I need some advice

Hey everyone, here's my dilemma:

I'm a sophomore in college right now. I live in the dorms and this year like last year I was assigned a random roommate. I HATE living in the dorms. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't party. My idea of a fun Friday night is sitting in my room either by myself, with my family (ie brother and or sister) or some of my really close friends who aren't at school with me and watching TV, a movie, just hanging out, etc. So clearly, worlds collide when I want to do that and there's loud noise, drugs, drinking, and partying going on all around me. My roommate comes into my room at 3 in the morning and plays the stereo. He vomited all over the room last night because he was so drunk. Basically it's a disaster. In addition, my brother up until now lived near my school and could get me off campus with his car on the weekend. He just today moved back home, which means I now have no way of leaving campus.

To solve this problem, my dad has suggested that I move off campus into the very apartment/room that my brother was living in before he moved out. This would mean that I would commute to school (about 10 minutes), have my own room, have a car, etc.

Seems like the perfect scenario compared to what I'm living with now. However, here's the problem. If I move off campus this year as a sophomore, I basically then have ZERO chance of getting an ON CAMPUS SINGLE room next year. As of now, I am told that my chances of getting a single room next year are about 30%, but if I move off campus now, I basically forfeit that right and would have no chance.

So basically my question is this. Given that I hate living in the dorm so much and hate my roommate, should I bite the bullet and move off campus? Or should I try as best I can to stick it out the rest of this entire year on the chance that next year I'll get a single room on campus? Any advice?

bite the bullet and move off campus. i was told the same thing but a single room never came open. So I ended up renting a studio apartment and commuting 40 minutes all-together there and back and it was so worth the peace and quiet

Get out of there. I had the same problem for a semester I went to William Paterson in Wayne, NJ via the National Student Exchange and had a horrible roommate whom I didn't get along with. She was drunk from Thursday-Sunday and extremely rude, it ruined a lot of my time there so much so that I came home a semester early (I was supposed to be there for 2 semesters).

But college is an amazing time and it shouldn't be ruined by a Sh*tty roommate. Move off campus and stay off campus, most people move off campus after their sophomore year anyway. Why is it that you want to live on campus so bad?

30% doesn't sound like much of a real chance to me.  How important is it to you to be on campus?  I mean, assuming cost isn't a terribly big issue, 10 minutes isn't much of a commute. 

How's the parking situation at your school?  There was, is, no parking at the UW, so you paid a premium to have a chance at having a parking spot.  I took the bus when I was going there,  From what I heard from the people I knew who had cars, driving to school was sometimes more trouble than it was worth.

With all that being said, personally, I'd move.  You're paying a good piece of money to go to school, and you're not doing yourself or your schoolwork any favors by putting up with that garbage.  I currently commute about 30-45 minutes to school and it's worth every minute just getting a little distance from the nuts I go to school with for a bit.

Also if you wait and you don't get a single, what then?  I don't suppose this apartment is just going to be vacant until you move in, right?  If you wait you could find yourself in a worse position (commute wise).

 I  also have issues about my stuff, so the idea of living with a random stranger is all kinds of wrong to me.

Is there any way to switch rooms? If not, then move off campus. The best thing I ever did was live w/o roommates! It's been great ever since.

I must admit, my situation was reversed. I was the one who partied while my roommate was quiet. But I always tried to be respectful of her adn definitely never puked! That is just disgusting!

I agree with everyone above. A rotten roomate can ruin your college experience (including your studies), so get out of there!!!

Even if you do get a private room, you'll still be surrounded by a bunch of people who are partying.  Personally I'd rather live near adult people who work and are a bit more responsible.  10 minutes is nothing, you could probably even ride a bike to and from your classes.  Just having the peace and quiet available should help you tremendously.

I moved off campus in my second year of university and would never ever move back. Not only do you get to choose your roommate (I live with my boyfriend) but you get your own bathroom, get to cook your own meals, and when someone across the hall or across the street commits a noise violation (loud noises after 11pm here) you just report it to the police

I currently have a 20 minute walk to campus, which is great for making me exercise a bit. Not to mention we're paying less for a 2 bedroom apartment than a shared room in residence costs.

