need to cry :-(

hi all well i had to stop my diet for a week or so cos i was unwell and im so scared to step on the scales incase ive put loads on  i was so depressed at one point i had a binge eat and now i feel so down and fed up like im back to the start again and i just dont know how to pick up and carry on

i just feel like haing a good cry :-(

Awww...cry if you want to but the one thing that I have learned on here is:  just go back to your diet and carry on.  It is not the end of the world if you fell off the wagon.  It is not the end of the world if you gained a pound or two. 

Realistically you probably did not gain much weight, if any at all.  Even if you did gain the worst thing you can do is wallow in self pity.  Self pity will not get the job done!!!  Just stand up and say -" wow that was a bad week an I am glad it is over!"

You can do this!!  You really can - but only if you believe in yourself!

after you have a good cry, think this:  "today is the first day of the rest of my life".. and then make it so :)

huggs:)

I am with you, but in a different way. I have been trying to change my eating habits and live a healthier lifestyle since December-ish I think, and I have been doing really well. I go to the gym almost every morning before work, I kickbox 3 night a week and I run weekends now that it's finally warming up.

Every other week we weigh in with the team I am on for kickboxing and even though I have done nothing unusual or different and have been very good food wise all I have done is gained weight! I am now up about 4 lbs from my starting weight and it has to be the most frustrating feeling in the world.

So this week I have been bad, and binging because I felt if all hope is lost anyways... might as well!

I know that it all takes time and everyone says to keep trucking along and good things will happen, but I definitely understand what it is like to just want to quit and cry. But alas, I am back on my healthy living, went to the gym this morning and am going to kickbox tonight, I guess, even with a weight gain eating healthy and living well is still what matters most...

But I am sure you and I both will find our way and lose those pounds and be just fine on the other end :-) best of luck! sorry to write a short novel...

For those of us who have been making bad choices for so many years, and who have found comfort in food, these relapses are pretty common.  It's a real test of your will-power.

I wish I could tell you the trick to being able to make 'good choices' every day, but my coping mechanism might be different then others'.  If it helps, take a look at the before and after pictures in my gallery and know that over the past three years I had several occasions such as yours where I had downfalls and felt I couldn't carry on.  But I did, and look where it got me!!!  :-)

I'm still trying to lose 30-40 more pounds, and I imagine I'll have a few more pitfalls along the way, but I plan to perservere, because being fit and healthy is so much more wonderful then the alternative!

Okay... one of my little 'tricks' that helps me overcome temptation and beinges; if I'm craving something that's fattening, such as a Big Mac and fries with a chocolate shake, I'll hold up one hand like I'm weighing something and tell myself 'yummy fast food for a quick fix,' and I'll hold up my other hand and tell myself 'slender me who can wear normal-sized clothes and walk around with confidence.'  Then I'll weigh the two back and forth as I visualize each.  Maybe silly, but it works for me.  I put the common sense side of my brain at work against the side of my brain that wants instant gratification.

Long story short.... you're okay!  Have your cry and then just make better choices from here on out.  Beating yourself up is the worse thing you can do!

kaufmkk, sometimes I go into your gallery when I need a pick-me-up, you are really a great inspiration to me and many others I am sure.

I battle with emotional eating every day, not to mention immediate-gratification issues. I was winning for a long time, but feel like I have been losing lately. It does take a great deal of willpower. I also used to use the trick of telling myself I could eat it tomorrow if I still wanted it....that used to work pretty good, most of the time, but now...yikes.

Go ahead and cry. Sometimes that helps too. Then pick youself up, dust yourself off, and find comfort in something else besides food. (I am trying to tell myself this more than you!)

And...I feel like crying too. Just hope I can hold off until I get home :)

Thankyou all for your nice comments im sure ill be fine its just so hard getting through this and its easy to forget why i am doing it

Ive not been on here long and dont really have many people i chat to about how things are going and stuff so maybe i need a couple more buddies

Poor girl. I'm sending you a cyber hug. Sometimes all we can do is have the cry and then pick up the pieces and move forward. I hope you feel better soon!

Original Post by victoriagirl:

kaufmkk, sometimes I go into your gallery when I need a pick-me-up, you are really a great inspiration to me and many others I am sure.

I battle with emotional eating every day, not to mention immediate-gratification issues. I was winning for a long time, but feel like I have been losing lately. It does take a great deal of willpower. I also used to use the trick of telling myself I could eat it tomorrow if I still wanted it....that used to work pretty good, most of the time, but now...yikes.

Go ahead and cry. Sometimes that helps too. Then pick youself up, dust yourself off, and find comfort in something else besides food. (I am trying to tell myself this more than you!)

Thank you, victoriagirl.  I never thought I'd ever be one of those 'before and after' inspirations, but alas, here I am! 

I don't know if it helps, but for me the emotional eating eventually became easier.  I suffer from depression and anxiety and went on Lexapro for a while last year when I was battling cancer.  I thought it might also help with my emotional eating, but I still had those urges.  Sure, I wasn't feeling depressed, but I found that my wanting to eat to fill some kind of void had become a habit and was still there.  "Eat chocolate, feel better!"

I also learned that I can't bring something I love that's not exacatly a healthy food option (a giant sized bag of Peanut M&M's, for example) into my house.  If it's there, I'll eat it because it gives me this odd sense of well-being, at least until I've finished off the entire bag and then I'm just disgusted with myself and feel sick!  Sound familiar?

If I walk past it in the store, I use that scenario I used earlier and can talk myself out of it.  If, for some reason, it's in my house, I lose that self-control.  Plus I have the added thought process that I'm alone where no one can see me overeating so let's tear open that bag of M&Ms and go at it!

Part of my weight loss success has been that I live alone so I don't have to worry about having treats in the house for others.  When I buy groceries, I can be really strict with myself.  And yes, there are still days where it's hard to walk past the pastries and deli.  Just one cinnamon roll?  Surely it won't hurt?  Yeah, but for me, I can't buy just one, I'll buy two or three.  I'M WEAK!!!!  So I stop, take a deep breath, look at the treats with my mouth watering, and then that that little voice in my head tells me to get my butt out of there! 

Why do there have to be so many temptations in such easy reach?  And why do some of us find it hard to resist, while others have no urge to overindulge?  Grrrrr......  !!!!!!

I think it does make it harder that i have a son who is 4 and a partner who is a power lifter and eats soooo much food we ahve stuff in the house also my partner is always saying oh go on 1 wont hurt you lol

One wont hurt you, but it definately doesn't help your cause either. Have you tried explaining to him how hard you're working and how much these means to you? And how great his support would help motivate you?

It might not work for you, but I find reading the ingredients lists of many comfort foods to be a big deterrent.... Especially as you being to move down the list towards those unpronounceable chemicals. Think about actually ingesting just those ingredients alone... kind of unappetizing in my mind.  (Or perhaps look into some of Paul McKenna's theories/tricks? I recommend trying some of them, they certainly helped me :3)

Let me just pull out the nerd card here though and quote Batman Begins.

Why do we fall?  So we can learn to pick ourselves up.