Must parents always be so unfair?

Alright heres the deal. I'm a good kid. I'm not just saying it because thats what i want you to think... no, i really am. Everyone in this city who is my age wastes their lives away by drinking every night and getting involved in drugs and then grows up to continuously waste their life away here. Me on the other hand, never do either things because i care way too much about myself. Im proof that you can be popular without becoming a zombie. When i go out, i wont stay out til the wee hours of the morning. I have younger brothers and a sister that  i watch for my parents whenever they want to go out. I am on principal's list at school and have a 95% gpa. I plan to go to college to become a physicians assistant. I'm a junior in high school by the way. I have a job, i pay for my own things. I never ask for much but everytime i do .. it seems like the BIGGEST deal in the world. Ever since i was in 2nd grade i'd been asking if i could pleaseeee get a puppy. Seriously its all i want, i love dogs like crazy. I work AT a pet shop. Theres this little puppy corgi that i want more then ANYTHING, its my baby! And so i ask if i can get it and its like i just started world war 3. My step dad is the biggest asshole to walk the face of the earth. I wasn't going to be allowed to get my permit til i was 18 all because of a grudge he held against his own father. I only was allowed to get it now because HES sick of having to drive me to work and boxing everyday. I ask to get a dog and its like he wont even hear me out AT ALL.  I would take care of it, im not irresponsible. I do all these things to PROVE im responsible enough to handle it. Me and him have NEVER been on good terms, hes aware i dont like him. Hes been in my life since i was 5.. im 16 almost 17 now and still dont feel close to him. You would think to get my approval and to get me to start liking him he'd actually allow me to get the puppy. What gives!?

Maybe he doesn't like dogs. Maybe because it's his house and he pays the bills so he doesn't want a puppy recking the place - and they do for a while. Sadly, his house, his rules.

I don't mean to sound harsh but sometimes that's how it is.

I'm absolutely in love with Welsh Corgi's, Pembroke, omg so adorable.  I've wanted and begged for one since I was 15.  I'm 20, do I have my baby? No.

What I have learned is that it is selfish of me to put the burden of having a dog on everyone else.  Regardless of how responsible I am, things are going to happen revolving around the dog that I not only have no control over, but it will also stress out my family.

I know it feels like rejection of what you care about.  Sadly, like me, you're mostlikely going to need to wait until you move out and get a place of your own.  I know the misery of longing for that companionship, but it's so worth the wait, and that is why I'm no longer upset about it.

It doesn't hurt so much when you understand the "no", I wish my parents would have just EXPLAINED to me WHY.  So I didn't have to figure it out all on my own.

i know it does not seem fair that you are so responsible but he wont even discuss it. he really should have given you some good reasons so you did not feel like you are the only reason he is saying no. unfortunately for something like a puppy at this point in your life it has to be the right decision for other people as well.

what happens when you are at school for the next 4+ years? who makes sure that he does not pee all over, swollow something, or get lonely and bark.

and while you are at work? who works on his training so he grows up to be well behaved, who feeds him dinner.

and when you go to college? is he allowed in the dorms you might be required to stay in, or who is at home with him while you are at class.

i know you are responsible enough to do all these things while you are home, and i dont mean to be discouraging. while i do think that your step dad handled things poorly there is going to be alot of time in the next few years where you just CANT be home. because of that your family deffinately has a say in the matter. but as soon as you are independent you can get a puppy, and the extra time you will have then will make sure he grows up well behaved and gets plenty of attention.

I'm a mom and just to day I was telling my 17 yr old I want a puppy - she said me too let's go to the pound and get one.  I said no your dad will kill us and we don't have a fenced yard and its just not in the budget.  there is nothing more that I would love is a dog - but I know the work involved with those wonderful bundles of joy - sometimes they can be more work than a baby. 

Like the others have said - its something you are going to have to wait for until you are on your own. 

We used to have one though, when i was younger. We havent had one in like literally 7 years. It's not selfish with how much i do for him in return. He's the only one who says it's not okay. And he's never ever and i mean NEVER home to have to deal with anything anyway. It'd be my responsibility to begin with. And we have a big enough house n all, with a fenced in yard, and if uve never seen a corgi.. its a small ass dog, were not talking about me bringing beethoven into the home.

I have no sympathy for the man. He cheated on my mom, hes abusive to her and still thinks like he runs this place. If u ask me he shouldnt be here to begin with, let alone try and tell me what i can or can't have.

And even if i can't bring him to college with me. I have younger brothers and sisters who are only 8, who would never leave him lonely. They love animals just as much as me

maybe he would abuse the puppy...

wait until you can give a dog a forever and loving home!

Hmmm, I think I would let you have a puppy! You sure do sound very responsible to me! Plus, pets can teach you even more. Plus, they are so good for your health because of how happy they make you. I'm sure the whole family would fall in love with it. Oh well, I'm sorry. Just keep on doing what you're doing and you'll go far in life! You'll have something to look forward to when you're on your own. I LOVE my dogs SO MUCH. They're amazing. I was never allowed to have one when I was young either. Unfortunately some parents just CANNOT see from another's perspective. I must say that vet bills can be pricey. I was going to get another animal at one point and that's why I didn't.

I always wanted like a dozen dogs and a dozen cats....

*think* 101 dalamations!

