well, it'll all end in tears.

brtaylor, i totally agree.

and x17star17x, Your point is very valid - this show is just as bad as all the other crap that's on tv. It's all awful & you're right on there. The only difference, in my opinion, is that those other shows all promulgate stereotypes that, we are led to believe, are a result of free will (the rock of love girls are wrking to be less trashy & drink less excessively etc). This show portays fatness as something of a disability, something many of these girls were "cursed" with & cannot change. I know there are genetic influences & issues that make it harder for some to lose weight but the fact is, the vast majority of fat people got there on their own. (I know bc I was one of them). A show like biggest loser, I'm all for it. Teach these unhappy people how to change the situation they're in. Some may say "what if they don't want to change? they just want to find fat person love!" Well in my experience, there are very few ppl who are trulyyy ok with being severely overweight. If they can own it, more power to 'em, but the sad sobbing girls on that show didn't appear to be owning anything. They kept saying how they hated always been treated differently bc of their weight but the show is doing exactly the same thing. Sectioning off a subset of the population (fat ladies) & giving them a fat guy to swoon over because, well, no one else wants them. It just seems counter-intuitive to me.

@ Kbattiato

Some girls are happy being big girls. I mean there are entire groups of people dedicated to be big and proud. BBW embrace their size. Not all of them, because I was a size 26 and unhappy as can be. Like Queen Latifa, you can be big and healthy at the same time. Size does not equal health. Weight does not equal health. I guess I have to watch the show fully to see if they are chowing down on unhealthy food and smiling about it while their health is being deteriorated, or whether they are going to have a healthy outlook.

@ everyone else

Girls carry themselves different. Some of these girls might be a size 16... heck maybe even 14, but there are definitely some girls on there I could point out being a size 26.

i agree, if they approached the show (or if the show itself was designed with) a healthy outlook i think it'd be much more watchable (they were literally feeding each other cake last night!)  that's what i was trying to get at by bringing up biggest loser. now that's a great show!

but i know there are some people content with their bodies, and we should all strive for that. and ps. you look freaking fantastic! congrats on your success so far

I don't mind the show...

I just wish they would stop all the whining and have some fun! There are big, beautiful, and CONFIDENT women out there. I just don't like how the show is focusing on the girls who are crying every ten minutes because they have FINALLY found someone who will accept them how they are. Sure, we've all been treated poorly at some point in our lives because of our weight, but they shouldn't be focusing on that so much on the show. It's about having fun, going on incredible dates, and meeting the love of your life.

I've noticed the girls who are more confident are portrayed as bitches compared to the ones who are crying half the time because they are overweight. I just don't like the way it's coming off....

Anyways, I will probably continue to watch the show. However, I won't lie, when I was watching it last night, I spent most of the time on my elliptical. lol

Yuck!  I watched the show and was just disgusted that some of the ladies would be crying one minute about how they have never been on a date or that they will be CRUSHED if they weren't given a ring.  The next minute they are declaring their undying love for a guy they have known for two days.

Ok, I was really fat but at least I had some self respect.  Some of these ladies have some severe self esteem and body issues. 

No one is every going to love you if you don't love yourself first!  I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt because they are so young and inexperienced.  But if they were my friends I would encourage them to get counseling before trying this stupid show!

I ended up watching it again and...ugh. x_x

It wouldn't be so bad if they just weren't so damn desperate! I mean, they were being picked for dates and all of them starting freaking out saying, "I was always picked last at school! NOW IT'S HAPPENING ALL OVER AGAIN!" I was like, "oh, come on, chill out." And during the dates, they were all focused on how no one ever loved them and how being fat made them unlovable and how this guy was just THE ONE because he paid them some attention.

Why are the fat girls, I'm sorry, real girls, shown as desperate? Have they no self worth? I mean, is a relationship really that validating? They don't have any respect or love for themselves...AT ALL? I've been fat all my life and I was never this much of a cry baby.

It was just a big pity party. These girls should be carried out in the wahmbulance.

Original Post by huggitbear:

So wait, in the intro they were saying how the average woman was a size 14.  Are these girls around that size?  Because I thought they looked bigger.  So why were they emphasizing the average woman when these women aren't really average either?  I have no idea what size they are--I can't tell, but a size 2 is no further from average than like... size 20 or whatever.

