how do mothers and wifes do it

i dont know how i can loss weight when everyday i have to cook for my husband and he is so skinny and all he wants is unhealthy foods and he expects me to eat what he eat and as much as he eats and he doesnt like any thing that could help me lose weight he wont eat chicken, ham, turkey, or any kind of fish. i have no idea as to where i should start

Cook what u NEED to he will eat eventaully.  I am a wife and mother and we eat what I cook or we dont eat LOL

=)

 Good Luck

you must not have a husban like mine i wish i had one that would eat it or go hungery lol

I told my husband, I cook so if you dont like whats on the menu cook something yourself :)

I cook a chilli and other foods I can freeze on a sunday and make him portions that he can just take out of the freezer, or when we go shopping he picks up stuff like hot dogs and what not for himself. 

Or some nights he will eat the main dish and then i do him fries to go with it if i am having whole wheat pasta or something. He has to adjust to you and you need to adjust to him, its all about balance. :)

Maybe when you explain to him that you really need to do this for yourself and that it will make you healthier so you can enjoy being together with him longer?

It is a bit egoistic of him to expect you to eat what he eats, especially  him being skinny. 

im up to trying ant thing so i hope something works

       &nb sp;       oh i understand u- i want to make my husband happy so im not goin to force him to eat what i eat if he dont want it- i have just found some foods he like and i like and make both.

 i will make a whole baked chix- he eats dark meat and i like white and broccoli which i take more of and still give him some. then i make either sweet potatos which we both love- i just take the smaller one or some pasta which he loves and i take less of it. i find he will eat what i cook but sometimes smaller portions.  

 Also i will cook turkey burger for me and hb for him- also baked french fries/sweet pot fries!  mmm mmm

i have never thought of sweet potatoes as being good fries

gawd, if my husband was that picky he'd go hungry!

Beef isn't, in and of itself, unhealthy. It's what you DO with it.

I suggest that you let him know off the bat that you really need to cook healthfully for yourself. If he has any thoughts, let you know. You're giving him notice, though that.. the next time you go shopping, it's for healthy food choices. If you like, you can get him an alternate microwave meal.

And then follow through.

That is.. try to make him an ally, try to get him to work with you... if not, just cook what you need to cook. He'll deal with it. 

u know i dont see it always as being picky- i dont like some foods but i eat alot of diff things as does he i just improvise to make us both happy

Original Post by hkellick:

Beef isn't, in and of itself, unhealthy. It's what you DO with it.

I completely agree! 

besides sometimes by makin a couple diff things u will have extra for lunch the next day!!!

YEah, it can be hard. My husband will eat whatever I cook but then he brings out the snacks later on and it hard not to be a social snacker. But if your husband wants unhealthy/large portions there's two or three things you can do. You can make something he likes that's not terribly bad for you and serve him a much larger portion. You can make the food of his choice and modify it for yourself (diff. sides, fry his bake yours), or you can tell him that he needs to support your efforts and that if he doesn't like what you cook he can make his own darn dinner.

Original Post by undertherainbow:

There are plenty of recipes out there that are both healthy and delicious and I'm sure your husband wouldn't even notice!

I'm a man and there's a whole bunch of "manly" recipes that can be made healthier. For example, I LOVE Chili. Chili can be REALLY healthy if you make it with low-fat meat or turkey. I also love Stir Fry, which can be very healthy, especially if you make sure to have plenty of vegetables and some lower-fat meats. I even have recipes for a lower-fat Mac and Cheese!

You can totally cook and enjoy healthy meals that he'd like. 

 I cook what I want to eat and he eats that or doesn't eat.  If I'm fixing something that may not be as low in calories as I need, I always fix myself a big salad to go along with and then really cut back my portion on the main course.  I try not to eat any carbs with my evening meal too, even if I've fixed them.  We eat alot of green beans, so I'll eat double of those what Dh eats.

I cook for my three boys and cook my meal on the side.... which usually consists of tilapia/chicken with mixed veggies/brocolli

and then I pack up their lunches for the next day w/ the leftovers.....

my meals are quick to make and i dont fuss over them plus I see the results of eating this way... its great...

Making a salad is a great idea.... too like tkorte99 says...

About a year ago, I moved in with my boyfriend. He has two children. His diet is fairly has some variation, but not a whole lot. His children have the unhealthies diet of any children I have ever seen. It would shock you if you saw it.

I eat a variety of foods, and I love to cook. Bill will not try very many new things. He will not eat any veggies at all. His children maybe get one serving of veggies per month from all of the foods they eat combined. It's horrible.

At first I restricted my cooking to please his tastes. It is one of the reasons I have put on so much weight throughout this year, there are several other factors. I missed the veggies too much and didn't feel as well. I started cooking more foods for myself.

At times Bill would ask in a not so pleasant voice why I cooking those things. Or he'd ask who's that for. I got defensive at first and this caused a few problems. Finally I told him that I had a right to eat the way I wanted and needed. He didn't have to eat what I was cooking. Things are better now. I quit being preachy about a healthy diet and quit being defensive. He quit complaining and trying to guilt me into eating like him.

You need to clearly communicate your needs and desires with your husband. It may take a few weeks or even months for him to accept this new plan. He may feel threatened by the change. Family members often put up roadblocks when someone makes healthy changes in their lives, but it is that person's issue.

You have a right to take care of yourself.

You should really look into some good recipes. I myself HATE fish unless its cooked right.

Every single guy/person has always loved my roasted medly things I make. I take whatever meat, whatever veggies throw it all in a baking pan, season with some Mrs Dash. Salad on the side and maybe some mashed potatos. And in that medly you could put a beef and a chicken together. He can have the beef cut and you can eat the chicken. But its made all in the same dish.

Its so easy!

And you can zap a potato or two in the microwave for him. He can top that off with whatever he wants. (Cheese,bacos, etc)

You poor thing.  My husband would have to starve!  Luckily he is dieting with me, but my situation is similar because I have kids that need to eat too.  I usually make the main dish, and fix something unhealthy on the side (like mac and cheese, potatoes, etc) so that they don't feel deprived.  I also keep all kinds of snacks on hand that I would never touch.

It sounds like all he eats is beef and pork.  Grab some steaks, a roast etc, and cook it at the beginning of the week and he can eat that if he so desires!

I'm not married yet, but I will be soon.  My fiance and I cook two separate meals, sort of.  We'll cook a base meal.  For example, one night we'll boil chicken, rice, and vegetables.  He'll turn his into a lo mein dish with extra sauce and eggs and I'll turn mine into a stir-fry with a heck of a lot less seasoning.  We'll also make egg rolls, and he'll deep fry his while I'll bake mine.  It's a little extra work, but Alex likes to cook so he doesn't mind us doing this together.  It lets us spend time together and he learns how I like my food prepared while I learn how he likes his prepared.  Just in case one of us surprises the other with dinner and such.