How can you be motivated when your family make fun of you??

I'm 42 year-old and a mother of 4 children.Last year my weight was 298lbs and when I started my weight was 282lbs .There are times when I workout in the living room and one of my children would come in the room and see my exercising. They would laugh at me,then say"this won't last and you will stop in a week". There are times I feel they are right!!

is there a better reason than that to prove them wrong?  you can do this!  you have control over what you do!  i wish you luck!

I was in that boat last year at 315 lbs- 3 kids, the teenager just giggled- not giggling so much now, 80 lbs down, and almost in her jeans! (she's chunky too, we are working on her)- you can do this!  ALso keeping a mental chore list works too- fire these off when the kids come in the room- kids did you mow the lawn, get that laundry folded already, scoop the dog poop?  After doing this a few times, they will make themselves scarce when you are working out! hehehe 

Original Post by kawnd11:

I was in that boat last year at 315 lbs- 3 kids, the teenager just giggled- not giggling so much now, 80 lbs down, and almost in her jeans! (she's chunky too, we are working on her)- you can do this!  ALso keeping a mental chore list works too- fire these off when the kids come in the room- kids did you mow the lawn, get that laundry folded already, scoop the dog poop?  After doing this a few times, they will make themselves scarce when you are working out! hehehe 

 ha ha, i love that idea. keep em busy and out of your hair. or better yet, just say they are banned from the living room when you do your exercises, you need some time to yourself anyway. or say you're going to turn one of their rooms into you own personal gym with a door lock. and they have to share a room.  or try talking to them and tell em how that makes you feel, see if they respond.

As my teenage boy says "motivation and reward", motivation - him teasing me, we went for a walk and he was running in circles around me chanting "motivation and reward",  Reward - when I can catch him. 

He is seeing that after 3 months i am not giving up and has actually started to encourage me

Everyone has great ideas for handling this situation! But how do you handle the husband that makes fun of you while you are working out. He doesn't do it to be mean just thinks it is funny. I have recently joined curves and of course got the that will only last once or twice and on the nights I can't get to curves I try to exercise in our bedroom, but he always comes in to distract me and makes jokes. So any ideas on how to stop this I need someone to be supportive and want to help me on this journey not constantly belittle. My husband doesn't understand my feelings he has always been a small man no matter how much he eats never gains a pound. I have a son that is on the thicker side that worries me that he will grow up to be fat and I want to change the way that we eat and get more exercise. However, my husband doesn't think there is a problem and since he isn't fat he shouldn't have to participate. HELP!

Paulett good luck with your journey and continue to exercise no matter what. Remember this is for you and not for them.

Original Post by littlegirl1:

Everyone has great ideas for handling this situation! But how do you handle the husband that makes fun of you while you are working out. He doesn't do it to be mean just thinks it is funny. I have recently joined curves and of course got the that will only last once or twice and on the nights I can't get to curves I try to exercise in our bedroom, but he always comes in to distract me and makes jokes. So any ideas on how to stop this I need someone to be supportive and want to help me on this journey not constantly belittle. My husband doesn't understand my feelings he has always been a small man no matter how much he eats never gains a pound. I have a son that is on the thicker side that worries me that he will grow up to be fat and I want to change the way that we eat and get more exercise. However, my husband doesn't think there is a problem and since he isn't fat he shouldn't have to participate. HELP!

Paulett good luck with your journey and continue to exercise no matter what. Remember this is for you and not for them.

 First - Paulett...  there are great suggestions from the other posters.  Get your kids involved.  It's healthy for them, too.

Littlegirl - That IS mean.  I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark here and suggest that your husband is afraid that if you lose weight that you won't need him anymore and you will leave him high and dry.  I'm also guessing that you would never do that.  So...  I would have a chitty chat with him and tell him exactly how you feel - not being confrontational - and tell him that he will get more action in the bedroom when you are feeling healther, so encouragement would be greatly appreciated. 

Hang in there...

>>tell him he will get more action in the bedroom when you are feeling healther<<

this. mine never questions or comments anymore.

When he comes in wisecracking, stop what you are doing, look him in the eyes, and explain very clearly that you are serious about getting healthy, and he can either get on board or get out the room.

I have no patience for put downs, teasing or negativity!

Well, they are your kids.  Beat them.  : )

WHOA! If I had been disrespectful to my mother like that, I would have eaten dish soap! I can remember a time when my cousin (14) called his mom a Fat Cow, when she asked him to do his chores (this was a common occurence), and my mom was there and told him to apologize. He told my mom to F off, and I can still to this day 30yrs later remember him crying and blowing bubbles out his nose! My mom pinned him, and handed his mom the soap bottle. He NEVER talked his mother like that again.

I'm not saying squirt dish soap down their throats (although, it was quite funny) but if you LET them treat you like that, you're not doing anybody any favors...

As for a husband who isn't supportive... I can't even imagine... The only thing that I have heard since I started this was when we were out of town and I asked him to come for a run with me since I couldn't get on the elliptical. He looked at me and very calmly said "Hun, I love you, I'm glad you're feeling great about this lifestyle change that you've made, but the only time you'll ever see me run, is if someone is chasing me" then he called to my son- "Kieran! Come run with your mother!" It was actually really funny. He may not want to always participate in what I am doing, but he would NEVER belittle me.

The wisdom you gave me was very good.The thing about the husband is so right. They don't want you to lose all that weight. We had the talk about that I'm doing this for my health and if I don't try! My health will get worse(high blood pressure,bad back,knees hart,and I would like to live a little longer.)

When I started walking my oldest son called my and asked" is our car working because one of his friends saw me walking "? My reply was" that's what you call exercises". Now my two younger children like to fight a lot.We walked together a couple of times and they didn't make it easy for my but I won't give up. The baby of the family is over weight and I would like to get him involved with my for his health too. Thank you all:) We will win this battle!!!