More parent troubles...gah

I have been having a lot of different troubles lately.  On top of it, I feel like I'm just a hassle to take care of.  My parents are constantly passing stuff on to each other, like they are always asking me to ask the other to pay for my expenses, mainly food.

My dad called me today and he was like, how about you ask your mom to buy you the food on the grocery list? (she does buy me food when I stay at her house but when I'm at my dad's you would think him and my stepmom would be ok with getting me food, especially since they make A LOT more money)

The thing that bothers me most is that I don't even ask for anything special that they don't eat.  I just eat chicken, veggies, fruit...every day stuff.  It's not like I'm asking for all this special food they would never touch. 

They are able to blame the grocery list on ME though because they buy a bunch of food that they like and I don't, so there is only so much I eat.  THEN on top of it, they always eat out, at least once a day, leaving me and my stepbrother at home to eat.  So I guess when the groceries do get used it is mostly by me, but that's only because they constantly eat out.  They won't give me money for food but they give my brother $15 a week for food, plus buy him special items from the grocery store that no one else touches.  He doesn't have to ask his dad to buy him groceries, but I have to find another way to get mine? Doesn't make much sense huh?

Sorry just really needed to rant because I'm SO frustrated right now...with everything.  Now I feel bad eating in front of them, and don't want to eat at all.

i know what you mean, we just need to know we arent a burden. THEY chose to have us, &they knew full well what responsibilities come with having children. have you spoken to your parents concerning this problem?

have you tried talking to them about how unfair that is to you?

I have and I guess they don't realize that they are doing that, and they kind of won't consider what I'm saying enough to understand what I mean =\

Ah well, that's life!

Parents can be so stinkin annoying. I feel ya. Today my sister (a poor college student) had a car that broke down. My dad starts freaking out that he would have to pay for it. Then he goes on saying how much his kids are costing him. I was just thinking, 'Well so sorry that you chose to have us. Since we had so much to do with it.' So I know what you are talking about, and I am sorry. Nothing gets me in a worse mood than when my parents are being butts. You should try to talk to them about it though, or at least your mom.

that is so unfair! what the hell, food is a necessity!!! why dont you make them feel bad and tell them you dont want to come there anymore and you'll work something out with your mother? they didnt listen when you tried to be nice and reasonable!!!! so if im being a jerk but that makes me so mad i feel so bad for you!!!!!!!!! this isnt right

holy crap i can totally relate!

the other day i got ground turkey from the store to make meatballs. i froze them because i knew i wouldnt be making them right away. then two days ago i put them out on the counter to thaw. and apparently my stepdad thought i was telling him to make me something which is ridiculous since i havent eaten anything hes made in like two years. he always fries everything or covers in in butter.

so i go into the kitchen and notice that there are dirty pots and pans in the sink and one on the stove. and then i notice that the turkey is gone. i start to panic and quickly see what was in the pot on the stove and sure enough, i see chunks of turkey floating in vegetable oil.

but i dont tell him. if i confront him about anything, he'll tell my mom that i was making him feel uncomfortable. i just decided to let it go. but later that night he knocks on my door. he says "you really hurt my feelings. anytime i make food for you, you never eat it. you need to learn about respect"

and i think he told my mom about it because when she came home from work that night she barely said a word to me. luckily she's not one to hold a grudge.

UGH! why do they make it so difficult? and i cant say anything to him because ill make him "uncomfortable".

we need to form a cult or something...

let me tell you about my family ok well first off my family life is hell my dad and mom broke up like when i was 4(im 17 now) and well i see my dad every sunday for a few hours. I live with my mom liked you guess and well every1 in the house smokes except me and my brothers 1 year old son lol also everyone in my house except me(and the little one year old lol) drink and do drugs also. Now to my dads side. I have a feeling he does drugs also he also smokes and have a feeling he is drinking again after being off it from like 12 years(beer in his fridge could be gf though) and so does his girlfriend who is a total (female dog). Me and my dad get along quite well though not like me and my mom. My mom and I always are fighting and also my twin sister we fight sometimes to there is alot of arguing in my family. Also my brother moved back in like 3 months ago(hes 25) which was a total hell. He doesnt clean up after himself and i just want to tell him to get the hell out. Like comeon 25 and living with your mom how sad. I want to get out of this house as soon as possible and i will never fall into the bad stuff they fallen into. I will never smoke never do drugs and probraly never drink. I just dont want to turn out like them all. I want to go to college and make something of myself...not work at a deadend like my mom. My dad however works as a carpenter and makes alright cash i guess but im not good with my hands lol(i hated woodshop lol i kept measuring wood wrong).

 

Well i think thats the only reason i really got into exercising really becuase i didnt want to turn into anything like the rest of my family. THere is only three people i can say i totaly respect...my gramma...my aunt and well my dad somewhat.  

SO i guess i can thank my family for one thing for getting into shape and striving to be the best i can be which i will be

canadaleaf - that sounds unbearable. i have some friends whose parents are drug dealers and what not, and they say the same thing as you; that they would NEVER do drugs or alcohol.

so in a way i guess all our parents are doing a good job at showing us what not to do, by example.

im sorry to all who deal with things like this. it really sucks.