I agree, I'm sorry but those girls do not look to be an average size 14... I think it's unhealthy, some of them don't look healthy at all... an average size 14 is not their size, plus they post there weight up, which is really really aweful...it seems like exploitation just like 'dance your ass off', which btw they don't look like they have lost any weight since the show began, maybe like 10lbs... stupid and exploitive... 

I think with a show named "More to Love" there would be some pretty hefty girls. I don't get the big deal if they are larger than size 14.

Positives of the show:

• The girls are all beautiful. Not a single one is ugly. So maybe they are big, but at least it shows big girls can be beautiful.
• The girls have great styles. It shows that big girls can have a sense of style even though they are buying from the big girl store. As a big woman, I'm always afraid I'll wear the same exact outfit as the other big girls at work. It's happened. Big meeting with the boss, walk in, I'm wearing the same suit as my coworker. We looked like twins. And most big girl clothes aren't designed to show off shape - I feel a lot of times I'm in a big bag.
• The girls have different shapes. Shape makes such a big difference. Women can get away with having 15 extra pounds if they are shaped right! But if it's a 15 pound beer belly, then it's far less attractive. So as I watch the show, I'm glad to see hour glasses, hippy girls, girls with big bajongas, girls that are big all over.

Negatives:

• The girls act like they could never get a date because they are big. I've been big all my life and have never lacked love. Shoot, at one of my biggest points, I was dating three guys at once (casually - they all knew, don't think I'm some kind of ho-bag). And I was a size 18/20 at that point! Three guys! And only one of them was pudgy (he was also attractive and an engineer). The other two were tall dark and handsome! It's a personality problem.  You seem desperate, it'll drive off the men faster than a hairy facial mole.
• It's all about their size. Constantly. OMG, I have to wear a swim suit. I'm so glad I can eat this steak. I've never been on a jet because I'm fat (uhhh, I know a lot of skinny girls who haven't ever been on a jet...). Put their weight on the screen. Have the guy talk about their "banging bodies" and how they are "vuluptuous". LOL.
• The guy.... just a creepster. Seemed pretty normal at first, but he's all about giving girls that creepy stare until they kiss him. Gross. I can't even think about the creepiness without getting the shivers. If any guy looked at me like that, or used his stupid lines, I'd laugh at him! But these girls are so desperate they suck his face!!! And couldn't they have found a muscle bound hottie? Come on.... they exist. I know because they were constantly chasing after me in secret through high school. I can't even tell you how many came out of the woodworks after H.S. graduation and said they wanted it. Too bad, boys!
• If it's really a show about women loving their bodies, and breaking out of that shell, shouldn't there be women of all shapes and sizes, from size 2-32 on the show? I mean, yeah the other shows all have waifs, but that doesn't mean this all had to have porkers. Can't we get some variety? Then put a blind man on there. So he can't tell their weights and have at it!!!!
• I've got a metabolic disorder. I have counted calories or been on one kind of "diet" plan since I was 16. I exercise every day. But I'm morbidly obese. Can't we at least see these girls eating their veggies? Can't we at least see them doing some physical activity? It's like they just lounge about eating appetizers all day! What is that about? I guess I realize a lot of fat people are just fat because they don't exercise enough and eat poorly, but still.... even when I'm not being super careful what I eat, I crave veggies. It's not just pizza and fries on my cheat days!!!!
• They all act like this will be their one and only chance to find love. I realize all reality dating shows do this, but it's pretty sad. "I got along without ya, before I met ya...I'm gonna get along without ya now!"

hg- I completely agree with it all!

As far as the size 14 goes, my only beef was that during the intro to the show, they have this blurb about how reality stars are typically a size 2 and the "average" woman is a size 14.  Seeing as how none of them looked small enough to be a size 14 (except maybe one or two), I failed to see how size 14 had anything to do with the premise of the show.

That guy is LAME and I wanted to punch all those girls for falling all over themselves to suck face with him.  Some of those women were incredibly beautiful and could have done SOOO much better!