If you do decide to stay on campus, you should complain and try to get a different room/roommate.

My son had this same problem when he was in his freshman year at OSU. He ended up taking the problems with the drunk roommate to the roommate relations board for his dorm. He had to do this a number of times. The roommate would get warned and then nothing would happen.

I think you should just move out. You don't have a very big chance of getting a single room next year, so I wouldn't subject myself to a whole year of hell in the off chance of getting a single next year. In addition as one of the posters above suggested, you may have a single room, but you'll still be in a dorm with partiers all around you.

move, cuz 30% isn't good odds.  if you'd said 75% or 80% i would have said stay, but for a 1 in 3 chance, no.  u could also try talking to your roomie about, or set up some kind of deal (one week ur way, one way his and alternate) that way u can saty with friends who have appartments on those weeks of it really bothers u...  but i think the easiest would be to move.  u might have to get up a little earlier for class and it migth cost a bit more, but peace of mind is worth it!

I'd move out.

I was able to get a private dorm room my second semester so I did that for a total of 3 semesters... then I just moved off campus. I shared a house with 6 other psych majors and then eventually went to having one other roommate. I was about a 5 minute drive from campus plus the time to get a parking spot. It was well worth it to live off campus. Plus, where I went to school it was MUCH cheaper to rent an apartment (even alone) than to pay the costs for room and board on campus so that helps if you're paying for school yourself.

I agree with all the others - MOVE!!

Why sacrifice your own peace and serenity for a 30% chance of getting a single? I moved off campus and loved it so much more than living on. You won't miss any events, you can still roll out of bed and go to class (albeit having to drive a little bit) and you have control over your life, who is around you, and what happens. Plus, you have a sense of responsibility and it teaches you more about the real world than ever living on campus would.

You lived on campus - which I think everyone should their first year - but now it's time to decide how you want to live your life and how you want your college years to go. Do you want to end up hating the next 8 months because of your roommate? Do you want to chance getting a single and then not and end up having to live with someone you can't stand - again?

But, all that aside, you need to look at reality as well. Will you be able to afford living off? Do you have the transportation (yourself, car, bus, whatever) to get you to and from class? Will you have to work to live off? Can you work and still go to class and succeed?

I'd move off for sure, just make sure you are able to do it financially. Good luck!

MOVE OFF CAMPUS!! I lived in the Dorms at my first two bases and HATED IT!! I liked being closed to my friends, hated having to yell at people to turn the music down I gotta be at work at 0300!

It's a great experience to have the responsibility to take care of yourself. Eye opening and a bit terrifying at times, but exhilarating!! The only thing I would suggest is to save as much money as you can right now. Expenses can arise at a moments notice. I'd try to have at least enough money to cover two months worth of  rent/bills before you move, just in case.

If it's only a ten minute car ride, then I'd get a really good bike until you can get a car and insurance. Or a moped.

If you are set with staying on campus, talk to Residence Life (or the equivalent thereof) and see if you can move.  Often, spaces will open up at the semester break.  Tell them your complaints, that you are not getting along well with your roommate, that your schedules are incompatible, and that you would like to move into a single (if possible) or if there would be a more compatible area of campus. 

Most Housing/Res Life departments worth their salt will try to place you in a different room and keep you on campus.  They might have other alternatives. 

My sophomore year, I was able to transfer rooms between fall and spring semester, and I was much happier for it! 

I'd talk to whoever is in-charge first with a complaint. Tell them what's going on and that it's unbearable. That you seriously can't function while living under these conditions. Explain the situation that you have with your roommate to them.  As well as that if they can't do anything that you're going to have to move off campus.  ( They may be able to help you asap. ) If not, move! Ten minute isn't bad. You may be able to bike or even jog it.

Thanks for the advice everyone. If it was up to me, then I would have moved off already. However, my mother seems to think that it would be more dangerous for me to drive to and from school than it would be for me to continue living in the dorms with drugs and alcohol. Go figure. In addition, Housing was completely uncooperative and claims that there are no vacancies on campus. So i'm stuck for now. 

Too dangerous to drive 10 minutes to school? Seriously? Time to cut the chord, madre.