:::nods:::

when you can provide a good home, you can choose a wonderful furbaby to bring home and train and play with... it will bring you joy & laffter and probably will train you to walk it morning, noon and night if you're up to it ;)

it's hard to wait, but it's really best to wait until you know you'll be able to keep it forever ~ and give it a loving home.

we had a neighbor who always kept their dog out in the yard and never let it in.  the poor thing was soooo starved for attention that it would throw itself on it's back at your feet so you would pet it...

:::tears:::  i don't know why they had it if they didn't want it. 

I know you want one, and it's clear that you'll love it when you are finally able to give one a home :)

I feel bad for you.  Your step-dad really does sound like an ass.  What does your Mom say about all this?  Does she have a say about anything or is he the boss over everything?

Hang in there........:)

((HUGS)))

I don't know what to say more than that.  It sounds like a bad situation, but I agree that if he really is such an a-hole, maybe having a dog around that he doesn't want wouldn't be good for the dog.  What if you weren't home one time and he mistreated it. I know you would feel bad.  You sound like a great young lady.  I know it sucks to have to hang on to "someday when you are on your own" but you will go far with those grades and your motivationlevel. Then when you get a place of your own, you can have 2 puppies and he can't say a damn thing about it!

Like it or not, it's your parent's house and they have the final say.  You're not looking at the long term consequences.

Here's a story

When I was a Junior in highschool, I begged for a cat and got one.  The following summer, my father was transferred to a new job in a new town and no pets were allowed in our rented house.  So I gave my cat to my aunt, who promptly put her outside. She ran away and we never saw her again.

Try to think ahead.

He has the say because of how he is o_O

my mom would let me, its just him.

I do think ahead. How many people do you know my age that have dogs? Practically everyone i know. Our house was fine with a dog before, i dont see the difference now? I understand about bills and what not but i have a ton of money saved from working for so long. I said i'd take care of it financially. I wouldn't want to bring a dog into a house that it wouldn't be cared for. My mom is a stay at home mom, shes here when im not and she wouldn't care if she had to watch it because she wants it too. The way people make it sound its as if you never leave your dogs side. People do go out and dogs do stay at home by themselves sometimes, its not a hugeee deal to be out of the house for an hour and leave the dog, its OKAY.

We will never move away from this place. My parents would never. All of our family is here and they've already made that clear. I mean it wouldn't be so bad if he wasn't soooo mean about it. Like even if i joke around about it or someone mentions anything about it, his response always sounds like its directed to make me feel like shit. Like these people just had corgi puppies that live by us. And i went to go visit (of course lol) and when i came back i just told him that they were so small and cute. His response was " you better enjoy it while ur there because thats the closest ull get to having one "

Why be such a dick? He knows its what ive wanted for years. Thats just like anybody here who is losing weight, working towards there goal and thinking there getting closer and then someone just randomly putting the weight back on you. Just throwing out an example most people relate to on here.

I had a stepdad like that. We hated each other from the get go. At the time I didn't understand but now I realize his idea of a cozy family did not include a child, just a wife. He resented me and took it out on me in all sorts of unfair ways. Mom wouldn't stand up to him so I was really stuck for a while.

You are really close to being old enough to get out from under his influence. Then you can make your own choices. I know how much it sucks though. Just stick it out.

im not trying to be mean, i mean no offense, just being honest!

ur 18 right? you have a job right?

move out...if you dont like his rules...move out already...you techinally are an adult, im surprised he hasnt kicked you out

if you arent financially able to live on your own and attend school, you arent financially able to care for a puppy and go to school and live on your own...or live in the dorms most of which do not allow pets...then what would you do?

his house, his rules, while they do suck, live with it and get over it

also, you keep saying your mature and blah blah, but your posts do really sound like a 5 year old throwing a temper tandrum over a piece of candy....just so ya know...

maybe you need to have a chat with your mother, but be aware shell prolly get pissed off at you for bringing up the issues with her marriage to this asshole cause she probably already knows...im alittle older than you and dont live at home, but my mom recently moved out of the house (finally)...so i understand...

You can't get a pet and leave for college and expect other people to take care of it. It's your parents house and it's their rules. If your step-dad says no, then deal with it. Move out and get your own place if you're so responsible. I'm a college grad, 22yrs old, have a full-time job and let me just tell you... it's hard to give a dog the kind of attention it needs and deserves... especially while you're still in college. My roommate had a puppy and she was working 40+ hours a week... I was working 48+ hours a week and was a full time college student... that dog got little to no attention and destroyed our house on a daily basis.

no im not 18, im 16 .. going to be 17 in june.  A temper tantrum? OH PLEASEEEE its just when i talk about him i dont have anything nice to say, therefore it makes me sound like a bitch when in reality im far from it. My mom knows me and him don't get along. But financially SHE can't afford to lose him because he does make quite alot of money and she has us kids to worry about.

And to those saying "move out if ur so responsible" please go and inform yourselves of how old you have to be to do so. Because believe me the day THAT I ACTUALLY TURN 18 will be the day im gone. I'm not in college and i won't be until after the year 2008. So chill the hell out, god damn. Take it easy. I'd take the dog with me it's not a huge issue to me. If i love something i'll take care of it, im like that with everything that i own.

I can't see a dog going down well in halls

Who says i'm going to have to dorm? Where i plan on going it's not required.

don't get your undies in a twist i was just saying