Mum is nagging

Firstly I just want to state I’m not anorexic nor a recovering anorexic and for those of you who are may prefer not to read this (I’m fairly ignorant on anorexia so hope that didn’t offend anyone)

Ok... my mum keeps on saying I’m looking fat; especially in the face – despite me being around 10% body fat. I’m sure she isn’t trying to be mean and probably just worrying like all mothers do but I can’t understand why she says this and it is starting to grate a little. I have always been a bit insecure about my weight and strongly disliked being skinny so with a lot of hard work (I’m naturally skinny – genes) I have managed to put on about 40lbs and plan to put another 16lbs on.

Not sure what the point of this post was really other than to vent a little. What would make her think I look fat? I still think I look on the skinny side to be honest. Thanks.

well ignore your mom. have her read information from here...

http://life.familyeducation.com/weight/health /35880.html

your body fat is actually unhealthily low. do you get your period? how much do you weigh? how tall are you? do you count calories?

Sorry I'm a guy. 6'3" 180lbs. There isn't anything to worry about health wise but thanks for your conern - I was just ranting!

Yeah, you're definitely healthy. Maybe she's just saying it because she's used to seeing you so thin?

Sorry for the annoyance factor. >_< Blurgh.

Original Post by nakunaru:

Yeah, you're definitely healthy. Maybe she's just saying it because she's used to seeing you so thin?

Sorry for the annoyance factor. >_< Blurgh.

Yeah that could be it. Normally when she says it I ask her if she thinks Celeb A is fat; when she says no I tell her he is about two stone heavier than me and the same height - that normally puts a stop to it; until the next day at least!

Has your mom ever struggled with an eating disorder or low self-esteem?  Often those with these conditions have high standards for themselves, and sometimes others as well.  Her perceptions and ideas of what is healthy might be skewed.  

Have you ever asked her why she says your fat?  Also, if this is hurting you or bothering you, I really think you need to tell her how it makes you feel.  Constant criticism is never fun--besides, you're getting healthier!  You should be proud of yourself for gaining to a healthy weight.

No eating disorder; maybe low self esteem. I think she is just used to how I used to look and confuses fat with lean mass - she only really sees me fully clothed.

Do you live with your mother?...   In my experience they say all kinds of things, all the time.  Not because they're being deliberately nasty or personal but just for the sake of something to say.   "You've lost weight..", "you've gained weight"... "that hairstyle doesn't suit you".... "that jacket isn't very flattering"...  "you're looking peaky"... "are you eating properly?"    I think it's just nature's way of encouraging us to get a place of our own...

Yeah I really need to move out!

There you go then.  Problem solved.   And when you move out and you've had chance to put some clear blue water between you and your mother, you'll find that what you once thought of as 'nagging' and 'personal remarks' simply becomes the inane twitter of every mother on the planet.... mostly harmless.